My step-son has adhd, and sensory integration dysfunction, we beleive there are other issues at hand and his therapist is working with him, I want to make it clear we are getting him help for his issues and we do medicate for the ADHD, his father made that choice and I basically have no say in the matter. ALL that said.. ;-) here is my issue... i have always had a lot of patience for this little boy(6) more than his father and certainly more than his real mom who never sees him. He chose to call me Mommy which meant a lot cuz i feel like i earned it from taking good care of him and making him feel loved.... but.. since i've been pregnant, my patience for some of his antics has almost vanished! I get very frustrated with him when he cries and refuses to get ready for school, he won't get dressed, brush teeth, he won't put on and tie his own shoes even though he can, i refuse to give him a bath cuz he freaks out when you wash his hair and i have fallen from trying to hold him still to not hurt himself, but these and other behavoirs are things he has always done and will continue to do in the future, I am just not dealing with it well at all now. I find myself yelling(i am not usually a yelling kind of mom) and getting extremely upset... i tried asking his dad for help but he just tells me "i don't know what you want me to do i'm at work in the morning" he is a good dad and loves his son, but WTF?! I know some of it is the sicker i have gotten (i am losing weight instead of gaining) and the bigger i have gotten, it is harder for me to do these things for my step son so thats frustrating me, and im worried what i will do when the new baby comes and i can't "baby" him anymore by dressing him and so on... it is only the 1st week of school and we have been lately once already because of him refusing to get ready and i have to wrestle him to get shoes on ect. ,... what can i do to help him do these things for himself, get more support from his dad and calm down my temper with him? I'm getting so tired of the stress of feeling like this all the time and i know it can't be good for my step son,,,i could really use some advice here,, thanks.
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