No pull up potty training....help me!?

Question

HELP...its only been two days since I took away my 2 1/2 year old daughter's diapers and Im losing hope!....I decided not to use pull ups because they are expensive and frankly are just like diapers...so I have been putting plain panties on her all day for 2 days..she hasn't even ONCE gone on the potty! she is just going in the panties....I don't get it....she refuses to sit on the potty when I ask her to, even if I try and make it fun by reading to her or promising her a treat afterwards.....whats going on here?.....is it just oing to take time or do I have to try some other way here?....help!

Answer 1

Shes not ready yet!

Answer 2

You can't expect miracles here.  Just taking something away suddenly often doesn't work because the child might not understand what the reason is for this.  Try alternating the diapers with the panties and little by little use the diapers less and the panties more.  Little children don't adjust to things quickly.  They need time to learn and absorb what's going on in their world.  The world of a 2 1/2 year old is vastly different from the world of an adult.

Answer 3

Then she's not ready to train...she can't train until she's ready to sit on the potty. Have you tried a potty chair? If that's what's not working, get an attachment for your toilet and a step stool for her. Give her both options and they both freak her out, she's not ready to train.

Answer 4

My pediatrician told me my 3 year old probably wasn't ready to potty train. Maybe she isn't quite ready yet? But I am still trying by doing the panty thing too (as a suggestion from others on Answers). She did go to the potty once already on the potty and once in her panties. So, it's going to take some time.... Good luck to you and I feel ya!

Answer 5

My son was the same way!  We are in the middle of potty training him.  He is 2 1/2, I tried pull ups, and he refuses to go to the bathroom when he wears them, refuses underwear, but I put him in a diaper, he takes it off and goes to the bathroom all day!!  I dont have an answer why to your question, because I am just as confused as you are...But, maybe try pull ups, and just remind her every hour to go to the bathroom.  I think maybe their diapers are some sort of comfort to them.  I just learned that you have to do it when their ready..and not rush things.  Good Luck!!

Answer 6

You need to figure out i she is actually ready. Some signs of this are

being able to stay dry for two hours (without someone putting her on a toilet when they think she might have to go)

being able to pull up her pants and underwear by herself

WANTING to go. (for some cases with older children in their late three's and up this is different and usually caused by lazyness)

Has she gone on the potty or had any interest before you put her in underwear, or did you just put her in them?

Sometimes it just takes some children longer to understand what the feeling of being wet is and she might need a few more days. If after a few more days of underwear nothing changes, you should put her back in diapers until she is ready. Also, when she has accidents have her change herself so she'll learn that if she has one, she needs to take responsibility for it.

Its a waste of time to try to potty train a child if they are not ready. It will also make them feel shame when they have accidents  that they cant even control.

Good luck with this and remember, it just takes patience, your child isnt going to spend their life in diapers. She'll learn when she's ready.

Answer 7

Make her help you clean up her messes.  Do not go back to diapers.  My son is 21 months he is potty trained.  Just don't go back.  Also, does she go to the bathroom at the same time everyday if so set her on her potty like a few mins before and then clap and make up a potty dance for a good job.  Just lots of praise!

Answer 8

Don't let anybody tell you she is not ready yet.  She is ready!! check out threedaypottytraining.com. I used it and it worked like a DREAM!!! You are on the right track about not using pull ups and puttig panties on her.  Check out the web site I suggested.  It' WORTH THE MONEY!!  Trust me!

Answer 9

my niece and nephew both were allowed to wear NO underpants/diapers (when at home) during potty training time.  come to think of it, i remember two other parents whose kids did it this way until they got the hang of it.  as long as she realizes that pee is coming ("PEE COMING!" was the warning call from little Chris that let us know to get out of his way cuz he had to get to the potty.)  and the potty is the right place for it to go, this could work for your daughter,too.  like the others said though if she's not ready yet, she's not ready yet.  give it a little while but keep the potty chair available and ask her if she wants to try sitting on it whenever you are in the bathroom with her bathing, dressing, brushing teeth, getting ready for bed, etc.

Answer 10

she might not be ready, and forget it if you are turning into a power struggle

try when she is ready

Answer 11

ok, I have been thru the potty training thing twice now, 2 totally different experiences! my first child, it was easy, no pull-ups, just undies, and me reminding her every ten minutes to use the potty if she had to go! 2nd child, Ugh.......she refused to use the potty, and would just go in her undies! So I bought the pull-ups...the COOL ALERT ones, the first few times she went to the bathroom in them...she freaked! They get cold and she didn't like how it felt so before long....she was running to the potty!

Answer 12

Just let your daughter learn when she's ready. She will be trained by the time she's three. Don't force it!

Answer 13

Hang in there!  It takes time.