No relationship with my drug addict mother?

Question

Mother has been a loser/drug addict my whole life. I have recently distanced myself from her and am doing well (I've never messed with drugs) but I feel really guilty and I think I have driven her to use drugs again, by not being by her side...or at least in close contact with her.

I just can't, I don't want to be the one that gets the phone call in the middle of the night telling me my mother is dead.

What can I do? Should I completely cut off the relationship or what?

Answer 1

don't feel bad, I had no relationship with my alcoholic parents. they were abusive & i was force by my mom 2 ALWAYS stay in my room. they reaped what they sowed. they never got 2 c their grandkids after what they did 2 their own kids.

Gal 6:7  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

they sowed abuse & they reaped abandonment.

Best Wishes and God Bless you

Answer 2

my own mother is a drug addict and she is a major alcoholic

i think its better to cut yourself off from your mom

that's what i had to finally cut her off

it will be hard i know that's true but it will make your life a bit easier

if you need someone to talk to you can email me at [e-mail]

Answer 3

You need a Familiy instructor

Answer 4

Hi Gigi,

I typed in "my mothers a drug addict" and your question came up.

Looks like we have a very similar situation. Yesterday was my Daughters 7th B-Day party and because I love my Mom and feel guilty I invited her to come. Well needless to say she embarrassed us beyond belief. I wish I had some advice for you, but I dont know what to do myself. Its to hard to dis own your Mother, but very stressfull to be around her. I also know that her addiction will be the reason I get that terrible call saying shes dead. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me, it would be nice to talk to someone who understands.

I wish you all the best!

Answer 5

She should love you enough to give up the drugs.  I would give up all of it for my kid's.

Pray, and meditate.  Think of whats in your heart.

Follow your heart, and if that does not work for a few years, give up on her.

Answer 6

just dont follow her footsteps !

try and make her understand that u love her and that ya want to help her

Answer 7

call FRANK and childline they will give advice on what to do.

the number for FRANK is 0800 77 66 00, and childlines number is 0800 1111

good luck!!!!

Answer 8

don't blame your self 4 her lack of self control, keep doin what u know is best. moving forward stops if u look back.

Answer 9

Addicts have to overcome their own addictions, do their own recovery..there needs not be any guilt from family members..an addict is totally responsible for themselves..one could look up community support groups for dealing with a family member who is an addict

Answer 10

something ive learnt from having a brother who is a drug addict is that only they are responsible for the choices they make, not us.

  your mum has a serious problem that only she can change, no matter how hard we try we cant help.

the only thing you can do is tell her you love her very much but that you will not let her addiction rule and ruin your life too.

  good luck hun and remember her addiction is not your fault or your responsibility, learn from her and keep well away from addictions.

Answer 11

tell her that you want her to be part of your life but you don't want to see her being slowly destroyed by the effects of drugs and ask her if she will join a program to get clean