No s*x in 2.5 years and married for 3.5 years?

Question

Me and my wife have not had s*x in 2 years 5 months and 3 weeks. It started off with that then the makeout sessions became shorter and shorter till only short kisses and pecks reamined. I am able to touch her b*****s but not her genital area. She pushes me away. I cuddle her, but she doesn't really cuddle me anymore. She has no labido whatsoever, and won't even lay naked with me anymore. Everytime I try to even get a little bit physical she automatically thinks I'm trying to have s*x with her and puts a stop to it right away. I know I'm very attractive and I know she is very much in love with me, but what the h**l is going on? I know it's not me because she doesn't even m********e. Oh... and she used to like touching me but I wasn't aloud to recipricate but now she won't even do that. I love this woman very much and would never leave her over something as silly as s*x. But now I'm lacking affection. PLEASE HELP!

PS she won't see a therapist we're lesbians She's 22, not cheating!

Answer 1

We are not really the ones you should be asking, if she won't see a therapist I don't know what I would do in your shoes.   Is it possible she's rethinking her sexuality?

Answer 2

She may have depression, as a loss of libido is a common side effect.  It's also a side affect of some anti-depressants, like Zoloft, but not Wellbutrin, so if she does get prescribed something, the doctor should keep that in mind. I agree with everyone who says talk to her about how you feel, and do so as kindly as possible.  The two of you may need to work on confiding in each other more to strengthen your emotional feelings of intimacy, which will make her feel appreciated more.

My ex-husband had a female friend that he confided in, and after awhile he told her more about his feelings than he did with me, and when I would try to tell him about my day at work, he would just complain that it was boring because he didn't know any of those people, even though I always listened to him do the same.  I felt that he was less interested in me as a person, we became distant, and it caused a lack of affection because I felt like all he cared about was s*x, not me as a person.  Also, the tv was on until late at night, so by the time we went to bed, I was too tired for anything but sleep.  Definitely talk to her.