Noisy neighbours wake my baby up?

Question

our upstairs neightbours are so loud during the day they wake my baby up. they slam doors (never shut them) and walk around on their wooded floor (it used to be carpet and there was never a problem) like they really mean it. my baby just woke up from it and he does this occassionally.

they are young professionals and i don't think they realise the noise they're actually making.

the thing that's bothering me is that we are noisy at times too. the baby will scream (he's very loud) in the middle of the night sometimes and we've just sleep trained him, so it's been very loud down here. but now he's finally sleeping properly and everyone's happy, except this noise.

how do i handle this nicely? what do i say?

i'm posting this in the baby section as i know you guys know how loud babies become and that sometimes there isn't much else to do but to let them cry.

Answer 1

you knew they made all that noise before you had a baby! They were there first, and thats the way they probably see it.

Explain nicely, or offer to pay for them some thicker carpets/underlay.

What if they came to you and said your baby's screaming was keeping them awake?

Answer 2

Ask them politely if they would mind been a little more considerate, if that doesn't work i know a excellent sniper, very reasonable rates.

Answer 3

just explain u realise baby's are noiy but during the day the baby needs it sleep if they dont mind just please steping gently and keeping the noise down so he/she can sleep good luck

Answer 4

Aww this situation sucks. You're right, they probably don't know how much noise they're making. Hopefully! Well, you'll have to be nice about this, incase they do retaliate and say your baby makes a lot of noise.

Maybe you should call up to see them, bring some kind of peace offering, such as a cake, and ask would they like a piece with a cup of tea and a quick chat. Gently bring it up that now they have a wooden floor it's quite noisy, and while you realise how noisy your babs can be, it's the fact they're being noisy that wakes him up and starts his crying. Suggest they don't slam their doors if they can help it.

Unfortunately we can't predict their reaction. If they're decent they will try to be quieter. If they remain noisy, there's not much you can do unless it's excessive noise after a certain time when you can report them.

Good luck, I hope you resolve this.

Answer 5

You should check your lease first to see if they are allowed to have a wooden floor.

My downstairs neighbour was very noisy when my baby was born.  I knocked on his door when I had just woken up, I think my face scared the life out of him!!  I asked him to come to my flat to hear what I could hear and then he got it.  Ask one of your neighbours to come in while the other is milling about upstairs.  Explain that they probably don't realise how noisy it is.  Talk to them - good luck x

Answer 6

to be honest its better to let your child get used to the noise

Answer 7

tell them to be quiet or file a report!

Answer 8

you can't stop a baby from crying, but they CAN stop their noise. talk to the landlord.

Answer 9

You will get nowhere unless you approach them directly.  Explain the problem in a polite and friendly manner, acknowledging that you can be noisy at times.  Like you say they probably don't know how much they are bothering you.  Wooden floors are a curse in flats!!

Answer 10

Let your child get used to the noise...

I bet they were wondering how to approach you when your baby was noisy and they were trying to sleep or relax.

I think you just have to explain that the floors aren't as thick as you would expect and to keep the nose down a little bit please..no need to get into fisty cuffs just be civil and mature x

But i do understand what you mean regarding noise etc..I'm going through the exact thing with my next door neighbour.

She dumps her kids on anyone she can so she can go out on the razzle and comes home at like 4am making noise for my kids.

Funny thing is she's never done a day's work in her life and doesn't realise we are a professional self employed couple who work from home mainly.

Good luck x

Answer 11

I don't think you should say anything. It is their right to be loud as long it is not over any kind of ordinance. It is an inconvienance, but it is still thier right. You might try asking nicely if they would care to keep it down, but it would still be as a courtesy.

Answer 12

The first thing to do is to talk to them and explain the situation (not forgetting to apologise for your baby first).  Also, remember that your baby may be quiet most of the time now, but how long before that changes - chances are they'll be knocking on your door before long.

Answer 13

Perhaps their attitude is your baby kept them awake so they are going to keep him awake!!

If this is the reason they are extremely childish.

Unfortunately you can't always stop a baby crying, but they can certainly stop stamping around.

Ask them politely to be a little more considerate, if that doesn't work speak to your Landlord

Answer 14

Ooh, that's a tough one! The first thing I thought of was that in the apartments I lived in, you had to have a certain percentage of your wood floors covered with area rugs. Check your lease - is that the case? If so you may be able to get the leasing office to help you with making your neighbors put the rugs back.

As far as the other noise goes - what if you approached them in this way, "hey, neighbor, I just wanted to apologize if our baby's woken you up at night... I know things have been louder than usual lately. We were sleep training him, and letting him cry a bit is part of the process. He seems to have settled into a great sleep pattern now, so it worked! He sleeps soundly, but unfortunately, loud noises wake him up pretty easily, as I'm sure it does for most people. Could I ask you to be careful about letting your door slam when you come and go? Sometimes it's tough to get him back to sleep when he's startled awake like that - and we all sleep better when he's sleeping soundly! Thanks!"

That way you're acknowledging the fact that your baby might have kept them up at night, letting them know that the worst of that should be past, and asking them to do their part to be considerate too..

Good luck!

Answer 15

Tell them to stop making noise... If they dont, just tell me...

Answer 16

Report it to who ever is incharge

Answer 17

no offense but they prob get annouyed with the babies screaming! its give and take sorry but i have to say deal with it basically you make noise so do they just suck it up and get over it, i deal with my neighbours parties they deal with mine its a neutral agreement if your going to go get huffy at them for waking your baby they could bite back and go on about your noise,

pesonally id rather hear the occasional door slamming and thumping then a screaming baby in the middle of the night!

Answer 18

maybe you should have a talk with your neighbors nicely,maybe they dont realize the noise that they are making,if they are nice neighbors they should understand you..good luck