Non biological Father on Birth Certificate?

Question

My Ex-Girlfriend Cheated on me continuously during the time we where together. She got pregnant and I decided at the young age of 21 to help her out. I thought I was in love with her and signed as the Father of this child thinking there may be a chance it could be mine. over the four years we where together after the birth, I convinced my self it wasn't mine because of her comments. We separated and I was willing to continue being the father, no questions asked. But she began to make my life miserable once I met my Wife (of today) , my ex- demanded child support and parental visits only when she said it was OK. I stopped visiting the child till I get this resolved, I may be right or wrong, but what can I do at this point. do I get a blood test? It sounds like she's willing to sign paper work that will void all parental rights for me. any suggestions...

Answer 1

talk with your pastor

Answer 2

yes, i think so. if blood test is positive, go for a DNA study to make sure that u are his father!

at least even if u like to continue adopting him anyway, u will grow him up completely satisfied & convinced that he is your child.

u may also have kids from your current wife

Answer 3

As "father on record" you have to pay child support period.  If you don't believe you are the biological father of this child then you have to get a lawyer go to court and subpoena a DNA test from the child.  It can be expensive but that is the only way to prove that you are not the father of this child.  If you go to sign papers voiding your parental rights keep this in mind.  Some states do not abolish a man's responsibility to support his children even if he has signed away all parental rights.  Some state require the man to continue to pay support until the mother remarries.  So, you have a choice, you can pay the expenses and court costs for dna testing to be certain that you are not the father of this child or just go to court sign away parental rights, (possibly continue paying child support depending on the state), with the thought that you may be signing away rights to be a father to your own child.

Answer 4

If she is willing to get a DNA test done, then do so. That will put one major issue to bed. If she is unwilling to grant you the opportunity to test, then you have the right to apply for said test through a court.

If you are happy to raise the child regardless of the results, then again, seek a lawyer to apply for rights, visitation and child support. Its all a lengthy process but worth it.

If you are in the UK, you have legal rights to the child if s/he was born after Dec 2003. If born before Dec 2003, you will have no rights. Even if you're name is on the birth certificate.

If you are the father and she wants to remove all of your parental rights she will have to go to court.

She will have to physically prove by submitting evidence EG no communication/support from you for 6months+, harmful behavior, and that you are a danger to her and the child. Only then will a judge decide if you're rights should be terminated or not.

Its an empty threat that many spiteful mothers will make.

If i were you, i would get a DNA test done first.

If i were the child's father, i would go straight to a lawyer and seek the rights that come with being a father IE visitation, support etc. Quite clearly all civil communication has been exhausted with the mother, so i would keep communication through a lawyer.

If i were not the father, (this is when its get really tough) i would have to decide if i wanted to be in the child's life or not (you did put in 4 years), and if the mother was willing to allow it or not.

Unfortunately, if you wish for contact with the child and mother refuses it, there is nothing legally you can do. Regardless of what you have put in in the last 4 years.

Perhaps birthday and Christmas cards could be sent? At least that would let the child know that you still care.

Good luck and all the best

Answer 5

get a lawyer. get blood work done,get your rights for visitations legalized and see this child who needs you. shes only in so much control. if she doesnt follow court orders then she gets into trouble. stop her from running your life.