Non reaction/ Non emotional people

Question

There is this egomaniac that is "shocked" that I do not give him any attention...so much so that he now attempts to harass me into talking to him, screaming "HELLO!" when I walk past him in attempts of ignoring him, or waving at me sheepishly or giving me looks like, "what's wrong with you for not talking to me?" etc...

I can not STAND people like him, for ex, he's engaged but he still expects every woman to flirt with him...and in a sexually deragotative manner...I am not attracted to him in any way, but I was initially polite until he disrespected me with the sexual comments...

He uses his large frame to try intimidate because he always came up to me invadingly. If I challenge this, he challenged back, if I pull away, he invaded more...that's why I had to stop associating all together.

I know he grew up low class so that can explain it, but why is it such a big deal that I don't respond negatively to me? I give him no response whatsoever and why does he not understand that some people DO NOT want to associate with him, even if that means not arguing??!

I also suspect that he wants me to get emotional so that he can go to peers that I am the "crazy" one...does that make sense?

We are in a professional environment!

What's the best way to handle a person like this other than just ignoring? What intimidates them?

Answer 1

Come on. You really don't know what to do? Report him to Human Resources and file a sexual harassment complaint. The others who are in the same situation should do the same and back each other up.

What intimidates him? Maybe a rifle range target with all 9's and 10's. That could get you in more trouble than him, though.  People I've known like that understand only punishment- not threats, but actual consequences.  

Answer 2

FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!!!!!!!

NO THANKS!  I'M NOT INTERESTED.

THERE IS NO MAGIC WAY!  NO TELEPATHY!!

YOU TYPE A LOT OF WORDS IN HERE, NOW ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND SPEAK FIVE.

Answer 3

What exactly is he doing except being a large intimidating man who is angry that you ignore him?

Maybe just sell hello when you walk by? If he still is acting like a Jerk then tell him that you don't appreciate the way he is treating you. If he is still acting like a jerk tell the office manager, if he is still acting like a jerk and the office manager won't do anything about it, tell HR, if HR won't do anything about it then tell your office manager's boss or the HR director, if they won't do anything about it contact a lawyer

Answer 4

If you are in a "professional" environment, you need to report him to  H.R.

See if he likes THAT kind of attention. What a jerk. Seriously, report him. You don't have to take that c**p at ALL.

Answer 5

I grew up low class and  we have a little something we call common courtesy. A polite nod will do, honey.  

Sexual comments?  Boy, it seems like ALL the men want you doesn't it? lol

You suspect he wants you to get emotional?  You sound paranoid.

Why do feel the need to go around intimdating people?  

According to you, that's what he(and every other man) is trying to do to you.  It's completely okay for you to do it though, right?

Answer 6

I think Lexie's got you "pegged', you sound like a nasty, bitter little girl, who rather than just ignore the guy ,wish to exact some type of punishment on him.

Ignore him , he'll go away.

Answer 7

I see no reason to bring class into this. It's simply not true that lower class people are all obnoxious and rude.

Two suggestions: cultivate a freezing look, and a blank look with which to fix his gaze for a few seconds, THEN look away; talk to a supervisor, explaining that he continually tries to physically intimidate you, thus creating a hostile work environment for you.

You're there to work; if someone is making that difficult, it's in your employer's best interest to deal with the problem; it's also the employer's legal responsibility to create a non-hostile work environment for all employees.

If he tries to block you, or otherwise physically encroaches, say "Excuse me" loudly enough that others in the vicinity can hear. If necessary, repeat, with greater emphasis until he moves or backs off.