Normal behavior for a 6yr old?

Question

My GF has a 6 yr old son that gets to stay at Grandma & Grandpa's house every weekend. She was physically abused by mom, sexually molested by Dad for years & he is an alcoholic. Her mom tells the boy his mom doesn't love her, they spoil this child rotten to win him over. The kid gets anything he wants, eats cookies for breakfast, ice cream for dinner, lives in fantasy land while there. They also still put a bib on him, take complete care of him, he is not permitted to even open a door. I am much stricter, expect respect and for kids to behave. Should I stick to my guns of still enforcing common rules of conduct or just give up? I am fighting a losing battle since his mom doesnt care that grandma spoils him. They all treat him like a baby doll. Is it right for him to sleep in a twin bed with either grandparent when they have a huge very nice home, and he tells me nobody wears clothes to bed, he sleeps with either of them, never all 3 at same time?

Answer 1

Sound like it's time for you to move on and remove yourself from the situation.  Things aren't going to change.

Answer 2

So your girlfriend lets her son stay at the home of a s*x offender who molested her and a woman who beat her?? That's much more disturbing than anything else you mentioned. Leave her. Just think, who would she be leaving YOUR kids with if you had them with her?

Answer 3

Sounds like a dysfunctional family. If you are concerned for the boy you could call cps on them.

Answer 4

You GF needs counseling.  Her child is in danger and this needs to be reported to the authorities at once.

You cannot allow this to go on, your GF needs help, and so do her parents.  The child is young enough that given proper medical treatment he could bounce back, but inactivity on your part only condemns him to repeat the cycle of abuse.

Answer 5

Uhh, you realize, do you not, that you and your gf are participating in child abuse of the worst sort.  The kid needs to be protected.  If nothing else, call child protective services.

Answer 6

This sounds bad! Very bad. You should speak to someone in authority about this situation! This is definatly abuse of some kind.  Good luck.

Answer 7

i wouldnt let him go over there!!!!! i know that you are thinking clearly but what kind of mom would knowingly allow there child to sleep naked with anyone? doesnt she know what kind of a world we live in?

as for you if you dont stick to your rules he will walk all over you, it might be a battle that you have to fight for a while but if your planning on stilcking around stick to your rules.

Answer 8

this is nowhere near normal for a child...you should talk to your GF about this...she really is the one who has the power to change this and you can help her...what they are doing to this child is wrong in so many ways...if your GF refuses to do anything about this...then maybe you should reconsider your relationship...not agreeing on parenting can become a serious issue...you obviously care for this boy even though he is not your son and you want better for him...she should see this...what will things be like if the two of you decide to have a child together?

Answer 9

This is a fight worth fighting.  Stick to your guns for the sake of this child.  Try to talk to your girlfriend and tell her all of that, if you already haven't. One tactic in getting a spoiled child to behave is to ignore them completely, because they want constant attention from everyone.   I guess I'm only a teenager, and have never raised a child, but I hope this helps.

Answer 10

Jesus, do they have the kd stay with micheal jackson,too? holy c**p well there is definetly something wrong with this.. dont just leave! you need to have a SERIOUS talk with your girlfriend and if she still just doesn't care, you need to help out the little boy at least because he IS being abused.

Answer 11

Most of this stuff sounds quite disturbing. Have you asked your girlfriend why she feels safe letting her son go to the home of someone she admits molested her for years? I don;t think that's the type of thing that can be cured or rehabilitated. It doesn't sound like a safe situation and should let GF know how you feel.

Answer 12

Stick to your guns, otherwise he'll be 45 and living in the basement before you know it.

Answer 13

the hole thing of them sleeping naked together thats not right in the least bit i think u should really speak up about that the other things are really none of ur buissiness but he may be being molested and u need to speak to his mother or if that doesnt work then someone else untill someone listens to u

Answer 14

YOU have no right disciplining this child at all.  He is NOT your child.  If his mother doesn't care about how he is treated at his grandparents it is none of YOUR business.  If you don't like it you have the choice to leave your girlfriend.  You have no evidence of anything going on and as long as his mother is not concerned you don't have a leg to stand on.  Back off because you have no right to Butt in.