Normal s*x????

Question

Is it normal for a four-year-old girl (kindergarten) to already be fingering. What if she does it during nap time at school?

Answer 1

umm... no thats not normal at that age!!

Answer 2

LOL.

This goes into Freud's Psychosexual Theory.

He'd tell you not to oppress her sexuality.

http://changingminds.org/explanations/le...

" The Phallic Stage

The phallic stage is the setting for the greatest, most crucial sexual conflict in Freud's model of development. In this stage, the child's erogenous zone is the genital region. As the child becomes more interested in his genitals, and in the genitals of others, conflict arises. The conflict, labeled the Oedipus complex (The Electra complex in women), involves the child's unconscious desire to possess the opposite-sexed parent and to eliminate the same-sexed one. "

but i'd say it is pretty normal. just tell her that it's not a good thing to do.

it's like training children for picking their noses.

Answer 3

I asked the doctor about this sort of behavior before because we had the same problem, he said a lot of parents have actually asked that.  He said it is completely normal and is usually a comfort thing, which is why she does it at nap time.  You just need to explain that these things are private, and no one else can see. Do not yell or make a big deal of it, what she is doing is not wrong!

Answer 4

I don't think there is anything wrong with your daughter - she is just a person (a small one) like the rest of us who enjoy physical stimulation.  For one reason or another, she's discovered the sensual area of her body at a younger age than usual, which could have been a discovery of her own by accident, or perhaps she saw or overheard something that you were not aware of.  Kids are naturally curious about everything and this may be more common than you realize.

I'm not sure if you were actually wanting advice, but the best thing is to not make her feel bad about it.  Let her know it's okay to have feelings of desire to pleasure herself, and then try to explain why it's better if she keeps this behavior private.  Just let her know that it's something that people like to do at home when they are alone.  Find a nice way to explain that doing this at school can make other people uneasy so she should keep it to herself from now on.  Try to avoid making her feel ashamed so that she doesn't repress her sexual feelings, but instead focus on letting her know when it is and is not appropriate to explore herself.  

I think your daughter should be just fine and is normal to want to do things that make her feel good.  Good luck!

Answer 5

It probably is normal behaviour, I mean at that age there still little girls, who are just starting to explore there body, and if something feels good to them, they will do it. However just to be on the safe side, sit the 4 year old down and ask her if anyone has touched her down there, or if she has seen this done on tv or video. If she says yes, then you have a problem on your hands. If she was molested, then you need to talk to her parents and hope to h**l they get her into councelling. If she's just doing this to feel good, then explain to her that while it does feel good, she should do it while she's alone, not while others are around, and she should never put her hands on anyone. Hope this helps

Answer 6

Ummm no

Answer 7

I dont think its normal to be fingering. But I know that exploring her body is ok but you need to explain to her that thats her private area and she needs to do that stuff at home. Did you not already go over this with her? You should have when she was younger.

Answer 8

it is normal for girls and boys to be curious about their s*x organs.  Dont make a big deal over it and in time it will pass. Its just  a phase they go through just like when they are 2 and the only word they know is no or when they are 3 and its why  but why mommy. why is the sky blue and why is the grass green.  the more negative attention you give her the more she might do it.  good luck

Answer 9

it could be normal for her to be fingering but you should sit her down and explain that its not something you do at school because the other children aren't supposed to see that...... if her teachers have a problem with it you definitely need to talk to her

Answer 10

All kids touch themselves. she don't know what she is doing unless she saw it somewhere

Answer 11

every kid explores their body at some point.  don't make her feel bad.

Answer 12

its totaly normal...

just like little boys realise that they can make it bigger

Answer 13

what 4 year old is fingering herself. Is she just holding/playing to explor herself. Look into this It could mean that she is subjected to this behavior (has seen somone doing it or somone is doing this to her) Talk to her about it but dont come on strong just slyly ask about it and dont put anything in her head.

Answer 14

Yes...it is normal.  Are the teachers at school having an issue with this?  If so, I would go to a pediatrician and get documentation about this to give to the school administration.  This does not mean in any way that your daughter is abnormal.  Do not allow her to be discriminated against by the school for this normal behavior...