Normal sexual play between brothers?

Question

I have a friend who is 23 and his brother just turned 21. He recently "confessed" to me that when he was about 9 or 10 he touched his brother's p***s and had his brother touch his. I'm not sure how far it went, but he made it sound as if he didn't FORCE it on him, but suggested and pushed for it(which would be pretty influential on a younger sibling, I assume).

I don't have any brothers or sisters myself, so I have no idea about how normal this is. At the time he told me he said he'd never told anyone before and I reassured him that I thought it was normal because he was really freaking out about it, saying he thought it messed his brother up etc. Is this kind of behavior normal as an isolated incident? Is it just normal sexual exploration?

Answer 1

No force, no foul...with peers (of close age).

Answer 2

This happens all of the time. Why is it an issue 13 years later? Why not just talk to your brother about it and get it off your chest? You guys are only 2 years apart, brothers typically see each other naked growing up at some point or always if you shared a room. Only him and his brother knows what really went on that day. He needs to talk to his brother to fix it. I have 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. We didn't touch each others privates as kids, but many do. He may find out that his brother doesn't care as much about the incident as he does. If he thinks this did mess him up, he would be comforted by knowing that you acknowledge it happened. At 9 or 10, it's too young to pick a sexual preference, if this is about one brother feeling responsible for another brothers homosexuality. Homosexuality is something you are not something you become from seeing or touching a p***s at 9 or 10.

Answer 3

I remember me and my cousin touching each other at around 5 ( him being a boy) and then when I was a little older my cousin ( girl)  and I touched each other.   I think it is normal b/c we were just curious about how it felt.   We weren't into each other just curious.

Answer 4

What do you mean by "messed his brother up"?  That seems to be the concern here.  Brother is g*y?  deranged? an axe murderer?  a paranoid schizophrenic?

s*x play is common among kids, as you said, less so between brothers, but not unusual, and from the limited description it wouldn't seem to have had any significant consequences.  I wonder that your friend even remembers it himself.

Answer 5

its normal for as long as they don't have emotional attachment to each other. by emotional attachment i mean in the same context as 2 guys (one g*y, the other straight) in a relationship.

Answer 6

umm....i cant say its normal. or atleast i never thought it was...

but this happened along time ago, tell your friend to forget about it, it was along time ago, stop worrying about the past and start rockin with the present

Answer 7

Its just normal behavior, yet, it typically happens at another age.  How do you know whether or not your supposed to have a p***s?

Answer 8

no not really

Answer 9

I think that some siblings do do this at young ages. I babysat a little girl who was 8, and she has a brother who is 5. She told me that she touched her brothers gender area. I told her that she should not do that. She said it was different from hers, and she just wanted to see it.

I ended up telling their parents, and they told me that they often ask about that area on each other.

I never did with my brother, or sisters. I do not know, but I wanted to share that story of when I babysat.

Answer 10

YES and NO. This subject is almost taboo to talk about but it does happen. From what i've learned in my child psch classes children do explore each other. 9 or 10 is a little old for it. I think at his age it was abuse. He was aware that what he was doing was wrong. Did his brother have any problems behind this?

Answer 11

I come from a family of 6 kids all born within 7 years of each other.   I'm the youngest and I have brother/sister twins who are a year older than me.   I never touched my sibling's private parts but I don't remember anything prior to age 4.   My memories are more vivid after age 5.  I would think that this type of exploration may go on between very young children who don't understand body boundaries.    By 9 or 10 years old, kids know better than that.     If they were like 3 or 4 I could understand but 9 or 10 years old????   I don't think that's normal.    That's plenty old enough to understand about body boundaries.