Normal to secretly want to become pregnant after miscarriage ?

Question

this time last year i had an infection which lead to me on strong antibiotics for 2 weeks, during tht time i was with my b/f for a few days and in tht time we used condoms but missed one.

i took the morning after pill 2 days later and thought nothing of it, 4 weeks later i lost the embryo i ddnt knw i had.

me and my b/f were doing degree, in debt, not married, not ready etc for a baby (and still are) but i get all soft & broody lookng at his mate's and my sis's babies, and subconciencley forget the pill and dnt use condoms during tht time is this normal?

Answer 1

It's fine to want a baby, especially after a loss like this.  When I miscarried, we were not expecting that baby, either.  My biggest fear was that my husband would not want to try for another.  Part of why I was so upset was because I thought my chance to be a mother was gone.  If you truly want another baby I would sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him that you want a baby and why.  Don't trick him into thinking you are using your birth control, it's not fair.  Good luck and sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

It's normal to want back what you missed out on.  

However, and I am trying to be gentle, you will have plenty of years to have a child that you bring into this world at the time that is right for you and your mate.  

Don't be foolish and have unprotected intercourse.  A baby is only a baby for a short time.  It will soon grow into a child with demands, needs, and wants.  Make sure that you are ready to give this child everything that it deserves.  

Answer 3

as long as you know you could become pregnant with doing this then its normal. It really sounds like you can't afford one right now though but if you really want one then I guess go for it. Just know what you are in for. Talk to your sis.  

Answer 4

hey its completly normal, i suffered a missed misscarriage of twins in june and me and my partner are trying now. we wer so happy when i found out i was pregnant and was devastated when we lost them. everytime my period is due i hope and pray it doesnt come so ur not alone lol x