Nosy little brother?

Question

My little brother is VERY annoying! Every time I am on my laptop in my room, he is always coming into my room, and looking at the tabs I have open, and what I'm doing! I don't go on p**n websites or anything! I am just on myspace, and Y!A, thats about it! He also tries to read my messages on myspace when I walk out of the room! Every time my dad is around, and I tell him to get lost, I get it trouble!

Sometimes pieces of paper fall out of my tote bag, and he has a "daily check" every day to see what they say! Most of them aren't even notes!! He also looks under my bed!

I see this as a complete invasion of privacy!! How do I tell him to stop!?

He is 12 and I am 14!

Answer 1

do unto others as they do to you.  give him a taste of his own medicine.

Answer 2

Sit down with your dad and explain to him that it is not fair for your younger brother to always be in your face. Tell him how you feel, and maybe try to sit down with your younger brother and try to have a mature converstation. Although he might deserve it, try not to belittle him. Talk to him and ask him to respect your personal space. Little kids like to think they are older than they are. Make him feel mature. Tell him that he is a very good kid and you love him but when he acts like that it is way below him. Be a good older sister and try to help him with something, and maybe he'll see that your life is not his concern. Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

To put my answer in perspective, I'm a parent. Based on your description, I think you have a valid point. Rather than wait for the next occurence, why not sit down with your dad beforehand and tell him that you think your brother is intruding on your privacy and what would he recommend? If you put the burden on him to find a solution when your not fighting with your brother, perhaps he'll come up with something, or at least be more sensitive the next time a problem occurs. Is your mother around? Can she intervene if your dad doesn't agree to help? I think it's reasonable to expect a certain amount of privacy from your brother and that your parents should support this.

Answer 4

I agree with the first 3 posts (no others up yet) and would just like to add:  In about 10 years, you'll love to get this much attention from your brother.  I know you don't believe me, but try to remember that!

I think the parent who suggested talking to your dad when nothing is happening has the right approach.  You could also try getting him involved in something, sports, video games, so he doesn't have as much time to bug you.  Either way, soon enough he'll have other interests and leave you alone.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I know this sounds immature, but maybe if you do something to make him annoyed, then he might stop....try bugging him whenever he is trying to do things....like go into his room and find something even the littlest bit embarrassing and bring it out to him so he sees what it feels like...he probably just doesn't understand what is bugging you so much, or he might enjoy watching his sister get mad!

Good luck that sounds like a tough problem!