Not Potty Trained...HELP!

Question

My youngest son was pretty much potty trained by three. A bit late, but he was very resistant. He continued to have accidents once every few days or so, but now almost a year later, things have gotten out of control. He used to go for days and days without an accident. Now one day, he'll pee in his pants 6 times, the next day twice, then not at all, then 5 times. For the first time EVER, he pooped in his pants today! Nothing is working...no amount of positive reinforcement, charts with smiley faces, nothing. Now that he is rounding the bend to 4, my husband is insisting we punish him, since he's obviously old enough to understand right from wrong. As a result he hasn't watched tv in weeks (he's a Sesame Street addict) and spends more time in time-out that out of it. I'm beside myself. He is very very tall for his age and weighs close to 50 pounds, but even if he weren't too big for them, going back to diapers now is out of the question. Our pediatrician was no help at all... she thinks we must not be trying hard enough. Anyone else experience this? My other two kids were very very easy to potty train.

Answer 1

well my 5 year old did this same thing till just about 9 moths ago! and  we  just had to keep on him! about it all the time we also just let him wet the bed with no  pull ups on and he got that point across really quick!!! some kids just take a lot longer than others!  

Answer 2

sorry this kinda thing is tough. if he is in preschool maybe peer pressure will help but a the frequencies of his issues you will need a good and patient preschool. I have a neighbor who had similar issue she use a scientific solution she track how much and when her son ate and drank and how soon after he would have an accident then she would take him to the potty and remind him it was time to go after a couple of weeks she could just ask him if it was time. then finally after about 3 months he was accident free and going on his own. good luck and may the patients of Jobe be with you  

Answer 3

let him roam home naked

make him clean the p**p off the floor

make him clean himself\

he should hate doing that and  he will want to use the big boy potty

Answer 4

My nephew is 3 and a half, but he looks more like a 5 year old. He is also really tall for his age. But my sister had the worst time trying to get him potty trained. She didn't use pull ups or anything like that,she went straight from diapers to underwear. It didn't take him long to learn to pee in the potty,but he refused to p**p in the potty. She eventually bribed him with going to school(he is completely obsessed with the idea of being a "big boy" and going to school) She told him that if he didn't learn to p**p in the potty, he couldn't go to school. And it worked, he hasn't had an accident in a long time.  

Answer 5

My younger sister was this way after she was potty trained and what i found to work best was to take her to the toilet evry hr or so just to be safe and if ever she had an accident instead of making her stand in a corner for time out i made her sit on the potty and let her read. Also if you make the bathroom a fun place to be h**l probably use the potty more frequently. Instead of smiley faced stickers give him a sesame street sticker book and whenever he uses the bathroom give him a sticker for his collection.

Answer 6

I don't think taking away tv or time outs are making a difference, so try approaching it with a different thought process.  Lots of times when kids digress, they are under some sort of stress or having some sort of anxiety or trouble.  Although I am not suggesting or implying anything, it can even be a sign of abuse.  He may not even understand WHY he is doing it, but a 4 year old isn't doing it to manipulate you by having bathroom accidents.  If the pediatrician has ruled out any sort of urinary tract infection and stuff like that, then start thinking about what is going on with him or around him.  Are things changing?  Have you moved or changed jobs or anything else he can pick up on?  Go get some Pull-Ups or even Depends if he is too big for Pull-Ups, and help your little guy out.  He's trying to tell you something.