!!!Not a flame/dabate/put-down post--- question for those who have had an abortion?

Question

I don't want a debate on abortions.. another posters questions really made me think about this.

Of those of you who had abortions and then went on to have other children, do you regret your choice to have an abortion(s) before your children were born or after? Did giving birth change your thoughts?

Answer 1

I had an abortion because of cancer.  I don't yet have any other children, but I'll answer anyway.

I don't regret my decision; I never have.  I had to save my own life.  It was a matter of life and death and it was a horrible choice to make.  My feelings will not change if I have a baby.  I will be even more grateful that I had the opportunity to be healthy and have a healthy baby.

Answer 2

totally not.

i've had five abortions and three babies (22yrs, 19yrs, and 15mo). last abortion was on tuesday because while there was a heartbeat, it was too weak and thready - kept disappearing from the scan and was 40 to 80 instead of 120+.  add to that no growth in 2 weeks (still measuring 8wks size) and that's one baby that had some serious problems.  problems at this stage, you just can't play "catch up" at a later date nor am i willing to "wait and see".

first abortion was at age 14, 8mo after the doctor told me i couldn't get pregnant.

next two, the baby was non-viable:  one was missing a large part of the brain (anencephaly) and the other had a really bad biophysical profile - should've miscarried in frist trimester but for some reason didn't.  the fourth was because the IUD was still in place and not only is the IUD teratogenic, but it was incorporating into the baby.

each time, i seriously considered my options and the possible outcomes and i have no regrets at all.

Answer 3

I am a 34 year old mother of three beautiful boys. When I was 16 I got pregnant by my then boyfriend. He was 7 years older than me and he was a loser. Through much thought and many tears I decided to have an abortion. I felt bad about it as soon as it was over. My first son was born 6 yrs later. Every time I thought about what I had done to my other baby I got very depressed and cried all day. A couple of years later I started going to church and living my life right. I asked Gods forgiveness for what I had done. I know he forgave me but sometimes still it's hard to forgive myself.  If I could change just one thing in my life I would not have had the abortion.