Not a good father...?

Question

I don't have a good relationship with my father I never have. Example: he never actually has a conversation with me, when he does talk to me he is yelling at me for something i did wrong or something i did he didn't like. and when he yells you cant even stand up for yourself or he gets even more angry, like me and my mother are afraid of him when he yells.

and my mother works nights, so i never really see her much, and its hard.

also, my older brother who is 26 has said to me he does not like the way my father treats me. he even has said he treats me differently than the others.

and he never tries to get to know me.

and I do not exactly like him either, or trust him. he cheated on my mother for three years, and had me baby sit the other women's children while they went out. and of course my mother did find out, and kicked him out, and they filled for divorce, but he some how convinced her to take him back.

and i personally really do not what him living here anymore. I do want my parents to break up, my father is not a good man.

now i will get to my question. can i do anything about this?

can i make my parents get divorced - for real this time.

can i move out? live with other people? etc...

By the way, i am almost 16.

Answer 1

Sounds like a tough situation. There is really nothing you can do to make your parents divorce. Is there a family member you can stay with until you are 18? If not the only advice I can give you is to involve yourself with positive activities after school to keep you away from home as much as possible. Just remember it is not your fault! Your dad has issues that unfortunately you are paying for. Don't let it break your spirit. I am sure you are a very sweet girl. Also maybe try talking to your school councilor. Just talking with an adult about it may help and they may be able to give you some suggestions. Plus it is confidential. Good Luck

Answer 2

what your dad did was wrong and it shows that he does not respect you. you don't need to make things right with him he need to make things right with you.  you should let him know how you feel.  tell him the way he treats you is wrong. ask him why.  let him know that having you babysit for the women he was having an affair with shows that he does not respect you as his daughter or as a women. their will be some yelling but at least you got your feeling out.  if you feel like your parents don't have your best interest at heart you can always look into beinemancipateded that way you can have control over your life. tell your mom how you feel maybe you two can work something out were she allows you to go stay with a friend or a nearby relative. good luck.

Answer 3

i dont think theres too much you can do about it since youre so young, unless he is hitting you or abusing you in some other way

Answer 4

1 talk to your mom and point out what your dad does to you two.

2 try to talk to your dad and say something like "can we talk?"  and tell him that you would like to improve your relationship.

and 3 maybe try to look up what age you have to be to move out of your parents house because most states have different ages.

hope i helped and also http://www.wikianswers.com is a really good site to search for answers.  

Answer 5

  d**n right it is abuse both physically and mentally. Your dad is a control freak,he may feel guilty for s******g around and takes it out on  you   because he figures if he tried any thing with your 26 year old brother he might find his *** on the floor.

  You go straight to your mom , and tell he he has been smacking you around and verbally abusing you.

   Then ask her out right why she took him back after he cheated on her, maybe when she hears you put it into words she just might react and throw the bum out.

   If he ever lays a hand on you again or threatens you, call the police on him from a neighbours house. I am dead serious about this. If something is not done to stop him he could kill you one day, he is way out of control.

    Yes i would  also see if you could stay with a relative till that  abuser is out of the house.

Answer 6

Dads usually love their daughters more, but it Sounds like you dislike each other severely. He blames you for ratting on him to your mom. You are wrong to try splitting your parents apart; it will only hurt the family. Try to to see his good side and make peace or go spend time with a relative --- absence could let him see what he's missing when you are not around.

Answer 7

just make some changes in your living style

and wait you will find your father change

i mean if you change yourself Little bit your thinking will be change

you will not ask anything  to father your father will ask you about yourself

try it..... and feel the difference

Answer 8

if your dad has hit you its abuse

if you can get a job and support yourself i would get emancipated

Answer 9

May be your father thinks you are the one who told on him . If so he probably resents you for telling. When it comes to your parents being together or not is for them to decide. Just stay out of their business and stay away from him as much as you can.  Try not to confront him , just learn to let it go, except the hitting  ,  you should let mom know if he is hitting you . She should protect you, There is no law that says you have to like your dad or what he does. But he should not have forced you to help him cheat. That was very wrong of him . I am sure that when he smacked you, you were being mouthy with him, and that is just asking for him to hit you. So try to avoid that. If you need to vent your feelings talk to your friends and the school counselor can help to.I know how you feel, believe me I am 59 yrs old and have been there and done that to.   Wish you were my grand daughter I would let you come stay with me until all was better. Well you be safe and hang in there,, God bless and help you with your life.

Answer 10

You've got 24 months left. Unless you get can legally emancipated (supporting yourself) I think you are stuck.  Unless you have a relative that you enjoy and your mom and dad says it is okay to stay with them.