Not getting any attention from husband; what should I do?

Question

Have been married 27 years and the last 5 years, my husband does not want to have s*x with me, kiss or hug me. When I have tried, he asks what has gotten into you?

Answer 1

Tell him, thats the problem, noone has gotten into me and I miss it. Ask him if he has forgotten how to do it. If he says yes, tell him you will show him how again.

Answer 2

you know what the key to marriage is if you have been together for 27 years .. it is communication..

have you talked to him about this?

has he been to the  dr he could have a medical problem , or  medication that has  made him loose his drive .

is there any new stress in his life.. money ?

if you have done all this then you  should seek  counseling .

Answer 3

You made it 22 successful years!  How did you keep it going all of that time?  You just have to keep putting kindling in the fire.  I HIGHLY recomend Dr. Laura's "The Proper Care and Feeding of HUusbands"

Answer 4

When this is the Situation, it means he is interested in someone else and just showing his behaviour to make an issue to get married with someone else

Answer 5

Tell him what you want and what you are longing for.  Its for better or for worse so you gotta make it work.

Answer 6

That is strange that all the sudden he is wondering what has gotten into you. Have you been having problems before this? Are there signs that he might be cheating? That is awhile to be married. Look at your relationship and try to figure out what some changes that have dramatically happened. I hate to say it but I would be concerned that he might be having affair. Just double check everything that has been going on. If you have a close friend or relative that you can talk to also would be a big help. Best of Luck! Hopefully things will get better!

Answer 7

Maybe try and spice up your s*x life...surprise him with something new..buy a cosmo theres alot of tricks in there..you should try some of them...start off with a nice dinner and wear something s**y:)..but dont give up thats a long time to just give up...so good luch

Answer 8

  I have to say, call cheaters or a private investigator.Being married for that long and the romance has went way down is a cause for question.  Before calling an investigator or the show cheaters , I would let him know what's gotten into you.  Ask him,  What has gotten into him?  Maybe he could be having problems and need to see a doctor.  If this is truly his problem he would be to mad to talk to you about it or see a doctor and admit to having a problem. I say pay close attention and see what type of change has come over him because there are signs when someone is cheating and being married that long should show many signs.  Men are use to doing things one way and the minute a he changes that is a sign to look for clues before accusing.  Good Luck.

Answer 9

Do what I'm doing have an affair.

My husband and i have been married 15 yrs.

He is 60 and I'm 39.

He hasn't wanted s*x in 2 yrs so since then i have been having an affair with a male co-worker who is also married.

Answer 10

Wow, that's a long time!  Suggest a date night with him when you'll go out to dinner at a nice restaurant and act like newlyweds again... But definitely tell him how you feel.

Answer 11

Of course, it could be a number of things.  One that comes to mind is erectile dysfunction.  He may be experiencing problems, and thinks that avoiding the issue saves face - it's a macho thing.

Are there serious resentment issues that have made him pull away - financial woes, family problems, etc.

Whatever the problem, he is your HUSBAND!  He should be the man that would fight a bear for you - and whoop it too.  And you for him.  If that's true, some serious heart to heart talking needs to go on.  Let it all out, warts and all.  Get to the bottom of this because you will never rest easy until you do...

Good luck - and don't accept mumbles and grunts for answers.

Answer 12

Maybe time to call it quits. Thats not any way to live. If a man lost interest in me I would end it.

Answer 13

I'd ask him 'whos gotten into you?"  IF he isn't cheating than remind him that the two of you are married and married people have s*x!  tell him u want romance, s*x and attention. if hes A MAN he should be able to oblige.  if not, he's either not interested, impotent or uncaring.  THEN u have a problem  

Answer 14

You should change things up!  My friend had this passion party and they had these lottery tickets that you can buy a whole box of and give one to your husband.   When he peels them back he can win fun sexual favors or even just intimate things from you.  A back-rub, a hot bubble bath together, etc.  It is nice to change it up a bit!

Answer 15

Tell him He's gotten into you. Talk to him. Tell him what you want. I've spoken to many men with marrital problems and often the guy is saying that the woman never told him the problem. Guys are problem solvers by nature... Sometimes you just need to let them know that there is a problem. Good luck

Answer 16

Sometimes in a marriage or relationship people get comfortable with each other and forget about the passion in the relationship. Just talk with him about and let him know how you feel . Then back off a little and give him time he will come around. Some absence make the heart grow fonder to let a person know what they have.