Not sure if i'm bi or not...help?

Question

ok. Here's the deal. I'm not sure if i'm bi or not. I have thought about being with women. I seriously had a crush on about three of my best friends. I think the only reason we became so close was because i was attracted to them. but the thought of actually having s*x with one of them is not a huge turn on for me. kissing and fondling would be fine but to actually go to third base i don't know if i could do it....is this weird or has anyone been where I am.

Answer 1

You're straight, just a little confused right now.

Answer 2

Babe Ur Bi And Dont Worry

Its Normal

Im A Lez And I Think Of The Very Same Things But In More Detail ;)

Answer 3

I'm guessing you're like 14 or 15 (sorry if you're not and i've insulted you!), girls around that age are prone to that sort of thing as eachothers bodies develop and they look at eachother etc. Guys aren't as comfortable looking at eachother and noticing they are s**y, whereas girls can do that with more ease.

Just think what you want to think without worrying if you'll become a L*****n one day (we've all been there). You don't need to put yourself in a category of sexuality to make you acceptable to the world, sexuality only exists because we insisted on naming it!

Answer 4

totally normal... a lot of women have those same feelings. every single one of my best friends have made advances on me... it's kind of weird, but flattering.  there is only one close friend that i've had since the 4th grade that hasn't.  this doesn't mean you are bi. if you fall in love with a girl you should know as if you were falling in love with a man...  you probably won't have any doubt in your mind and you probably wouldn't be timid in the least to do all the things bi women do.  hope this helps!!!  

Answer 5

you could be bi,,

or you could just be bi curiouss,,

in either case the only way to solve your wonders is to get together with a girl,,

it doesnt have to be anything serious,,

just a little something to test the waterss,,

but honestly you would most likely be able to see yourself in a relationship with a girl to truthfully know if you are bi.

if you cant see yourself in one,,

then you are most likely not bi,,

your just confused beyond reason.

Answer 6

Yeah thats a tough one cos you wont really know till you get older and you get to know yourself better and what you are really attracted to

I did read about this women who is married to a guy for 6 years but every once and a while she likes to fantasy about sleeping with another women even though she says she has no real desire to sleep with one on real life

Also was it a crush sexually or is it cos you admire her for her values or her as a person ( you look up to her)

Answer 7

You sound very young.  At your age hormones are going crazy.  Your thoughts are normal.  Everybody goes through at stage when they are developing hormonally and sexually that they are or thing they are attracted to both sexes.  This is normal is part of the process of identification.  It is only temporary.  It is to early to label yourself so please don't do that.  Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I fantasize about other females all the time and I've kissed a lot of girls but I'm not bi.  I have no interest in having a relationship with another female so I don't consider myself bi.  I just like to have fun.  If you find other women attractive then that's normal.  In my opinion, If you are interested in dating another female then I would use the term bi.

Answer 9

It kind of sounds like your bi-curious, but leaning more towards bi. You're definetly noticing girls and think about being with one. Try experimenting (safely) with what you are comforatable with and if it works out then it will lead to something more on its own. You don't really say anything about guys, but how do you feel around them? Only you can know for sure if you're bi or not, but be open to the possibility.

Answer 10

this is funny (well not haha funny, but you know) b/c I used to say the same thing when i was coming out.  I would say, I'm def bi b/c I wanna kiss girls and touch them, but I don't think I could ever have s*x with one.  10 years later - full blown L*****n. turns out it was guys i could kiss, but not have s*x with!! lol

Answer 11

i think its not normal but also good. cause like i actually thought that i was bi to but i'm not i love guys. but also i do sometimes think about getting with a girl just to really know if i am or not.  but i'm not i have a wonderful boyfriend so i'm not but just give it some time and really find out who you are  and if you are don't hide it from anyone. be who you want to be, with wats more comfortable with u  

Answer 12

umm... yes ur definatly bi!!! Sorry!!!

Answer 13

Your straight just a little curious and confused at the moment

Answer 14

yea right now i have a huge crush on my bff.. and i'm bi but  i'm just like u were u said u would not like to have s*x with them but you would like to kiss an all i know the feeling and the same reason y we became so close also its not wierd it just happens.

=)...i eventually turned bi

Answer 15

You're just brimming with hormones and a high sexual drive. I was the same way when I was younger. I would have fantasies that I didn't really want to act upon. They're stimulating, but not anything you're interested in persuing seriously. That's fine and I feel that's perfectly normal. I never acted on any of my fantasies and consider myself straight.

In MY opinion, s*x is just the instinct to pursue sexual gratification... gender has nothing to do with it. I consider everyone "bisexual" because we choose a preference.

Answer 16

Your most likely straaight,

it's just that your hormones are driving your mind crazy.

I went through a stage like that,

but luckily i had friends who understood.

but in the end when i understood my mind

and my hormones had stopped going crazy.

i was striahgt.

but if you do turn out bi,

don't worry,

you're still you . = D