Not sure when to have the second child?

Question

My husband and I have a 16 month old. We want another baby. But disagree on when to start trying. My husband wants to start trying now so they'll be about 2 years apart. I want to wait until this time next year so they'll be about 3 years apart. I have a lot of female problems and I don't get pregnant easily. My husband says it'll be good for our daughter if we had another child right now. But I'm still in college and I think having 2 children 2 years apart will be really hard!! PLUS.... my husband and I get along about 85% of the time. HAHA What do you think? What is your experience with having two children two years-2 1/2- three years apart? Should I just go for it? Thank you so much!! I'm so torn on this! I want my children to be close. And always have a great relationship.

Answer 1

they might fight alot. but you can easily disipline your child with a time out or grounding thing like taking away their icecream or no friends over. so if your really gulliable with your first child then no, you have to be harder because they will be close but they will fight alot if you dont do anything about it. if you want another child. bring one in. its a great idea. if you think you can handle your children or you can pay a good babysitter then yea. and you could have peace and quiet if they had disipine and a good babysitter then yea you can easily go thru college. i say go for it!

Answer 2

We wanted another baby but wanted to wait a little bit and now that my son is 11 it seems too late for us we would have to start over again and that is really hard to grasp so if I were you I wouldn't put off trying for too long so you don't get used to the no diapers , no bottles, no infant carseat being carried....etc or worse the hardest the thing daycare.. not having to pay daycare is huge and to have to do that all over again I am not ready for that!  So again if you are serious about wanting another baby start trying now!

Answer 3

Like anything else, there are pros and cons.  My kids are 22 months apart.  The beauty is that all the baby stuff is OVER at pretty much the same time, they enjoy a lot of the same things etc.  I won't lie though, sometimes I do feel spread pretty thin and wishing I could focus on just one or the other.  I couldn't even imagine having MORE little ones running around.