Not trying to sound shallow but...?

Question

I'm not attracted to anyone! My husband and I seperated about 1 year ago. I've tried dating to fill my lonliness but it never leads to anything. I'm ready to move on and have someone special in my life but after the 1st date im not attracted anymore. And the guy is always left wondering what he did wrong. I met my husband in highschool he wasnt very attactive to me but he played sports and all the girls liked him...so of course I did too. (I was so stupid because he turned out to be a selfish bas****!)

But I always find something wrong with the guys I date.

Like he's too short, he's kinda chubby, his cologne smells bad, i don't like his hair, he has bad acne on his chin, or he's trying too hard to get in my pants.

Am I being too picky? I know no one is perfect but I also know that in order to be with someone there has to be some physical attraction.

I'm so tired of being alone.

I'm 21 years old II live in a SMALL town in TX. and I'm thinking that might be the problem. There's not much to choose from here. I'm thinking about moving to Dallas so there will be more opportunity for me.

What do you think?

Answer 1

well i'm a single guy that lives in florida and i can't find girl that's is right for me and i'm 27 years old

Answer 2

Are u sure you're not the one with the problem?  Something cant be wrong with every1 in the small TX town except u.  Ur prob is u need 2 grow up b4 u get involved. AT 21 u already married and separated? d**n u still need time 4 ur childhood.  Read some books, watch some tv, maybe go to college if u havent been already get urself a good job, but bottom line; still immature I think

Answer 3

You are 21! And divorced??? Doesn't this tell you that maybe you're a little bit young to be settling down? Move to Dallas, or New York, or London. Get out and see the world. Don't get stuck in a small half-horse town for the rest of your life. It's a small gene pool and maybe you're not attracted to those guys for a reason.  Meet as many different men as you can, enjoy being young and start to worry about finding a partner when you're like, 35. Figure out what you want from life, from yourself, and then from men. Go. Live.

Answer 4

You;re just over analyzing the guys, screening too much

they may be perfect for you... if they actually ponder on ' omg what did i do wrong' that means they liked you enough

at least give them three dates and come up with a decision

you don't have to move or anything drastic like that  

Answer 5

dont chase for your love, let love reach you, not to sound corny, but patience is what peaople need to find what they want, if you rush in to get someone, you wont be happy about it. good luck

Answer 6

ok, please don't take this the wrong way..i am being serious.

i think you should sit down and talk to someone about this, maybe a psychologists..not because i think you are crazy or anything..but because you may have some issues stemming from your previous marriage.

I would definately consider moving to a bigger city if you think that it will benefit you.  Maybe also start taking up some  hobbies to take your mind off finding someone.

Best of luck

Answer 7

You're not shallow, I suppose, I mean, I'm the same way, there is always something wrong every guy.

But guess what?

You're allowed to be picky! There are no set rules, with dating and what you "should" or "shouldn't" do or what who is "right" and "wrong" for you. You get to choose, and I doubt it's the small town, because the right guy is going to come to you. That just the way it is, you're never going to find him if you are "looking" for him.

Honestly you know how I found the right one? How i Knew?

Because even though I found a hundred things wrong with him, for some reason they didn't bother me or i just "forgave" them, like with any other guy, some of the stuff he does would bother the h**l out of me, but with him, it bothers me, just not to that point.

So just keep living and he'll come to you, the one who you'll be able to look past the things that bother you, and love them, and he'll do the same for you.

Worked for me :)

Answer 8

sometimes it takes a while after something as traumatic as a marriage gone bad for someone to move on to someone else.  Not everyone falls down and jumps right back up.  It'll happen eventually.

Answer 9

Hahahaha, this is truly ridicules. You're 21 and you speak on your situation as if you were 35. First things first, calm the h**l down. What's the rush? Second, come down from your ivory tower. Because, I'm pretty d**n sure you're not perfect. You don't think these guys you're "dating" are going to have make some type of "sacrifice" with you? Maybe your b***s are too small, or you butt is too big, or you talk like a freakin' 12 yr. old with a sugar high. Bottom line, get your butt outta that one horse town and enjoy your life while you're young. You will meet the right guy when the time is right. Good luck.