Not wanting to get married?

Question

I am 25 years old and 2 years ago was in a relationship where I was engaged to a man who eventualy left me for an arranged marriage brought on by his parents. The end result is my lack of a desire to ever get married. I have a few friends who think its completely abnormal that I never want to get married.What are your thoughts on this?

Answer 1

i can totally understand ur hurt...it may take awhile to meet someone...dont shut yourself out...but i know of alot of people who are in their 30's 40's and even 50's that dont even like to date...they are very in touch with their friends and dont need or want someone to be attached to...it is totally normal...most if not all of them are extreamely successful too...if you find someone you find someone if not you dont you shouldnt have to do something that makes you unhappy that defeats the point..only YOUR heart will tell you what you want not other ppl...

Answer 2

its normal. you're alright. tell you're friends to be quiet. its you're life you do what you want.  

Answer 3

Well honestly I don't think that there is anything wrong with not wanting to get married.. I've never been married and don't have any signs of getting married anytime soon. to much of a hassle I think.

Answer 4

Considering what you went through, I think your entitled to that opinion. That may change in time but for now that's how you feel and your friends just need to respect that.  

Answer 5

I used to agree with you, but now I realize that is not what I want.  I want to share my life with someone, have kids and a family.  It is for some people, but some people are not cut out for it.  You might change your mind over time, I know I did.  But I certainly have a few friends who would be content being by themselves their whole lives.  So I dont think that you are alone.

Answer 6

If you dont ever want to get married its your life and your choice and tell your friends that not everybody wants to get married.

Answer 7

lots of people never get married. your happiness shouldn't depend on your marital status.

Answer 8

you are still young and it is OK to not want to date for a while.  I have a feeling by next year you will meet a nice guy and will be good to you. I met my 2nd husband after being single 13 years and swore I would never marry.  wish you the best!

Answer 9

hey not 2 people actually think the same remember that n not evryone is gonna b happy with ur decision...i'm 27 yrs old n think just like u,i don't wanna get married cuz i think once u do ur whole relationship goes down the toilet..in my case i have been together with my "hubby" for 9 years without any paper sayin that we r married n live happily evr after with 3 girls n i do feel that if i ever sign a paper stating we are legally married that-that's were it will all end for us...

Answer 10

I'm 22 and I feel just like you. I don't have a strong desire to get married either. You can still be committed to someone without having that piece of paper that says you are husband and wife. Marriage isn't easy and I wouldn't go into it until you feel you are ready and then later realize you made a mistake or you weren't at that point in your life yet. Just tell yourself that you when you get married it won't be arranged you will be marrying for the right reasons. When the time comes it will be right. Don't rush, just relax and it will happen when it's right for you. I think the engagement hurt you a little give your self some time to heal.

Answer 11

I think you got painfully burned and are shutting down your heart as a result of it. It's terrible what happened to you but don't shut out love and become bitter either.

Love is amazing and you are still young. Give it time. Once you heal and find a wonderful man you may end up finding you want to get married. If not, well, you'll be missing out on a lot.