Now her boyfriends coming?

Question

im going to miami with 3 of my friends for one of their birthdays. we have been planning this forever and now last minute one of the girls boyfriend wants to tag along and bring his brother and possibly a friend because he doesnt trust his girlfriend. ugh. im kind of upset because i dont want it to be a couple thing because one of the guy friends likes the birthday girl...i dont want to spend money to be miserable...sorry if confusing...i dont know if i want to go now because her boyfriend wants to stay in an expensive hotel when we planned to stay somewhere affordable...has this happened to anyone....how would you handle this.....everything about the trip is changing to accomodate the boyfriend

Answer 1

ya well i had something simaler happen tell the b day girl its kinda weird haveing the boys there and we alread planned things out now hes changing every thing. and that it should be her choose

                             good luck tell me how it goes

Answer 2

Stick with your original plan and let the boyfriend do his own thing. He wasn't included in your original plans in the first place. Stand  up for  yourself. Good luck.  

Answer 3

Have you said anything to your friends about this? this is something that you need to express to them, even if they get cut up about it... at the end of the day your not going on a ccouples retreat your there as a mate for your best mates birthday and spending a h**l of alot of money to be there for her... the decion it really up to you ultimently, but really whats the point i wouldnt go...

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

you can leave without her & her b..f. or cancel the whole thing or be strict and say we go as planed or not at all... what else can you do...

Answer 5

you should totally tell her how you feel..(well..not the part where you like..)but tell her that you've planned this trip for her..to make her happy..not the boyfriend..it's not his b'day..so..i'm saying..don't give a **** about the so called boyfriends thoughts..just do what you planned to do from the beginning..and hope it all turns out well..i mean you want this to be a joyful holiday ryte?

Answer 6

I think the program with the boy friend should be kept separate and you three only should go

Answer 7

well if those guys aint payin then they shouldnt go its his problem if he cant trust his girlfriend...but if they pay and you guys vote on it then theres nuthin much you can do

Answer 8

Say you don't want to go because of all the people, trust me, you will get your way

Answer 9

Nope.  I would never put up with that.  Its your trip, you don't need to accommodate some random guy.  Tell your friends that you were hoping it would be a girl's weekend and, at min., that you refuse to change the hotel reservations.  IF they insist that you stay at an expensive place, tell them you can't afford it and cancel the trip.  

Answer 10

why don't you go separately? or tell the guys if they want to go they can go in a different car and stay in whatever hotel they want to.