OH GOODNESS, Help~! Would I be evil if I went out with one of my BFFs' Crushes?

Question

I am starting to feel evil and mean because of this. I dated her EX bf, her crush (I had no idea that time), and her brother. Whatever this "girl code" thing is, I must not be feeling it. She is the best friend ever, so nice and all. She has never complained once when I did these things.

Her crush just asked me out though in French class yesterday and I told him I would get back to him and thanks. Now I have French on Friday and he probably wants an answer.

(I would not know if I like him or not or anything because I have never liked a guy before I actually started dating him.)

Answer 1

your friend is gonna tell you that you can go out with him cause she's your friend. but i wouldn't do it. think would you want her to go out with your crush or ex or whatever. she wont say anything but that doesn't mean she won't feel betrayed in a way

Answer 2

I don't think that's okay. Since you know that your best friend likes him, it would probably be a good idea to just let that dude go. It's always friends before dudes unless your best friend is the guy you're dating. Or you could tell her. But I honestly would never tell my friend that the guy they liked wanted to date me. That wouldn't be very nice.

Answer 3

uh i would say yeah. once my friend went out with the guy i'd had a crush on for almost a year and i was completley crushed. its like a slap in the face that he wants her. not you. and that your not as good as her. and it sucks.

Answer 4

Have you discussed this with your bff? You know, the code doesn't stand if your friend doesn't care. If she does care, I'd suggest you honor the code and keep a friend. Just tell they guy you respect you friend and can't accept his invitation. If you go ahead and accept the date, you risk losing your bff. Is this guy worth all that? It's your decision, nobody can tell you what to do.  

Answer 5

ask your bff first and hear what she has to say. if she's ok with it then its all good.

good luck

Answer 6

Your friend sounds great for not letting these little things get to her!  Still, though, I encourage you to stave off this time.  Let your friend know you care and make sure to show you've got commendable limits!