OK, i was just wondering IF my mom gets re-married....

Question

OK, so ive only ever been to 1 wedding when i was like 3 ? and all i remember was shouting pout in the middle of the ministers vowz (or is that whathes / there called? im not too up to code on that lol.) shouting out 'Mommy... why is everyone crying? i thout weddings were supposed to be happy' well, anyways... im not too sure how they work. i was wondering if i would have time to do this:

OK, so if my mom were to get re-married, me and my sisters would be bridesmaids, so we would have to do the hole aisle thing... but one of us would have to great the guests... well someone would. anyways i want to do this duty. i want to know, if i would have time to greet the guests wearing a dress i picked out (NOT my bridesmade dress) then, once all the guests have arrived, change into my bridesmade dress quickly then get the ceremony over with.

so, basically my question is do i have time to do this? and if so, would it be weird?

also, after the bride and groom are married oficially, is there anything after that? if so, would it be weird if i weird to change into another dress?

ok, i know this was hard to understand and it may seem selfish of me to be thinking about thiss if my mom may be getting married, but i just want to know=] TY!

Answer 1

You can do what you want or your mum can I mean, it is her wedding.  The typical role of bridesmaids would not allow this as they travel to the wedding with the bride and everyone is already inside seated.  Also you would generally be busy prior to this getting photos done.  Generally there is a reception where the cake gets cut, the bridal waltz takes place and you all have dinner.  This would be in your bridesmaid dress still.  As I said though things can be changed from the traditions but it is your mum's choice as it would be her day.  Speak to her about it and see if she is happy for this.

Answer 2

Generally bridesmaids don't greet the guests as they arrive with the bride for the ceremony after all the guests have been seated. Usually it is the usher's job to greet the guests and seat them.

You might be able to do this as a bridesmaid but you would be cutting it pretty fine time-wise to meet the bride and other bridesmaids, especially if guests are arriving just as the ceremony is about to begin.  It would also not be possible if photos were being taken beforehand of the bride and her family- which they usually are.

As for the change of outfits- generally the bridesmaid wear the same dress to both the ceremony and reception. But your mother might be happy to break with tradition, so I'd ask her before planning anything.

If you were to be an usher as well, you could change into your bridesmaid dress after doing this job if you wanted to but you wouldn't have much time to change your makeup etc. as the person suggested above.

Answer 3

Dear "one strange cookie".  I would say that you can change your clothes as often as you wish.  Why not have one outfit to greet the guests, one outfit to walk down the aisle, one outfit for the reception line, an outfit for the first dance, an outfit for the main part of the reception, and an outfit for dessert (so you can mess on it).  Then, have an outfit to wear home afterwards.  Also, I suggest having a variety of hats to wear with each outfit.  I also think that you should bring along a variety of makeup to ensure that your colors match your outfits.  I also think a change in hairstyle is in order, to match the various hats you might wear.  Oh my, this sounds like a thrilling affair.

Answer 4

It would all depend on the wedding. Typically people are seated up until the start of the processional (when you and your mom and the groomsmen and the groom all enter), so you'd have to duck out a little bit early if you wanted to change. However your mom might decide to do something different.

And there is often something after the wedding, many couples have a reception. Again, you might very well not have time to change, as there are often pictures in any time that there might be between the end of the wedding and the start of the reception. And the wedding party normally doesn't change (this, of course, depends on the culture), as this is a celebration of the wedding that just happened, and so you're still "in costume" as it were.