OK, who else thinks this is strange?

Question

My daughter used to be friends with this girl, but stopped because the girl became really mean to her and called her names.

Today I got an e-mail from the girl's mom. It said:

Dear Gabbie,

I understand Roxi and Brianna are no longer friends. Well, I have treated Roxi to a fair amount of stuff and you owe me for it. Here is your bill:

Jonas Brothers T-shirt: $25

Jesse McCartney Dog Tag:$10

Webkinz Tye Dye Frog: $14

Webkinz Lil'Kinz Tree Frong: $11

Webkinz Wedding Dress-$9

McDonalds: $4

Pretzel Time: $5.50

Dunkin Donughts: $2.30

Birthday Card-$4.95

$20 in cash

___________

Total: $105.75

Please pay me by June 6th.

Thank you,

Linda

Isn't this weird? I e-mailed her back asking if she was joking and she said no!

What should I do? All of those things were gifts! She even showed me the reciepts! Please help! Do I really owe her?

Answer 1

Minors cannot enter into contracts or agreements and therefore cannot accrue debt.  You have nothing to worry about legally.  I believe that it is probably good that your daughter decided to end a friendship with a girl who's mother is obtuse at best.

Answer 2

That lady is messed up. They were gifts. She offered to buy them, right?? No you do not owe her sqwaut.

Answer 3

no tell her to kiss your ***...tell her to take you to court..she will pay more in court cost than you even "owe" her...is she as childish as her daughter??????

Answer 4

I agree with most of the people above, I would like to request that you don't prevent your child from speaking to/ being friends with Brianna anymore.  Just because parents get into an argument doesn't mean the children should have to suffer.  It is acceptable to not let Roxi go to Brianna's house anymore, but if she inquires as to why, please be open and honest with her.

Answer 5

Wow, like mother like daughter. Wonder where she gets her ****** attitude from? Look no more. I think you should call her and talk, since she can't be a woman and call you or even tell you that bullshit to your face. Tell her to grow up and start acting like a parent and start teaching her daughter some respect. Like a real mother would!

Answer 6

no u dont she did it out of kindness and if she wants to be a ***** than tell her thats b.s h**l no then never email her again

Answer 7

If they were gifts, then no.

However, this lady might get really ticked off if you don't pay and try to take legal action.

That sounds pretty dumb but I have a feeling that this lady might try.

Talk it over with her in person or over the phone. You shouldn't have to pay that but it would really suck if this situation gets waay out of hand.

Answer 8

WHAT A SILLY, SILLY WOMAN...You do not owe her anything except a Thank-You. Everyone buys things for their childrens friends and kids friendships are on and off relationships anyway,these two will more than likely be back to being friends next week...the woman (her mother) needs to grow up and stop acting like one of the kids! Ignore HER!

Answer 9

These are gifts, you did not ask her to buy anything for your daughter and she did, be honest with your daughter and show her the e-mail. You don't owe her a single cent so stop worrying email me for more advice

Answer 10

No, you don't.

If she keeps on bugging you, take her to court.

I'll bet you $ 105.75 that you'll win. :]

Answer 11

I would tell this mother that the items were gifts thus you do not owe her anything.  If she insists then I would box up everything and return the items to her.  How old are the girls?  I think it is definitely strange behavior for a mother to act this way.  Very immature as well.

Answer 12

Wow, what an immature thing to do, "I'm mad at you, pay me back for the gifts I gave you."

No, you don't owe her anything, this lady is acting like an immature twit and doesn't have a leg to stand on. Count your blessings these girls are no longer friends and if they make up, insist that your daughter is not permitted near this clearly unstable person.

I really like Verity's response and if I were you I would definately go with hers.

Answer 13

wow she's nuts

Answer 14

no if those were gifts

Answer 15

take it to the cops.

that's illegal for her to even ask that.

they'll cover everything up.

Answer 16

I'd write back.

Dear Linda:

While I appreciate your generosity to Roxi, it has always been my understanding that those things were just that - generous gifts and treats.  It's too bad that the girl's friendship ended, but I have no intention of tallying up my expenditures on Brianna and asking for compensation.  And frankly, I find it unspeakably rude that you would do so.

Sincerely,

Gabbie

BTW, she's asking for $5 back for a birthday card?  That's beyond bizarre - that's emotionally stunted!

You certainly don't owe her.  Unless she called you up and said, "I have the girls at the mall and Roxi asked if she can borrow $25 for a tee shirt.  What would you like me to do?"  Or said, "I'll drive the girls to McDonald's, you can pay me later."  If there was no request for permission at the time the purchase was made, it's a gift.

Let her take you to small claims court.  It will cost her more than half of what you "owe" her just to file.  And she won't win.

Answer 17

Did she keep Tally over a period of time? or was this all in one day?  This parent is not dealing with the break-up of the girls relationship very well...So to get back at you she is now wanting you to pay up...Did you question the gifts/treats when you daughter brought them home?  I would wonder where it all came from...Did you send any money with your daughter when she went out with her friend...I always send money with my children so the other family does have expenses with my child.  Even when there is a sleep over, I send snacks or help out with pizza, etc.  I do not feel you owe this woman anything but a "sympathy" card...Because the only one in this situation who is dying inside is that mother...don't worry about it...it will never hold up in court...if she wanted a refund, she should have  ask for it immediately...then you could have told her enough is enough! Refer her to this yahoo question and answer session...she may see what complete strangers think about her nonsense...

Answer 18

wow. good thing your daughter is no longer friends with hers.

Why not send her a bill for the emotional hurt that her daughter has caused yours by all the names she has called her. Make it come to $105.75 and suggest you call it even.

Very wrong of the mother

Answer 19

e-mail her back saying this was in her words her treat and you never requested her to do in the 1st place, tell her the girls are not speaking to each other now but they may reconcile in the future then what,  Tell her you will not be paying the bill that she has presented because it is rubbish and not to contact you about this matter again.

Answer 20

You know, this is scary because recently (on the US national news) a young girl committed suicide because a "mom" masquerading as a young boy, had an online conversation/relationship with this poor girl. This "involvement" of parents in their kids' affairs is becoming a problem.

Firt she says she "treated" Roxie , not she's charging for it?

This woman has a problem.  Keep Roxie away from Brianna too. What a shame. I'd be sure to let other parents know as well as the teachers and principal at school.

I'd just laugh it off. (but print a copy and save it on your computer for reference). Don't pay a cent!

Again, a parent is acting like a child. You may never know what this is really about. I tried hard not to involve myself in my kids issues unless it was really needed.

Answer 21

Maybe that is why your daughter is no longer friends with hers. That mother is crazy. She should have never bought her anything if she wanted you to repay her. What a nut!

Answer 22

That is ridiculous. Simply respond with "It is in poor taste to demand compensation for gifts, and I refuse to pay, let alone contribute to such obsequious behavior. If you persist in this, I will have my lawyer send you MY bill." What gets me the most is the charge for a birthday card! I can see where your daughter's former friend got her "maturity."

Answer 23

I wouldn't pay her back. It was gifts ! Tell her to get lost

Answer 24

Save your e-mail.  She has shot herself in the foot.  She states that the items were treats.  No one is expected to pay for treats they have received!!  This woman is simply on a tear and has decided to try to get the best of you.  No judge in the country (other than the girl's dad - who would have to be recused) would expect you to re-pay her for these items.

A birthday card?  really!!

Teach your daughter not to be petty and move on with your lives.

Good luck.

Answer 25

Thats not someone I would want as a friend because they are too co.nsumed with monetary c**p.

Answer 26

no you dont "owe" her and tell her that simply. you didnt ask her to buy these things, and she is redisulous for asking. blessings

Answer 27

if they really were gifts then you don't owe her anything. And if she tried taking you to court, the judge would tell her the same thing.

Answer 28

No! If she says they were gifts, then no. If she keeps bugging you to pay her, take her to court! She'll totally lose.

Good luck! Keep us posted. xD lol

Answer 29

I think that lady is full on crazy.  You did not ask her to buy these things.....she did so out of the "goodness of her heart".  It is sad that your daughter is no longer friends with hers, but that does not obligate you to anything.  And I think out of all of the things she said you owed her for the b-day card is the saddest.  How can you begrudge anyone a b-day card??

Answer 30

they are "gifts" you don't owe her anything!!

Answer 31

OK, that is really odd.....how can she call them gifts if she wants to be repaid for them?  That's what I would ask her.  Truthfully, you don't owe her a dime because she took it upon herself to spend that money on your child, you never agreed to it, asked for it, or had any type of agreement upfront that you would reimburse her for things she decided to spend money on.