OK maybe I am being pAranoid?

Question

but i saw my BF adjusting my daughters skirt..like he was tucking it in or something...when i saw this it made me feel very uncomfortable..and so i asked my dughter if he touched her in an unapproprite manner she said no.....i love my child and I really dont trust anyone around her..I k now that there are some sick men out there....i do trust my BF but again he is a man and men sometimes think only with their..stuff...part of me wanted to ask him..lie what were doing...SHOULD I

Answer 1

trust your daughter when she says he didnt touch her, she wouldnt lie to you, if you're still concerned just keep a close eye on them when he is with her and trust your instincts, boyfriends come and go but she is your daughter and if he hurts her, she will be scarred for life.

Answer 2

h emight want to help ik my husband loves to help dress my kids and help around with them and he just loves kids so thats y but go with ur heart and god will lead to the right path

Answer 3

First I have to say hats off to single mothers around the world because parenting is tough- I realize this even though I have a great husband.  I really believe in following the parental instinct.  If your gut tells you that something is not right with the picture, trust it.  Better safe than sorry, especially when it comes to the safety of your child.  I don't know you or your BF, so this is blind advice.  It sounds like you two have not been dating long so there is not a lot of trust there- which is understandable.  Until you are sure everything is okay, don't leave your daughter in his presence alone- even for a few minutes.  The best way to protect your daughter is to teach her to be her own advocate.  My daughter is 3 and we have had the stranger talk and the private parts talk (more than one time).  I taught my daughter which parts are private and that no one should touch them.  I also told her that if someone does try to touch them, she is to yell, "No.  This is my private part and you can not touch it!"  She also knows to tell either myself or her father right away.  We also talked about what to do if a stranger talks to her without her mom or dad around.  She knows to yell, "You're a stranger!" and then run away.  She also knows that if someone were to grab her, she is to kick, scream, and try to get away.  We have had a lot of talks about what a stranger looks like- most kids think they look like mean monsters.  We sometimes create senerios and she tells us what she would do.  She calls it the stranger game.  Some might say that we are scarying our child, but we are not.  We have had these talks in the comfort of our home and she feels very comfortable talking about it.  She has never been alarmed or scared.  No matter how hard you try, you can't be with your daughter 24/7 the entire time she is growing up.  It is better to teach her how to protect herself.

Answer 4

Yes, you're being paranoid.  If you can't trust this guy with something simple like that, you will have trouble maintaining any kind of relationship with him.

edit:  If any gf of mine accused me of something like this I would immediatly leave her.  There has to be some level of trust.

Answer 5

ok, you need some help!  That's like asking if you should call child services becasue he was tying her shoe.  Grow up, and realize that not all men are child rapists.  by your logic, all women must me child molesters as well becasue a bunch of teachers are sleeping with underage students.

Answer 6

If you feel the least bit uncomfortable with your boyfriend and think he may be touching your daughter wrong or not you should break up with him. If you discuss the issue with him that's your choice, I wouldn't, I would just break it off where it stands if there is anything that makes me uncomfortable.

Answer 7

Don't just yet.

Calm down. Trust your daughter to tell you the truth. Explain politely to him that you don't like him doing that and that it ticks your mommy alarms off.

Keep a good eye on your little girl at all times. I totally understand how you feel -- I went through stuff as a kid, no way I'm letting anything happen to my nieces or my own kids when I have them.

Answer 8

I agree I think you are over reacting.  I do understand though as I have a 5year old.  But seriously it seems you have nothing to worry about and if you ask your BF if anything happened you will lose this person.  If this person is close to you do you really think they are capable of this?

Answer 9

asking him could stir up more trouble than need be and it's perfectly normal to be protective of your child. just watch him around her and if he's being funny then asking him about it.

Answer 10

well i dont know but even my husband wont adjust our own daughters skirt he would say "hey mama fix her skirt for her." go with your instinct. blessings.