OK...so enough...have a question about adoption?

Question

how do you go about ways of finding 2 kids that were placed up for adoption in the 60's....mothers name was spelled wrong on original BC and the place that handled the adoption no longer exists..this took place in Ca...anyone know of a place to contact...I only know...that the adoptive parents kept the names of the kids the same...which was Tammy and David...they would actually be in their mid 30's late 40's...however without proper papers etc...adoption registry just hasn't worked...mother has tried...

Answer 1

I thought California had birth index.  You can check that way too.  If you have a birthdate you can go from there.

Answer 2

Adoption reunion registers only work if both parties place their names on the register. (I'm not sure if you knew that - I'm just letting you know if you don't)

Perhaps also check for dates around the date your mother gave birth - as sometimes dates are put down incorrectly. And perhaps check various spellings also. (try anything really!)

Check out Adoption Crossroads here -

http://    www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

(cut & paste - then take out the gaps after //)

then click on the link in the left side bar - marked SEARCH.

Many search angels work through here to try to find loved ones separated through adoption.

Gershom and Robin really are super sleuths also in the searching game. The more info you can give them - the more they can help.

Side note: I think we got off on the wrong foot somehow - and I'm sorry for that. You postings originally came off as someone putting adoptees down - and I'm very protective of adoptee-peeps.

I think it's a complete crime how so many mothers were forced into relinquishing their children (my grandmother did the same to my mother - sending her to another state and told her to not come home 'with that baby' - me).

That's why so many adoptees here speak out. No mother and child should be separated - just because it suits other people.

Just my honest opinion.

Anyhoo - I wish your family all the best with the search.

ETA: your mum is very lucky to have your support. My mum is not coping well with my re-appearance - but I'm in contact with my father (her husband) and hoping that she'll come around one day. She was told to go home and never talk about it - not a great way to grieve really.

If you go to my blog -

http://   chezblot.blogspot.com/

(close up the gap after //)

and check out all the links on the right. (click on the words and lists will appear)

There are first mother bloggers, adoptee bloggers and a whole host of support places for your mum.

Not too many adoptees I know are angry. Of course there are some. Just take things slow and put it out there that you all mean no harm.

Again - I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

www.registry.adoption.com

This is the largest registry--other than calling Montel or someone like that--they seem to find anyone.

Enter the birthdate, state of birth--you don't necessarily need the names, some will show up anyway.

Good luck finding your siblings.

Answer 4

You are confussing me! Stop it! Its not nice. By the way, dont even think of adoption. Dont you want your OWN child???

Answer 5

Have you contacted the county court or county department of social services where the adoption took place to see if they have any non-identifying information - or ANY information? Checked to see if the county has a registry? Signed up with that registry & authorize a release of information?

See this page:  http://www.childsworld.ca.gov/PG1314.htm

"The California Department of Social Services (CDSS), can provide non identifying background information on birth parents to adoptees. The information provided includes general facts about the birth parents and their medical history. This service is available only for adoptions that were finalized in California. You must request this information by writing directly to the licensed adoption agency, if known, or to the CDSS at the following address:

California Department of Social Services

Adoptions Support Unit

744 P Street, MS 3-31

Sacramento, CA 95814

You may be able to get some non-identifying information from the state at this site:  http://www.childsworld.ca.gov/

See this site for more info:

http://www.dhs.ca.gov/hisp/chs/OVR/amend...

Do you  know what hospital they were born in? Have you sent for any hospital records they might have?

Any idea what town/area they were adopted in? Have you tried classmates.com?

Are you related to them?  If possible, give more details, or send me an e-mail & I'll get back to you.  Where in CA. I live in CA...might be able to help?  Also, I've found my birth family.

Good luck.

Answer 6

not being funny but maybe contact some talk shows,maury ,montel,steve wilkos,tyra,dr.phil,oprah,really they are always reuniting families like yours. try reunion.com. just some ideas i thought might help.good luck!!!

Answer 7

remember there is a difference between closed and sealed.

Closed just means that birth and adoptive parents did know meet or know about each other.  

Sealed means a judges has to 'open' them up.  You might try with the county clerk where you think they might have gotten adopted.  At least that way you will know if the records are sealed and ask for them to be unsealed, thus having more infor ,

Answer 8

so was the adoption legal?

A BSE ( baby scoop era ) adoptee. I ache for your mother. You should buy "the girls who went away" by Ann Fessler and let her know it happened to thousands of mothers and shes not alone in her pain.

I wonder if they're on the birth index, I was born in california and adopted in california and I'm on it twice. Once under my birth name and once under my adopted name. In the same birthday. I heard ancestry.com has a good california birth index, there are search angels around on the web you can find to run a free search on there for you so you don't have to buy a subscription.

California is so ridiculous how they give adoptive parents all the power for contact and not the adoptee or surrendering parents.

I would try the birth index to may find their last names now. by their birthdate if possible.

Answer 9

Who shared with her that the adoptive parents kept their birth names? Do they have any more information for her? That would be a good place to start.

Answer 10

Have you tried googling David by his actual last name and the mispelled name? Easier to find a male since their last names doesn't change...also, I'm dead serious....search for them on Myspace...EVERYONE has a Myspace!