OK so my FSIL wants...?

Question

OK so my fiance and I are getting married next Saturday, well we have rented a nice cabin for Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Friday night we have invited some guest to stay with us for the night and help get things ready for the next morning. Those guest would be 2 out- of -state guest, FML (shes doing my hair the following morning, and my FH best friend. Well the FSIL has asked someone other than us of she, her fiance, and his 2 kids can come and hang out for a while on Friday night. We do not get the cabin until 4pm. Would it be wrong of me to tell her she can not come out as we will have way to much to do, and we will be going to bed early that night? A little background , we do not get along and she is really starting to annoy my FH as well. I feel as though she is trying to make this about her and trying to take the spot light off of my FH and I. She didnt even ask us if she could come. Should we tell her to stay home or just deal with her being there?

Answer 1

If you rented it, it's your decision. She doesn't get to just invite herself and her whole family along. Let her, or your FMIL, know in a nice and firm way that since it's the night before your wedding, there really will be quite a lot to get done and that it will be very crowded. Also, depending on how small her kids are, you can tell her that you don't want to have to deal with little kids running around and getting into everything.

Answer 2

tell her it will be to crazy with everything you guys have to do, but you would be more than happy to spend time with them after the wedding. ITS YOUR WEDDING, put your foot down!

Answer 3

Do not let her come to the cabin.  You had a good idea about getting things ready, who could help you, and when.  It sounds like a fun night, being with close friends getting ready for the wedding.  

She obviously doesn't have much direction or vision in her own life, let alone her wedding.  Why would you ask to go to a place that you weren't invited?  And further, why would you ask someone who is not the host?  That's just plain "bad form".  

The fact that she is copying your wedding is a compliment, really, to you.  She admires you, wants to do what you do, and loves your ideas.  She's just a little annoying at how she tries to pull it all off.  You are right.  It will be a copycat wedding.  So just let everyone see it for what it is.  People can see what kind of a person she is without you telling them.  So have class and don't say anything about her wedding.  Just keep your mouth shut and she will make herself look bad all on her own.

Answer 4

I don't see where wanting to come out and be a part of what seems like a family event as wanting to steal your spotlight. sorry but what you said really sounds egotistical.

Now either put your foot down and tell her that you've heard she wants to come out, but it's not a good idea because it's going to be organized chaos, or deal with her 'surprise' visit when and if it happens.

Answer 5

Just ask her not to come....tell her you can't handle that many people, you will just be too stressed. You can't handle that many people around you "you just know you'll be a nervous wreck"

Answer 6

It sounds like she wants to be part of the festivities.  I doesn't sound like she is making this all about her.  If you don't want her to come than ask her not to but it is going to look bad on your part.