OMG, i CANT BELIEVE I THOUGHT ABOUT THIS!?

Question

My bestfriend really likes this boy and it her ex. He called me the night before, and at first we would talk about her of course and then change the subject. I told him i felt wrong talking to him without talking about her. He said it wasnt a big deal. I tryed to get them back together but he says hes really over her. So we kept talking and i admitt i KINDA flirted with him. But i didnt mean too, i wouldnt to that to my bestfriend, and im talking to his bestfriend on top of that.

He had asked me if i wanted to sleep over his house, and i said yeah but i KNOW im not going to do anything, but i told him to keep it a secret and to NOT TELL ANYONE...he promised he wouldnt. So the next day he called me, and he asked if i was still going, i felt SO GUILTY i didnt want to do it...i felt WAY to bad but i still said yea. Then he called me back about an hour later and was like ima pick you up...I told him NO that we should just go to the game, and he got a little upset but he got over it.

So i ended up NOT going over even though i said i was and we were going to keep it a secret. Then he said he wanted to take me to the game, so when him and his cousin picked me up i thought we were going to the game from there, but i ended up going to his house for an hour so we can go the game. We didnt DO ANYTHING. Then we were at the game for an half hour alone, then people game.

AM I A BAD FRIEND?

WAS WHAT I DID WRONG??

WOULD YOU BE MAD????

Answer 1

No its not bad and you're not a bad friend.

If you Kinda flirted with him its no big deal

And if you went to the game with him and went to his house then everything is alright

You got to go to his house

And he took you to the game

WHATS THE BIG DEAL?

Answer 2

true friends don't see their friends exes its against the rules unless they talk to their friend otherwise and why keep it a secret you're going to the game together people are going to see you and eventually it'll catch up with your friend so either way you are going to betray her. You already know how she feels about this guy and flirting or talking or even agreeing sleeping over his house is wrong and thats not what friends do to each other.

Answer 3

i think that you should not hang out with him unless you are a bunch of freinds. you can still be friends but i wouldnt want to be alone. also, i think that if you hang with him just as a friend then your friend will probably think you are more than friends and she will think that you betrayed her. and i wouldnt keep the friendship a secret cause it makes it sound like the friendship is a  relationship. good luck.  

Answer 4

No you're actually being a really good friend with trying to resist him and stay away from him!

Don't worry about it... its not as if hes your best friends BOYFRIEND and even if he was, no harm done... you didn't do anything wrong.

Don't stress!!

Answer 5

dont worry, this is just drama and it happens to the best of us.

just be chill and relax.

if you feel really guilty, explain to your friend everything that happend.

if she is truely your friend, she will understand.

Answer 6

I can't even follow this, put it in short terms, what did you do with who and then repost

Answer 7

Sounds like you're not sure how you feel about him, but don't you know the first rule of friendship... STAY AWAY FROM YOUR BEST FRIEND'S EX. No flirting, no secret converstations and no sleeping over. Why are you telling him to keep secrets from your friend? You have to get your priorities right and your loyalties too. That is not right to do as a friend, you are betraying her and if she finds out she would see it as a stab in the back. Find your own men.

Answer 8

Tbh. It's sounds all very complicated to me,lol.

anywho, you are not a bad friend, you didn't do anything wrong! You're friend i think has to realize that this boy doesn't want her, and is over her:/ Plus if she got angry about the two of you being mates and stuff, shes not a very reliable friend, if she can't understand that (not saying she wouldn't!, lol) the two off you are hanging. Plus it sounds like this guy likes you, so she can't be angry at you, if she were:).

I personally wouldn't be mad, but people are different and depends what upsets them, but i'm sure if she were a true friend she would be fine with it:)

Hope this has helped, sorry if it hasn't.

Luv Holly