OMG!!!!!!!!! I'M SCARED OF MY LIFE!?

Question

More than two weeks ago, this girl, and I were heading to the back of the school accompanied with several other people. We then started socking each other and fighting. The girl won and she left me with a bleeding nose only. The next day I was fighting with this girl who's a nerd and I spit on her. I’m 19 years old and currently in 12 grade, I flunked 10th grade because school's a b****. I am very intelligent though. Anyways, right when I did that, these three 12 graders that are boys ganged up on me and started punching me. These guys left me a black eye and a bleeding nose again. When I got home my mom cleaned me up. Later that night, I received a call from one of my former friends and she told me that the three boys want to get me tomorrow, still more than two weeks ago. I got scared and then she told me that if I tell someone, their going to kill my family. So I didn’t go to school the following two weeks. This morning I was getting ready for school and then realized my hair straighter doesn’t work so I order another one over the internet but it’s going to come next week. So I decided to start school next week again because my hair is long, curly, and ugly. I then get a call from the school saying that I’m not going to graduate 12 grade because I already missed ten days of school. I started to cry because I’m turning 20 in September and that’s when I’ll start my new year in 12 grade yet again. Then I got another call saying that the boys are going to beat me up no matter what I do or don’t! I told my mother the whole story and she got pretty pissed but said it’s my entire fault. What should I do? My life as of now is ruined! By the way, mostly everybody at school hates me, and I’m pretty sure including my family.

Answer 1

Please bring a knife, do no hesitate, if they attack you, then you responded in self defense, get a really big knife and don't hesitate to use it, stab them in the arm.

Answer 2

Intelligence -  you dont have it, this is ridiculous 6 year old behaviour, unbelievable...

Answer 3

are you unhappy with yourself, or unhappy with your family life. what is very puzzeling to me is that you say that your smart but reading your story  you chose to make unsmart decisions by fighting for one and not trusting in the police or your family to help you with what you were facing. look if you really wanted to graduate  you  would have  at least made some kind of an effort to make it to school . hair is not important ,i would have found something else to do to my hair and went to school.please take a moment and read the things you wrote in your question and truly ask your self, what you did to contribute to your problems and why you feel it's not your fault , so who's fault is it if not your's. word of advice and wisdom/ sometimes we find it easier to blame others for our problems and also what we do wrong / if we just honestly except the things we do in life then and only then will we be able to live life on a better note and understand ourselves better.

Answer 4

this time...respect other people stay out of trouble and pay attention in class and start acting your age

Answer 5

stop fighting smart ***;

I'm only thirteen but i think i know a lot in that area.

apologize beg plead, and to what ever it takes to get them caught.

if you are scared, don't let them no that, make them THINK that you have a gun and your ready to use it:)

or that people are actually on your side and i'd be

a really bad move to kick your *** again.

Answer 6

troll

Answer 7

you are your own worst enemy.  you create all of your own problems and then blame everything but yourself.

too bad that the bully got the bully!!!  frankly I'm surprised that you have not been put in jail for the fighting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

you are 20 getting no where in school, why don't you just go out and get a job and be a contributing member of society for a change!!!!!!!!

i agree with your  mother, and at your age you should be paying her some rent instead of giving her more heartache!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Drop out? Im sorry if its not the right answer, and its not a good one. Or move to a different school.

Answer 9

Hi, im really sorry to hear about ur situation. I dont really know much about ure school system so not sure where ure at.

But u really need to do something about this. Nobody should be in fear of their life while going to school. Is there anyone in school u can talk to? a teacher etc...?

At 19 almost 20 ure pretty much an adult. Could u finish ur school elsewhere and maybe work part time to support urself or move in with a relative in another area and change school?

If u r being assaulted would u not go to the police? Nobody has the right to lay a finger on u especially making as scared as u are. Maybe this might scare them off. Either way u need to protect urself 1st regardless of what anyone else thinks or feels.

If ure mum is getting pissed at u and telling u its ur fault u need to find someone to talk to who will support u.

Good luck, i hope u sort it out.

Answer 10

If three guys beat u up and you whole school hates you then you are doing something wrong. And it is your fault because you can go to the police and they can deal with it. A i on 1 fight is something the school can deal with, if you got beat up by three guys then they can go to jail for that. Did you know if you are getting jumped by like 5 people you have the right to shoot and kill? just letting you know when something like that happens your not supposed to run home and cry. Life's not always easy, missing 10 days of school will not cause you to flunk as long as your grades are good. U say you are intellegent... well if you really were you would have gone to the police and still been in school. its not that hard to graduate.

Answer 11

u sound like trouble

Answer 12

Omg gosh sounds really tough! try speaking to an adult or a school princpal for the problem. bullying is also a problem related to school even if its outside of it. Threatning to kill your family is even worse! much worse! You should tell someone soon. This is a situtaion the police should be involved in. Now I don't think because your hair is curly you should miss school...but for the the ones who beat you up it can be hard to face school. I would really recomend telling someone then hiding away from this problem. It will only make it worse. You friends are being cruel saying they want to kill your family! If things seem to get worse talk to your parents. I'm sure they care about you and want to keep you safe! I wish you luck! Hope this really helps you!  

Answer 13

So far from what I have read, you are probably already

kicked out of school. What I suggest is to do online

schooling, that way you can still graduate online. You

may be a couple months late though depending on

what days registration starts but the registration dates

are every couple months so the worst that could happen

is you'd still be completing courses throughout next summer.

PS: I suggest you go back to school though and try to

talk things out with the principle and explain to him/her

the reason why you've been missing school and tell

them that you know that you shouldn't have been fighting

but honestly if someone is threatening you it's good to

protect yourself and you did that by staying home so that

was a good idea except the school doesn't know the

story. If that doesn't work tell the police and how these

3 boys are threatening you. If they do it again they can

be charged. If you have a good enough reason the school

CANNOT deny you your education.

Answer 14

You're intelligent, yet you flunked 10th grade. o_0

Ironic.

Hmmmmmm

Can't you make up credits at a Jr. college?  

Answer 15

enlist in the marines. or work a corner. or stick it out and try to make up to everyone u wronged

Answer 16

You are 19 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you. Chances are you will not see many of the immature kids after high school.  

First, you need to let the school and authorities know that you have been threaten by these 3 boys and perhaps a restraining order is in need.  May I suggest that if you get into the fight in the near future take pictures as proof in the event you want to seek protection from authorities.

Secondly, I'm concerned about your well being.  By your words, I feel that you have a lot of negativity.  Saying that your family and school hates you are perceptions which are not healthy. I would suggest talking to a counselor or seeking therapy to help with your self esteem. It reminds me of something that I heard one time, "if everybody likes you then you are doing something wrong." Not everyone is going to like one another and you can't feed into it.  You have to make yourself happy and focus on you and how you feel about yourself.  This is your life what you make of it all depends on you.  Not everything in life is going to be peaches and cream.  You have to say to yourself everything that has happened I can't change, but what I do tomorrow I have control over.

As for school, that is right, you are 19 and 20 is on the way.  You don't want to spend your 20's in high school.  Perhaps you and your mother can go to the school and explain the situation maybe they can have some kind of understanding about the situation that happened and let you finish the year and graduate.  Now if you have to repeat the 12 grade then see if you can transfer to another school and make a fresh start far away from the school that you are in.  Even if you have to go to another state and live with a family member.  I'm not sure if these are options for you or not but I have to put it out there.  If you can't transfer and have to repeat the 12 grade then you need to take this time to get your life on track and stop all the fighting over stupid stuff.

Lastly,  at 19 years old you should know better than to start fights and spitting at someone.  If you want people to respect you then you have to respect others. If you don't like to be hit then you don't hit.  If you are intelligent as you say you are then know that fighting has caused you  nothing but heartache and pain.  Fighting doesn't get you a nice house,a good job or valuable friends. If you want the good life then you have to take all this anger and throw it away. Become the person deep down inside you are capable of.

One more thing, people pay to get long curly hair. Look yourself in the mirror and say to yourself that you are a beautiful person and you have made some mistakes in the past, but you want a bright future and a happy, healthy life.  

Good luck!

Answer 17

well, yes, this is all your fault.

and you did bring this upon yourself.

but you know what works, for real?

the word is  'apologize'

and i am dead serious.

if you go to school, and you meet these three boys again, what you should do is apoligize to them, and then go out of your way t apoligise to those girls you beat up.

and dont go bickering about how you dont want to do that.

in truth, your life will turn out SO much better if you sust say that your sorry.

i bet you havent thought of that.

Answer 18

tell the principle and maybe they will understand

who cares if they beat you up? wont it be worth it if you get to graduate?  

Answer 19

what?? you spit on a "nerd". you are at least a year older than the people in your school and you are getting into fights? WWHHAATT??

you sound like a thug who has gotten into some trouble and now your scared. granted boys dont hit girls period, but what is the background to this? are you starting these fights?

it sounds like you mom is right. you should change attitude,then schools or change attitude and get your ged.

Answer 20

You don't sound very intelligent, calling people names and spitting on people and getting into fights.  And missing 10 days of school because you don't like the way your hair looks?  Wow.

Answer 21

Well it doesnt sound like its your entire fault but you should really look into the aggressive-ness. Being 19 you are an adult and if you end up getting into a fight with someone you thought was 18 but turns out they are 17 you are totally screwed. But try talking to your principal at school if there is nothing you can do but start school again next year then maybe you should look into an alternative school. That is what I did and I was a year and a half behind and ended yup graduating half a year early. It was totally worth it. As far as your friends and family if they dont support you and back you up they are not worth having in your life anyways, but look on the bright side if you do have to go back to that school those people will be graduated :) Hope it helps

Answer 22

You're the one who chose fighting besides you're acting immature.

Answer 23

Talk to a school counselor, teacher, your principal. Maybe you can a "High School Equivalency Examination" get your diploma and get out of High school.

Answer 24

why dont u tell the cops??  

Answer 25

You say you're intelligent... honestly. You're nearly twenty and you are beating up kids at school? That doesn't sound like a very 'intelligent' action, to me.

Stop fighting and focus on school, then maybe you'll get your grades.

Answer 26

i think that you should move away from wherever you are.maybe relocate to a new city. start your life over. new people, friends, school etc....and i would recommend you somehow try and finish school somewhere, you could also opt for the adult high school diploma at a community college. its a basic necessity(i think) for your future. and also dont go and spit on people or start fight for stupid reasons. be nice to people.  anyways good luck to you.

Answer 27

First call police tell then tell them what's transpired there.Second get your butt to school and tell thcounseloror why this happened.Tell then your mother isn't making the right decision.That's provided you telling the truth.What you put into school is what you get out of it.

Your education is the most important decision you'll make.

Believe me times are very hard and they won't get better much.

You better be prepaired.

Answer 28

You need to get your priorities straight! Forget about these stupid kids, you are causing trouble for yourself and you just need to drop out of high school. Find a program that takes 6 months than get your GED and go to college. Or do whatever you want to do. You don't need to go to the school you go to now because it's obvious you don't like it, you don't like the people there and you don't care about that school. You at least need your high school degree so either change schools or drop out and get your GED.

Answer 29

ur being rather dramatic. ur family can't hate you. the people at school are... well they'll always just be people at school. it's not ur fault (well, then there's the thought if u're so smart, why do u spit on nerds?) don't start fights, don't take part in them. u should know better tho than 2 fight. those boys, they may be joking, but i say u notify the police.  

Answer 30

You are sick!!! b**** .

People got so many things to worry, and you waist your life fighting with people and waisting time.

I tell you what, don't do anything with your life, just eat with your parents money and sit in 12 grade till your bored.

Oh wait, i'm not sure if you are smart enough to understand, that this is not an advice. So let me put it clear to you this is not AN ADVICE pls do not follow it.