OMG...I don't know if I can do this!!!!?

Question

I'm 38 weeks and 6 days pregnant, I'm being induced on September 2nd. It is really setting in that in less then a week I will have our son. I'm even hoping he doesnt come before the 2nd now because I am GBS + and I'm scared if he comes earlier then I wont have enough time to get the medicine they give you for that. I am just scared to death right now, I don’t know why this wasn’t setting in before, but I was just excited and still buying things and still thinking in my head I had plenty of time yada yada, NOW I’m scared to death cause it’s really setting in that I’m about to go through the most painful event of my whole life, and going to have a whole new life to take care of. Anyone have any last minute advice for me, calm me down maybe? Everything is just now occurring to me all at once, I am scared to death about labor, I’m scared my body wont know what to do, I’m regretting not taking classes with my fiancé, I’m scared I am going to push out the wrong end, I’m scared I’m going to wind up with a c-section. What if I go into really fast labor before my induction date and it goes so fast they don’t have time to give me the stuff for me GBS and something happens to my son? I’m just really starting to get paranoid about EVERYTHING. Please help :(

Answer 1

Rest assured that almost all women go through what you are going through right now as a first time mother to be. Your body will know what to do, look online for some last minute tips since you missed the classes. About pushing out the wrong end it is very normal for this to happen, i know about 4 women off hand that went into labor and this happend, the doctor will have seen it before if you do it, don't let it embarrass you just keep in mind that bundle of joy your going to be having very soon. If you go into labor before your induction just simply tell the hospital you are GBS positive and all will be taken care of. They will have enough time. As for a c-section that was my biggest fear with my first and i ended up having one because she was breach. It is not such a bad thing honestly, just take some deep breaths and know that no matter what happens you are going to not be preggers any more and you are going to have that baby in your arms not ur belly, which is where u want it at this point! Women have been having babies for more years than we can count! Rest assured that your body will be no different, and even if it is....Concentrate on the end goal... That beautiful baby!!

Answer 2

Just relax! Breathe! =D You can do this!!!!!! Good Luck!

Answer 3

calm down its so common to be feeling this anxiety that your feeling right now god knows i did with the 3 already here and am sure ill start tripping in another few months about this one too, enjoy these last few days of quite and youll be a great mommy im sure (((hugs)))

Answer 4

I am exactly the same. I am 39wks 5 days and having contractions. It could be a matter of hours to a day... Just stay focused and remember the only way we are going to see our bundle of joy, is through this pain. It isn't going to be easy but we have to use mind over matter. Know that we have to take our mind off the pain, focus on something, blow out the pain and rest when you have a break in the contractions.. Just stay calm and it helps release healthy hormones that will make the labor a lot more smooth. All the best for the coming baby. be strong.

Answer 5

I was in your situation just a little over a year ago. The anxiety you are feeling is normal. If you are really worried about the birthing class go to your local library and see if they have a birthing video you can watch at home. As for labor, its there, you have your child and then all the attention is on the child. It seems like forever but you will soon have a beautiful baby boy. I had an emergency c-section myself due to my high blood pressure. I did not expect it but all is well. I look back on my labor and its a blurr. All I remember is my baby boy.  

Answer 6

As far as the GBS fears, no worries. With our third I went in at 8 cm GBS positive and since it took basically only 4 hours of labor in the hospital they only had time to give me one dose (half the drug) so they just keep you in the hospital a little longer to monitor the baby. Our daughter was FINE, and your little guy will be too.

We are having our fourth and NEVER did lamaze or any of those sorts of classes. Just remember to breath, and you will find a good rythm that works well for YOU. Also, your body will do exactly as it needs to. That's what they are made for. Just follow it's lead and if you feel like breathing heavily, wiggling your hips, getting up and walking around, etc DO IT. Do whatever comes naturally in the moment of a contraction. Laying flat on a hospital bed will be completely counterproductive, and an epidural, although sometimes genuinely needed, is rarely a good choice. You are flat on your back and are MUCH more likely to tear because you are pushing the baby out in a manner that puts tons of strain on your perenium, so try to do it naturally-your body and baby will thank you when all is said and done.

And know that yes, the pain is great at times, but it's livable and worth it. And overall, YOU CAN DO IT! Your body has been prepping for this for months and it's almost time for the "finale", so enjoy your last little time of being pregnant and stay excited. Fear will only cause problems for you both emotionally and possibly physically, so relax. Nothing to worry about. The more relaxed you are for labor, the easier it will go...

Answer 7

First, you have to calm down. It is not good for you, or for the baby, for you to be stressed out right now. Yes, you should be nervous, that is natural.

Second, remember that childbirth is a natural thing. Our bodies were made for this. Labor is not that scary. You will be in some pain, but you will live through it, and have a beautiful baby as your reward.

Becoming a mother is the greatest gift in the world. We have the special opportunity to give all of our love, and adoration to a baby that we created, and nurtured inside of our bodies. It really is beautiful. Think of all of the wonders of childbirth, rather than the things that could happen. Don't focus on the negative, or you may miss out on the great parts.

Best of luck to you. Remember to stay strong, and try to do something that will calm you down. Go shop, see a movie, go to the park, walk through a zoo, something to help you relax a little.

Answer 8

Interestingly enough, I am right there with you!!!!! I woke up this morning having panic attacks and throwing up because I am literally scared out of my mind! I am going to be a mother tomorrow....trip out! I am really trying not think about it at all! I am freaked out that today is the last day I will be pregnant, and tonight's the last night I am going to sleep through the night.....But all in all, it's going to happen either way and it will be all worth it...Just keep telling yourself that, because it's workin for me so far! :)

Answer 9

Take a deep breath!!  

I am preg with # 4 and I have been GBS + will all of them!

  I am being induced on the 5th of Sept.

You'll be so surprised the calming feeling as soon as your little one gets here!  It all just works out.  I was in your same shoes with my first.  I was in a panic, but it was all totally fine!    The meds are not a big deal,  I didnt quite have all the meds that they were going to give me but it was all ok! --   Your body will know what to do!  Trust me women have been doing it FOREVER!

My sister had to have a c-section but it wasnt a big deal at all - she was worried at first but you will learn you have to be prepared but not stress and worry!  Having kids makes you learn ALOT!!

I will say an epi is a life saver and makes things a lot easier on you and your body - at least it made a huge difference for me!    

I have never taken any of the classes - didnt think i needed to - the Dr and nurses will help you every step of the way -

Like I said take a calm deep breath and just be excited!  

I know that sounds hard and if someone would have said that to me on my first I would have rolled my eyes and been like

"yeah right, easy for you to say!"

Good Luck and Congrats!!!!

Answer 10

Stop thinking well over thinking.Live in the moment.Everyone is dif.You can't allow yourself to be this stressed.It does affect the baby when your stressed.You have to think about today.You cannot over prepare.When the time comes you will do what works for that moment.Your a woman and we all have that built into us that sort of always ready for anything. Relax,You have too.You will need your energy for when your child arrives.Enjoy the peace and calmness.Live in the moment now thats all you can do.Make life easy for yourself please.    

Answer 11

I promise you that everything is going to be ok. You are just thinking about it now and everything is going through your mind. Every woman does this at some point or another. Think of it this way, women have babies every day and they end up ok and keep telling yourself that you are one of the people that end up ok. The chance of something going wrong is 1 in a million. You will have a doctor that will know what they are doing and they will do anything to help you. Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 12

I was the same way!! Just rest up as much as you can, and when the baby comes all your worries will go away, I didnt know how to change a diaper before having my son, but everything just comes so naturally. you will be a great mom! Congrats!!!

Answer 13

Sit back and take a breath...you can do this!  Your body will know exactly what to do, and even if something does come out of the other end you won't even know it - the nurses just take care of it!  You are going to do great, I know it is nerve racking, but in the end when you see your baby it is all going to be worth it!  The day before you go, take it easy watch some funny movies and try not to analyze it so much!  YOU ARE GOING TO BE GREAT!!  GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 14

LOL...Calm down, it's normal to get scared and really nervous before hand. I'm taking it this is your first child. I'm pregnant with my 3rd, but i have never really experienced the "jitters" with any of them like some do. First off, your body is going to know exactly what to do, just do as the nurse or doctor tells you and you'll be fine the only thing i suggest is just "BREATH" if you do that you'll get through it. Secondly about the pain, it's really not too bad as soon as that baby is out the pain won't even cross your mind! Also, what in the world do you mean by "push out the wrong end", the baby coming out feet first or something, or you like having a bowel movement during delivery??? Women have bowel movements all the time during delivery and you'll never knew you did it unless your doctor announces it, but if your baby is head down trust me that end will be coming out first. And about the GBS, it's okay...they didn't make it to give mine the medicine and everything went fine, it's just a precaution thing, if they don't make the medication which i bet they do, but if they didn't it's a slim chance of something serious happening. You really need to calm down though because if you're really stressing out over this as much as your question puts you out to be then you could end up sending your baby into stress and that's a big NO NO that you do not want.

Answer 15

Honey just breathe and calm down. You will be fine! Your body is mean to have a baby and it will lead you through your labor just as it is supposed to. Even if you do go into labor before you get to the hospital you will still be able to get the medication you need for GBS, and if they need to they can slow down your labor to make sure you get the right amount of meds. Don't worry just try and get as much as rest as you can now because you will need it! Hang in there and just pray!! :)  

Answer 16

This is quite normal. I was the same way with my son, and had GBS. my water broke and I was in labor for 17 and 1/2 hours, my daughter was much quicker but I did not have GBS. Just try to relax and rest up as much as you can now, trust me, it won't be long before your little pride and joy will be here! Good luck and congrats!

Answer 17

Wow you are really stressed out... First off calm down...you will be ok...you can do this..

I was GBS pos as well and they just gave me the meds when I was induced....You will go get induced and they will put you on the meds right away...Even if you do go into labour before then, just go to the hospital as soon as your water breaks so they can give you your medicine...It's very very unlikely that you would give birth so fast that they wouldn't be able to give you the meds, especially for your first baby...

Your body knows what to do, you don't have to...as a matter of fact you don't really have to do anything except cope with the pain, which really isn't that bad...I didn't take classes either and I wondered if I should have before I went into labour but really it would've just been a waste of time...your body does everything, you just need to breathe and listen to your doctor when he tells you to stop pushing and push when you feel the urge to...

If the baby isn't breach and you aren't already scheduled for a c-section then you probably won't end up having one, I mean it is possible but most women get them because they have a pre existing condition before they go into labour..

It's your hormones that are making you worry, I was the same thing..you will be fine..its funny how much you sound like i did before i got induced..

and as for the pain..it really isn't that bad..it's just like really bad stomach cramps/period cramps that get harder and closer together...but it isn't like excruciating...your body numbs itself down there so it just feels like your taking a big p**p out of your vajay jay..lol sounds gross but thats the best way to describe it...some pressure..thats it..

you will be fine..just calm down..congrats and once you have that little bundle of joy, it will all be over and its well worth it..

good luck :o)

Answer 18

You need to relax...stress is not good for the baby...You will do great...Your body will know what to do...We all start somewhere...Doctors and nurses are trained to do this and they are there to help you...Yes it is painful...more/less for others...After your baby is born you will forget all the pain that you went through and it will be the greatest moment of your life...It's normal to worry a little but don't lose sleep over it and know that woman give birth everyday...Good luck to you!!!!!

Answer 19

You can do it.  You have to believe in yourself and your body's ability to give birth.  It is made to give birth.  Try thinking more positive thoughts.

I've been reading positive thoughts over and over, like:

"Labor is hard, but I am strong."

"I have the ability and the wisdom to give birth."

"My body knows what to do, and I trust my body."

"My hard work will be rewarded."

I got them off a lamaze video online, I think, but I'm trying to program my brain to think that way!

I know what you mean, although I don't know when my little one is arriving.  I'm due on the 2nd.  It's been so long of saying "September 2nd" with the image of that being a ways off that now I'm like, "Oh my gosh! September 2nd is in 5 days!!!"

Answer 20

First take a deep breath and calm down...you are just scared because of the new arrival to your life. Just be thankful and don't be scare, don't stress the baby out. Good Luck with you and your baby.

Answer 21

Just relax... everything will be just fine.  Once you see your precious little guy everything will be perfect.  

Good luck and Congrats!!!