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was diagnosed borderline 3 years ago. i had the worst time of my life, i went threw identity crises of me including gender, and who i was, i suffered depression, i tried to commit suicide twice, i remember how much i suffered in the mental wards being treated like c**p by the nurses and getting tranquilizers injected on my behind 24 7, i went threw cocain binges i went threw living almost on the streets dealing with street people, stealing, abusive relationship, and getting to a weight of 180 pounds, sleeping with whoever didnt have any standards just wanted someone so i wouldnt suffer alone and everyone took advantage of me i can honestly say ive been threw it all, Since last year I have gotten my stuff together i am well non violent, quit coke and booze even quit smoking cigerettes, everyone sees im better but yet everyone still keeps reminding me im borderline, and make jokes about my electroshock therapy, i often am told what to do by my parents most people say im dependant still and im SICK AND TIRED OF BEING TREATED LIKE IM SOME KIND OF A r****d OK. What am i doing wrong?? if i am really dependant how do i become independant, i hate it when my dad tells me oh did you talk to your psychologist today, n stuff like that.. it makes me feel stupid and retarded. I think I could be independant if i wanted to but how do i prove this to everyone?? help

Answer 1

if your better then you shouldn't need a psychologist and just tell them your different now it's simple. hope things get better!!!!!

Answer 2

It sounds like you've been through a lot and you've come a long way! I hope you are proud of your accomplishments regardless of what others may say.  It is unfortunate that many people quickly and permanently label others who are mentally ill and refuse to see them as someone with a treatable medical condition.  Do not let other people's ignorance bring you down. Take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally.  Take your medications (if prescribed), see your therapist regularly and keep working on improving yourself (we should all be doing this!).  In time those closest to you will recognize you for the person that you have become and not the 'sick' person that you once were.  If for some sad reason they never learn to see this you will likely become such a strong and healthy individual that you will be able to recognize that THEY are the ones with the problem - not you.  For now,  try to dismiss the ignorant comments and concentrate on building your independence.   There is nothing wrong with pointing out to someone that comments about your mental health and ongoing treatment are inappropriate. It takes a lot of courage to seek help and many people are not able to do this.  Sometimes people need to be reminded that mental illness is just that - an illness - just like cancer, diabetes, etc. Would they think it ok to make fun of a cancer patient undergoing chemotherapy and losing their hair?  What is so funny about ECT and the possible side effect of losing your short term memory? You are very brave and I'm sure that there are many people who admire your strength and character but who are unable to communicate this to you.  Stay strong and take good care of yourself, I wish you all the best that life can bring you.

Answer 3

For a start, the title of this thread is about as 'borderline' as it gets. Coming off drugs and alcohol does not disprove you have BPD. There are lots of symptoms/traits associated with BPD and substance misuse is just one of the possibilities (although not all BPD sufferers misuse substances). What about your other traits? You can't get rid of them overnight - they are part of an illness afterall, but in time you can learn alternative ways of dealing with situations in which you react to in a 'borderline manner'.

You are not a r****d. You have an illness and you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. I agree the treatment of people suffering from personality disorders is shocking, bordering on barbaric, but until such a time when psychiatry and the rest of the world catches up and brings PD medicine into the 21st century, you've got to tough it out any way you can. Challenge your own behaviours. You seem very intelligent and I believe you can put that to incredibly good use.

Answer 4

The only way you can prove anything really is to stay on the straight and narrow and keep yourself healthy, eventually they will realise you are fine and dont need their constant questioning.  Unfortunately they are probably going to treat you like an idiot for a while cos that is was ignorant people do, they dont understand so they dont know how to deal with it.  They could also be concerned for your well being so if you continue as you are they will leave you alone

Answer 5

I'm sure you know people are just looking after you because they care. Just handle it in a mature way and thank them for their concern, and if you feel differently, calmly explain why. Don't throw a fit like a child or anything, people will start to notice how well you are doing for yourself.