OMG this is the first night...?

Question

I am going out tonight for the first time since my daughter was born. She will be 1 in 2 days.

We do go out, but not at night time, so we can pick up our daughter to go home or we go on Sundays the three of us.

I arranged for my daughter to sleep at my mom's. My mom is the one who has been taking care of her during the day for the past 4 months since I started work, therefore they both feel really comfortable together.

But I don't, I hate the fact that I will wake up tomorrow morning and not seeing my daughter in her crib, I also hate the fact that I won't be the first person who she will see when she wakes up in the morning.

Am I crazy or I am not the only one who feels this way?

My husband thinks I am over reacting!!!!

HELP me...PLZ

My daughter also has to spend a night at MIL on Saturday.

This is killing me.

Answer 1

awww bless you

separation anxiety is not just a baby mummy thing it's a mummy baby thing and it's only natural that you feel this way.

you are merely a lioness protecting her cub, and it is natural, don't worry enjoy your night off we all need a night off occasionally!

Answer 2

I would feel the exact same, but the truth is that it's good for everyone involved for you and your hubby to get a night out together.  You deserve some romance and the baby and grandmother will enjoy their time together.  Since you are leaving her in capable hands, there is nothing to feel guilty about!  Go out and enjoy. I am jealous of your big night out.  LOL

Answer 3

I feel your pain!!  I had to leave my 4 month old son with my MIL a few weeks ago while me and my husband went out.  We were going to get home so late that it just made sense to let him stay there and sleep.

I cried all day knowing I was leaving him, cried all  the way home, cried to my husband when I got there, and a few times during the night. I knew he was in good hands, but the same thoughts you had...he wouldn't see me first when he woke up and how would I know he was ok when I went to sleep.  

He did great and I got rave reviews on how well he did - better than me apparently!

I had to leave him again this weekend and he did great and I didn't have near the anxiety that I did the first time.

You'll be fine and I'm sure she will be too, but I totally understand the over whelming feelings that you are having...you're not the only one.  We might be a little crazy for feeling so psycho about it, but it's ok!! It's our babies we are worried about and it's ok!!!  

Answer 4

You are not crazy.....maybe over reacting a little but us mothers generally do when it comes to our kids. We love them so much!!

I was thinking that another option would be for your Mother to stay at your house with your daughter instead of your daughter staying at your mothers house. Then you still get to see her in the morning.

You are very lucky, I have a 4yo daughter and a 20 month old son and neither have spent a night away from home since they were born, I don't think I would cope, but if we go out my MIL comes to stay here with the kids.

And why does your daughter HAVE to spend a night at your MIL.....isn't that your choice??

Answer 5

Yes, you are over-reacting, but it is normal to feel this, to a degree.  GO OUT...have fun...let mom take care of things.  Your little one will be fine.

Grandparents NEED to have times like you are describing, too.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE waking up to my grand kids.  It is wonderful.  Your mom will be so appreciative for this opportunity!

have fun...enjoy yourself.  have some fun in the sack..:)  and go get your kiddo, later.