ONE MONTH OLD BABY AT wedding??

Question

i am standing in my best friends wedding and my son will be a month old at the time.... i plan on breastfeeding and was wondering if it is a good idea to have a baby soo little at a reception with a dj? i really dont feel comfortable leaving him with friends yet and my close family will be at the wedding as well as my fiancee. Am i a bad mother for considering bringing her 1 month old to a wedding? i will be non stop breastfeeding etc..

just curious as to is this a good idea?

Answer 1

ask your friend if she has the contact number for the place and possibly call them and ask them if they have a room you could use to breastfeed in.

also just don't stay out all night.

the baby will be fine, most can sleep over music

Answer 2

I think it would be a little rude to the bride. How horrible would it make her day if your baby started screaming in the middle of the ceremony?  On one hand, you're going to be a big part of the wedding-- pictures, dancing, toasting, etc. You're not going to be able to do all that with a baby attached to your hip. On the other hand, the bride knew this would happen before she asked you to be in her wedding. Ask her if she's providing child care or if she'd rather your baby scream through her wedding. But one month isn't too soon to be babysat for 4 hours one time....  Maybe you could have someone watch the baby at the wedding location?

At my wedding, I did not want any children under 4 in the wedding. We had someone there as a "nursery" worker, that way the parents could still come and the wedding wouldn't be ruined by crying.  

Answer 3

This is what I would do--I would bring along someone to help you watch the baby when you are there.  Kinda like a babysitter, but she will be there at the wedding.  This is what I did when I got married and had a young baby.  That way she can watch the baby when  he is sleeping or whatnot, and bring him to you when you need to nurse.  This way you can have the best of both worlds and not disrupt anyone with a crying baby.  :)

Answer 4

i think its okay to bring him but bring a friend to help and ask the bride if she minds...dont carry him down the aisle.

Answer 5

We took my daughter to my brothers wrestling tournament at 2 1/2 months old. There were three refs constantly blowing whistles and parents jumping up and screaming and she slept almost the whole time. When she was awake she was either eating or watching everything that was going on. Just don't stay late and make sure your baby is comfortable. He'll enjoy the entertainment!

Answer 6

I don't see why not. Our friends brought their 3 week old to our wedding and she did just fine. And since your fiance and family will be there as well, I'm assuming they'll be able to share in looking after the baby.

Just be courteous of the couple and other guests if your baby cries at the wedding, then take him outside until the crying calms down. I was at one wedding where the baby was crying during very emotional vows and instead of taking the baby outside, the parents just started laughing. Funny to them maybe, but distracting to everyone else.

But otherwise, it should be fine to take your baby.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Bring the baby and a nice big blanket so you don't have to nurse in the (UGH) bathroom.

Bring a pacifier and a carrier for the baby to sleep in.

Answer 8

My baby was just over a month when we got married and he came to the wedding and reception. He went home with his grandparents when the music started. They were excited to have the time with him and he got to enjoy being out for a little bit.

Answer 9

I think you should talk it over with the bride.  She my have strong feelings one way or the other.

At a month old, I wouldn't leave my baby, either.

Answer 10

at a church i wouldn't but a reception would be just fine..i took my son to a wedding at 3 weeks old then againg at 2 months old and again at 3months old..seems like everyone got married right after i had my baby ..he was fine..slept through most of it..the music never bothered him..be prepared for your little one to get alot of attention at the reception!!!!

Answer 11

You have to have your baby there. Your friend cannot expect you to not feed your baby. Not only that, your b*****s will become engorged. Have someone there just to take care of him and to meet his needs. Try not to leave him near the loud music, though. Your friend should understand since she knew you were pregnant and could do the math to know your baby is involved in this. Noone will know he is there. He'll be sleeping the whole time and hopefully wont need you during the important times. Good luck. This will be tricky but you'll get through it.

Answer 12

It's ok to take the baby...the baby will be sleeping most of that time, just feed your baby in a private place so others won't see...Enjoy your baby....what a Blessing..

Answer 13

Presumably the  bride knew you were pregnant when she sent the invitation?  If so, she would have presumably  included 'and baby' on the invitation.  If she did not, by all means call and ask.  Some brides do want a 'child-free' wedding/reception, and if that's the case, it would be rude to bring baby.  You'd have to decide whether to leave baby with a sitter, or send your polite regrets.

If the wedding party is fine with it, by all means bring baby along.  If YOU are comfortable feeding in public, nurse baby as he requires.  If you're not yet comfortable enough for that, step into the hall or onto the terrace or find a quiet corner.

(And if the noise level is too loud, yes, find a quieter spot.)

Answer 14

I think it'll be fine, or at least I'm hoping that's the right answer cause my brother's wedding is right after my baby is due and there's no way she's not coming with me.  If you feel that the music is too loud is there anyone, like your husband, that would be willing to watch him later on??  The ceremony part isn't a problem, as long as someone can take him outside if he starts fussing.

Answer 15

I wouldn't take her, unless you plan to cut your night very, very short. I attended my friend's wedding in October, the wedding was upstairs, and the reception downstairs. I was helping put out the food downstairs during the wedding and one of the bridesmaids ended up having to leave the ceremony because her little one wanted mom and wouldn't shush for anyone else. Then the music started, and the baby got so upset because the bass was probably hurting her ears that she squealed for half an hour until mom and dad took her home, before they even got dinner. Not to mention you will have tons of people(drunk if it's that kind of reception) who are loud and will crowd a baby that young just to see, lol, which will overwhelm you and your son. Everyone will want to hold him and give him well wishes. I would leave him with a sitter, just so he's not around that many people and all their germs(and we're heading into that season too). If at all possible, pump beforehand so you can enjoy yourself, and let him have it in a bottle, by that age nipple confusion isn't that common, so he'd hop right back on the breast after you pick him up, and if you wanted, you could even drink a bit as long as you pump and dump once or twice afterward, depending on how much you would drink.

Good luck!