Of course the what seem like an endless journey to the potty!?

Question

So i have 2 children, my oldest Miss. Rylee who will be 2 in september. Is not getting along with her pink potty decorated with dora the explorer stickers. She will sit, and read. not go. she has gone twice while i nor her father were around. Once she was at her grandma's house, and about to take a bath she was asked the age old ques. "do you have to use the potty" she replied yes, got on sat there for a few minutes, and WENT! i surely thought she will get this down, she knows her shapes colors, numbers, and abc's and here comes the POTTY! .. she just sits and reads for me. then my cousin was watching her, sat her on the potty, she started yelling "DIAPER! DIAPER!!" and then before anyone knew it she pooped, right there on the potty! ... i just need some help making this more of a regular thing. any idea's!?

Answer 1

Why do you expect her to go to the potty? She hasn't been trained when the best time to do this was on. It's around 6-7 months to 12 months but, hey, not later. What you do is just start putting her on the potty when you know she would pee or poo (and you should know - you are her mother and have been observing her a whole year) and she pees or poos there. After you do it 5-6 times, she gets used to the idea that pee and poo are done in the potty. As soon as she starts walking, she will go to the potty because she will know when she feels that poo coming or pee coming, she has to do it in the potty. And kids FEEL these stuff very well if you don't keep them in diapers more than needed (more than a few months) and make them lose that ability and gain it back 3 years later. It's ridiculous to wait until she is...OMG 3???

Answer 2

Ever heard of EC? Elimination communication. You hold the child in a reclining position over the potty when they pee and poo and later, when they walk, they know where to go to do this. How do you expect from a 2yo who has peed and pooed in her pants since she was born (?!?!?!) to suddenly decide she wants to pee in the potty? Are you nuts? Better wait until she is 4 and you can tell her "The kids will laugh at you at school, so better pee in the potty, not in your pants" and hope she would listen to you. The best time is in the past now. Where were you when your daughter was 6-7 months old? Even then it's not too late to get her used to the potty.

Answer 3

I've read the answers to you questions and can honestly say that I'm disgusted by some of the responses and to all those people (you know who you are) I would like to point out that this woman is looking for advice she does not want to be told she has left it to late and frankly if she has god help my kids because they weren't toilet trained until they were 3.

Hold your baby over the potty at 4 months I've never heard anything so ridiculous. Why not give them a crossword while you're at it.

You're child will go when she's ready. Maybe you're putting too much pressure on her and that's why she goes when you're not around. Don't let her sit and read on the potty as she'll only get confused as to it's real function. For now just put her on intermittently and see what happens, good times to try are when she gets up in the mornings and after meals. She sounds like she's heading in the right direction so don't worry about it.

Answer 4

I am already holding on the potty my 4-month-old twins. You have been waiting for so long. Your daughter doesn't KNOW that it's NOT normal to be wer, to be dirty and it's not normal to pee and poo in her pants (or her diaper). Sorry for you. If you had her potty trained when she was 1 you wouldn't have that as an issue long ago.

Answer 5

im a mum of 7, and they were all different, some just got it right away, some didnt, i have NEVER heard of dangling a 7 month old over a potty, thats a baby!Mine were still being breastfed,they were all trained by 18 months to 21/2, with no problems.i always jumped up and down like a nutcase when they went, never left them on there for ages, and def waited until they could say the words.

Answer 6

Both of my kids potty trained themselves when they were 2 years old.  I waited until they could say pee and p**p, and pull off their pants on their own before introducing them to it (about 18 months old).  

When she goes in the potty, dance around, celebrate and make a HUGE deal out of it.  One day she'll decide she likes it better.  Little kids often like to p**p in their diaper long after4 they're trained to pee in the potty.  They're used to it and it's a security thing and they like to go hide with diaper...even they like privacy.  

All these people who are saying you waited too long are NOT the norm, I assure you.  You don't have to rush your babies out of diapers, they grow up so fast to begin with.  If she's not trained by 3, then start pressing it, most kids will do it on their own before then, just make sure she doesn't forget it's there.

I've never seen a kid start school in diapers so don't worry.  She'll get it.

Answer 7

She's not 2 yet...that's young.  Most children don't potty train until 2 1/2 - 3 1/2 yrs of age.  So at this point I'd let her run the show.  Ask her if she has to go potty, if she says yes, like she did with the grandparent then put her on it...but don't sit her on it otherwise, I wouldn't.  If you push her too hard before she's ready to do it regularly she'll rebel and you'll backtrack and have additional troubles later on.

Good luck to you! :)

EDIT: Excerpt from below website source:

"Early on in the training, especially if your child is less than 3 - 3 1/2 years old, resistance should be treated by just discontinuing training for a few weeks or a month and then trying again. At this age (18 months to 3 years), resistance is usually because your child just isn't ready to begin training.

Potty training resistance usually occurs because your child has had a bad experience at some point during potty training, especially if he was started before he was intellectually or psycholgoically ready."

And by the way "WORN OUT MUM"...I don't know if you'll sign back on the this question in order to see this but, "why not give him a crossword while you're at it..."   HA HA HA HA HA HA HA...Hilarious!!  I literally laughed out loud when I read that!! Nice!! ;)

Answer 8

Why on Earth haven't you potty trained her when she was 1 or even earlier - when she started walking?????