Oh gosh so confused... please help!?

Question

ok,

i've known this guy for only a couple years but were very close we can talk about other people we like and even s*x (i'm a virgin don't start bitchin!) well about 4 months ago something went around school that i liked him when i didn't

well now we talk every night for at least an hour but he doesn't now i like him now i mean we play around with each other and stuff and the other night we were im'ing each other and he asked me out.. i was very shocked so i just sent back "what? are u serious or kidding?" and he said he was just kidding but i'm not sure

what should i do? i like him but he's said before that he didn't like me like that but i'm not so convinced if it was any other guy i'd just go for it but i don't what to ruion are friendship

thanks!

Answer 1

Tell him how you feel!

if you don't you will regret it later.

Answer 2

ooo that wasn't the best thing to do--the are you kidding part. i think he was really asking you out, but when you said that it made him feel like you thought it was a joke kind of. but anyways you can't beat yourself up over that so next time you see him in person together when you guys are alone ask him about it. This is what you should say: about the other night were you just kidding when you asked me out cause you seemed serious and it seemed like you took my response as if i thought you were joking, i was just shocked. you seem like you know him pretty well so if he's lying you should know or just say are you sure if he says he was really kidding, that could get him to break. and maybe he thought he could get you jealous by saying he had a crush on your best friend idk? he might have wanted to see how you reacted or if your body language changed at all to get a sense of if you liked him before he asked you out especially if it was near the day he asked you out.

Answer 3

Me and my best friends relationship started by hanging out.  She basically tried to make the friendship move to another level and I told her I didnt like her like that.  She was cool with it and 9 years later we are still good friends.  Tell him the truth and if he doesnt like you like that and hes a true friend then you should have no worries.  But beware, if he likes you and you start to date you may ruin the friendship.  The choice is yours.

Answer 4

ask him if he would like to go out to eat or to a movie.

Answer 5

When you're face to face with him, be honest about your feelings for him. It may make things a little awkward, but that's better than going on for a really long time not knowing if things could ever move up a step between you two.

If you're stuck on what to say, try something like "I want you to be honest, do you like me more than just a friend? Because that's how I feel about you."

Answer 6

He does like you so that is why he took the chance to ask you out. He probably wanted to know if you like him back.

What happened though is that when you said "Are you serious?" he kinda felt that you didn't like him back so he didn't want to embarass himself and he said "j/k."

Don't worry about your friendship, especially since you now know he likes you (problem for most girls). So now just keep hanging out with him and mention why you were surprised he asked you out and tell him you feel the same way towards him.

EDIT:EDIT:EDIT: To his new crush

I'm guessing he must have felt mad that you didn't like him back so he decided to move on (or make you jealous :P). Think about it.... why would he tell you he has a new crush. Relationships should not be bragged to everyone in public.

Still though just tell him the truth so he knows that you have feelings for him, dont make him think you like someone else.

Answer 7

Sounds like you both like each other but are just missing the signals. If he asked you out he wasn't kidding, he only said he was because of your response. Most true longlasting relationships start as friendships. You get to know each other as friends and then it turns into love. Wake up and go for it! Do you want to wander about it the rest of your life?

Answer 8

Just go up too him and say: You wann go see a movie? and if he rejects just say: you idiot! no as a date, a whole bunch of people from school are comin. but if he says yes, hooray for you!

Answer 9

jsut tell him how you feel.

Answer 10

Well, if he's a real friend then he will understand that you like him as more than a friend. Tell him how you feel!!

Answer 11

In this case I would so just tell him how you feel and I'm sure somewhere in him he totally feels the same way if not he'll always be your friend and you can wait and see what happens in you friendship and see if it progreses in love.

Answer 12

if you like him, go for it! ask him out. but if he says no, don't act all weird around him because thats stupid. theres nothing to worry about just ask him what have you got to loose?

it sounds like you scared him when you asked if he was kidding. he probably thought you would say no.

try posting this in "family and relationships" or something next time.

Answer 13

talk to him during school and ask if he was really serious, maybe ask him if he really liked you. But don't do anything drastic, friendship is important

Answer 14

just talk to him, figure things out.

Answer 15

He may have thought you would say no. So tell him how you feel.  

Answer 16

you need PUNCTUATION ! no offense.

Answer 17

Ask him if he likes you. If he says no then move on. And if he says yes, Great!

Answer 18

Looks like you scared him when you asked him if he was serious or kidding. He probably thought you would say no. So fix this misunderstanding.

Answer 19

okay, you like him and he likes you. end of story, when he asked you out, no offense but you shouldnt have said that because it probably made him feel stupid because he doesnt know if you feel the same way and if you dont, he doesnt want to be embarassed if he ask's you out and you say no. so, he really wasnt kidding he just didnt want to feel stupid...good luck.