Oh what the h**l?

Question

If I get into a scuffle at school, in the hall, wherever, its likely ill be out of the school in a heartbeat. not only that, it might put my mma training at a risk.

So with that said, if I defend myself or someone else (usually my case) whats the best way to do it? and dont give me that talk your way out of it c**p, because at the end of the day, actions speak louder than words.

Whats the easiest way to impose your will on somebody without causing a scene?

THANKS. And, bon jour

Answer 1

when they hit you first just smile then when he hits you a second time break his arm

Answer 2

Actually that "talk your way out of it c**p" isn't very well understood and doing it only makes him think you wont put up a fight if neccesary.

The idea is to talk him out of it without surrendering your posistion so he gets the idea either he changes his mind or suffers the consequences .You dont have to make threats just advance on him steadily crowd him give him no room to move keep him slightly off balance and look right thru him.

Speak in a commanding voice and tell him what you both face from teachers or authority if he doesn't stop his c**p immediately .

Saying things like "I will bust you up kick your ***" will all be seen as "inciting to violence" which is not only a point in law but one of the criteria used to judge fault in such cases .

If he attacks you after all that your claim of "I was only defending myself or helping someone else" carrys more weight.

Answer 3

One of the most important things is to use the brain first before the fists.

If it is just verbal abuse, tell him to p**s off or  f**k off and go stay away from him. If it persist, go and tell the teacher, that he is bullying your friends. Let the authority such as your teachers know the situation, so that if something happens, they will most likely to be on your side. Make sure every one knows that he is picking on your friend, so if the teacher asks around, he/she will get the same story.

If you don't want to make a scene, talk to him when he is by himself. Give him a warning. Tell him to stop bully your friend. If he does not take you seriously, grab his ear and twist it until he understand your warning. If anyone ask, "say that he has been bullying your friend, and you did ask him to stop doing that, but as for the ear twisting part, you had no idea what he is talking about" Deny, deny and deny everything.

Some people you can ask them nicely to stop doing something, while others, they response better to pressure.

One you let a bully gets away with something, they will keep on doing it. It is also important to let your friend stand up for himself, otherwise he will never learn.  Also, unless the person is a close friends of yours, sometimes, it is not a good idea to put yourself at risk. Obviously, we can not defend everybody. Best to tell the teacher and let him/her take care of it. Only take action, if the victim is a close friends of yours. be smart think of a strategy. You can be snaky and create some accidents. Like you accidentally walk through him, or step on his foot.  Or accidentally kicked his shin as you are walking. Just don't forget to apologize for it.

Make sure you training extra hard, because you may need the skills.

First, reason with him.

Second, report him to teachers. At least 3 times.

Third, give him a warning.

Fourth take action if he fail to get the message.

Answer 4

A simple but powerful takedown would do just fine.

Answer 5

wash the darn dishes and do your homework !  ! You ain't all that !

Answer 6

Actions may speak louder than words but it says nothing about whether or not it's moral.

"I feel like killing my brother."

"Actions speak louder than words."

Answer 7

Standing rear naked choke or standing guillotine,choke em out leave no marks and leave!

Answer 8

If ur a big guy or ripped all u need to do is get in their face and they'll back down.  If they don't show em why they should've after school.  Works for me all the time.

Answer 9

im 13 years old and stuff liek that happens too me. what i do is i tell them too back off then if they dont just keep telling them too go away then if they dont i just push them back then they usally come in to hit me or something for doing that but i also do MMA so i know its comig and rab theyre arm aand do that thing were you bring it back and then push them down by there neck then press the back of there knee (the bit that makes them fall) with my foot so they fall over shout at them not too mess! then run! n if other ppl see it then it'll put them off gettin in a fiite with u so theres less lolz

Answer 10

If you dont want to jepordize your school and mmma, never, and I repeat never call the guy out if he has challenged you. If somebody is giving you c**p, just walk away. Now, if the actually come at you and attack you, try to do moves that just show him that you know how to fight, but you dont want to ( like pinning his arm behind his back, and yelling for a scool teacher or something). Just do something that will show him he is out of his league, but dont hit him in the process. You will still probably get in trouble if this happens, but you wont get kicked out because you were defending yourself, same goes for the mma. But your best bet will to just not to make any enemies, and not to talk a bunch of B.S., this way you dont start anything. If the situation escalates, just walk away, 9 out of 10 times, fighting always ends up ending badly.

Answer 11

Good straight forward question man and I like the "without causing a scene" attitude too bro.  You said, "Defending someone else" and I like that too because my dad used to say, "It takes a strong man to defend himself, but it takes a stronger man to defend others".  You sound just like me when I was a young kid and for that I'll give you a great detailed way of handling such a situation dude.

I have a tactical MMA team that is putting together self-defense videos and what not at http://www.myspace.com/mmatopguru and one of these videos will be all about Mercy and Compassion which will address this very issue.   Something I see lacking more and more in society is mercy.  Since you've asked this question here it is in a writen form:

Knowing that I ( being in your shoes ) am a trained individual what does it profit me to strike out at a man I know I can whip hands down? futher more if I have slammed him to the ground and I'm easily controlling such a untrained person why would I feel the need to strike him with any type of strike at all?  I have personally faced this issue quite a few times.  My wife's ex-husaband had just gotten out of the pen. and called my house and asked me to step outside, now I should have called the police, but something hit me and I don't know what it was, but I thought, "Ok you little bas*ard you want it you got it".  The minute I hip tossed him and he landed I was in top mount ( on a gravel driveway I might add ) and I grabbed him by the hair of the head as I postured up to keep from being hit.  Then I looked him stright in the eye and asked a simple question..... "Do you want me to bust your face dude?"  his reply was "No sir"  so then I just simply communicated to him that if I let him up and if he wanted to try it again next time they'll be no getting up until paramedics pick him up.  The minute I let him up he stuck his hand out to me and I shook his hand and told him that things a way different with Lisa ( my wife his ex-wife ) now and that he could either steer clear of her and my house or I could just lay wait for the next time and put him away......and he knew it too bro.

The man wasn't bleeding, he didn't have any broken bones, not a scratch, but it put him in check none the less.  To this day he has never ventured around my door.

That was as discreet as discreet gets man and it has worked many time for me in the past as well.  Do you know why?..... becuase I know that it isn't everyone that is trained dude.  We forget that in here in Yahoo Answers a lot, but it's true.  Way more people out there are untrained than there trained in any martial art dude.

Knowing how to handle a situation is a"key component" that no sensei or coach or sifu is out there teaching along with the skills to handle one's self.  I've never seen it in my life time and this is the reason I want to do a video with my team on this very important aspect of self-defense.

Severity levels are never discussed in a martial arts class and that majorly pisses me off.  Because there are severity levels to consider, both in how to execute defense with certain people and how the circumstances surrounding any given attack will vary as well as how to determine the correct response to such an attack especially using a art such as jujitsu ( self defense not sport ).

I'm not always the greatest with words especially when typing, but basically the question should be asked, "Am I dealing with this dude justly or not?"  after he has been immobilized or restrained.  Is striking a man even needed?  I'd say no not at all according to my own experiences. It should be no different for anyone else who is trained.

Imporatant note: I've kept my voice tone normal and easy going while holding would-be attackers to the ground as well man.... this added major weight to my words and they d**n sure knew where I was coming from.

Answer 12

If you cannot move him back by sheer power of mind, let him know (think of steven segal attitude) that it would be bad for this to go any further, provided you have the yarbles to back it up. I am a vocal opponent of making the first move....but.... Master Musashi said not to wait for him to move but to attack. That being said, this is a defence of honor, and attacking someone weak (without training)  is like kicking a poodle, they are annoying but do they deserve to die? Ask yourself (as Master Musasi did) is it worth taking a life over?

Anything less is disrespectful to yourself and your teacher. If you plan on taking things halfway, ask yourself if it is halfway important.

Answer 13

Tell him to back off and NEVER make the first move.

It is nearly impossible to impose your will on somebody else without causing a scene -- especially if they are attempting to impose their will on somebody else.

The key word being IMPOSE!

Answer 14

9 time out of 10 in my experience...just show the punk you're not afraid of him, and he'll leave on his own accord.

you should always try to talk your way out of it. if nothing else, people will see that you didnt want to fight. and if you have to go to court or something then you'll have that on your side.

actions provoke revenge. and reveng begets revenge. and revenge never seems to end.

of course if it's someone else, you could always mind your own business.

what do you expect to happen, some magic technique that will render him helpless with no effort? if it's gonna be a fight, it's gonna be a fight.

Answer 15

knock em out with one punch, they wont even know what happened.

Answer 16

Don't make the first move. If you see him pull his hand back or go to kick beat the **** outta that punk. Use self defence and make sure you hurt him so he has a constant reminder never to **** with you again, at least till his bones heal.

Answer 17

Tell them and to back off and leave.

If they try to hit you, defend yourself. Don't let that hand/foot hit you and leave.

Merci!