Ok, Guys, Girls, HELP! s*x after baby?

Question

I just need some encouragement. My question for the ladies is, how soon after baby did you even remotely want to have s*x? And for guys, what are some things you did for your woman that actually helped w/ the process? I'm bfing, so my b***s are totally incapable of being aroused right now, and haven't had my period yet, so I'm wondering if I'll be more in the mood when my cycle resumes to normal? Baby's 11 weeks

Answer 1

Personally, I didn't want to even consider having s*x until atleast two months after I had my kids.  Not only was I tired, I was too sore from delivery.  Its different for everyone though, so I don't think anything is wrong,  your hormones are still adjusting to your body not being pregnant anymore, I'm sure you'll be back to your old self soon!

Answer 2

Well I guess it just depend on the women because I wanted to have s*x before my six weeks were up but didnt for obvious reasons, but dont worry you will want to agian soon!

Answer 3

With my first child it was almost 6 months after that I was ready for s*x. With my second about 6 weeks after. And with my third it was 3 weeks after. It all depends on how hard of a birth and your sleep and hormone levels. When your ready you will know.

Answer 4

GO FOR IT!!! But remember if you don't take precautions, baby number two will be on the way.

Answer 5

I must be the oddball.  I wanted to have s*x less than two weeks after I had my son.  Don't know why.

Rule number one, breastfeeding or not, make sure to keep a bra with nursing pads in if you engage in s*x.  If you have an o****m, they will flow like the Mississippi.

Second, use lube.  It will probably hurt the first time or so.  The best thing that he can do is go gentle and concentrate on arousing you.  Maybe if you try something new it will work, or go with timeless.  However this is not the time to be swinging from the chandeliers!  Woman on top works best.  

And if you are wanting to wait until your cycle gets back to normal, well it could be awhile.  I know a few women who didn't get their first cycle until 6 months after baby arrived because they were breastfeeding.

I think that you're going through a mental block right now.  You just had the baby and are in no mood to have a second so since s*x got you pregnant, well, you don't really want it.  If you're using precautions you should be fine in that department, but I can still understand the whole 'what if' game.  

Go slow and make sure your partner realizes that this is a time for gentleness and sensitivity because frankly, having a baby can really tear you up down there.  Like I said before though, use lots of lube.  Breastfeeding dries you out.

Don't rush yourself.  Start with some intimate settings (send baby to grandma's for the night or a few hours), watch a movie together or go out.  The first few weeks of having the baby at home can be a nightmare (even though you love that precious child to death, they can still get dragging after 3 or 4 nights of no sleep).  So reconnect with your hubby and spend some time together.  The s*x will come back eventually but it probably won't start being the same until baby starts sleeping through the night.