Ok, got a 11 yr old boy who still seems not to be able to wipe his but.when i make him well a real nasty mess?

Question

Ok, got a 11 yr old boy who still seems not to be able to wipe his but.when i make him well a real nasty mess?

Answer 1

Try a positive-reinforcement system (from BF Skinner, a behaviourist).

Give him a prize or a reward if he does it properly. If he doesn't, then don't give him anything.

Usually works for situations where the child doesn't cooperate.

Answer 2

u need to tell him that he needs to learn so Wat happens if he has an emergency and he has no body to do it for him wast is he going to do ask him that

Answer 3

Hi,

Your son is not the only one who seems to have problems in this area.  Honestly, a lot of boys go through this phase.  Even after they have been potty trained for years, they seem to get lazy and stop wiping well.  I would let him know that others can smell when he doesn't wipe well and that when he becomes interested in girls, he'll be very embarrassed if he does not take care of the problem.  Best of luck!  Oh and I agree with one of the other answers, get some of the bathroom wipes, they will help.

Answer 4

Buy those flushable wet wipes...maybe it will help in training and meanwhile be less messy.

Answer 5

My 8 year old has the same problem (especially if his BM is extremely soft...I know it sounds gross).

Wet wipes do help but you can't take them everywhere with you.

I pretty much got my kiddo under control with the wiping situation by simply standing there (it only took a couple of times) of showing him the correct way to wipe.

I think it's a boy thing...he still has his moments of incorrect wiping (hence the mess)

Answer 6

u should just try ur hardest to make him do this then if he makes a mess he will realise this way dont do it?

Answer 7

Tell him to tell you when he needs to go to the bathroom. When he does, record yourself wiping his butt and make him watch it. Next time, try to get him to do it and keep doing that until good habits show.

Answer 8

Get the wet wipes that go by the toilet. They are flushable and easier/less messy than dry paper.

Answer 9

At 11 it is inapproprate for a parent to be wiping a child's butt.  That comes damned close to molestation and if your child were to mention it to anyone you could find yourself facing charges.  If you walk down the toiletpaper aisle you will find flushable (biodegradeable) wipes, they work quite well on even the messiest of bowel movments.  Also teach him how to do his own laundry, then HE will have to clean his own underwear.

Answer 10

Sit him down and show him how. Give him a treat or a sticker every time he does it well =)

Answer 11

tell him not to wipe it and let him walk around like that an dsee if he likes the feeling.

Answer 12

Just keep pointing out that he's gonna have to go to school smelling... not very nice. His friends won't point it out, but it won't be very nice for them.

He probably can do it, he's just to lazy. Make him do his own washing so he can see it, but don't nag him about it, just hint ?