Ok, so i need some opinions!!!!!!?

Question

ok. so my fiance and i were originally planning on getting married in like dec of 2010 but for personal reasons we are talking about going about a JP wedding in jan or feb of this coming year. I've never really wanted a big wedding, i think they are very pretty but just not for me (and are a waste of money when we are trying to save money...) but i would like some sort of wedding in like a year of two after we got married by the JP, but this time in a church. Is it weird to get married twice? (once by JP and then a few years later by the church) for the JP wedding it would probably just be our parents and just go out to eat or something....well actually i need ideas on what to do after a JP wedding, i don't wanna just go home..

Answer 1

there is no reason why you cannot go for a small reception at a restaurant or at your home. invite some friends and close relatives and have them all bring food to share.

Having a second wedding after the first legal one is kind of silly but a renewal of vows on your fifth or thenth is cool.

Answer 2

after a jp wedding you could have a small reception and renew your vows a few years later  

Answer 3

Weddings are for brides not married women. :-)

Answer 4

Instead of having a JP wedding.  You could have a beautiful simple inexpensive wedding at one of your parents house.  Then have the reception there also.  Even if it's getting married under and oak tree or around some flowers. Then have cake, punch etc......... Then later on if you want a big church wedding.....go for it.

Answer 5

i say go to your major town and a JP there , get a nice hotel room go out to dinner, check a museum or what ever in that area and go back to your hotel room for a couples massage.  

Answer 6

Hmm, I wouldn't have two weddings within a couple years of each other.

The best way to do this is to either have the JP wedding, and a small, family-oriented reception at a house or a restaurant that day (or a few days later). OR do the full wedding, but stay on a really tight budget. But getting married by a JP, and then having a full wedding two years later is just too much, and will put a bad taste is your guests' mouth. Why would they attend a wedding for a couple that's already technically married?

You could, of course, do your small wedding now, and in 10, 15 or 20 years, do a vow renewal ceremony. That's acceptable. Just don't do it 2 years from now.

It sounds to me like the only reason you don't want to get married now is because you dont have the money, which is fine (my fiance and I waited until we could afford it). You say you don't want to because you want a small wedding, but it sounds like you want an actual celebration, too. Which, of course, you're more than entitled to.

My advice is to just wait until you can afford a nice wedding (budget of around $10,000 or so) and then do it that way.

Answer 7

Why don't you just have a small ceremony in church? Even if it is just parents, closest friends as attendants, and minimal frills it could be very nice.  After, go to eat, dessert, drinks, depending on the time day.  Invite additional people, if you wish.

Or consider a morning service, followed by a brunch for those attending and an open house later for additional friends to extend their congratulations.   And if you didn't have honeymoon plans, you could whisk yourselves off in the evening for a private dinner and night at a nice hotel.

Answer 8

A renewal of vows would be a great idea!

My sister did the same thing, but they actually waited 10 years(they wanted to make sure it was big and elaborate and they had enough money!).

Good luck!

Answer 9

I don't see any reason why you can't get married by JP and then a church ceremony a year or two later. It's very smart to do it that way if you are trying to save money right now. As for what to do after the ceremony, going out to eat somewhere would be very nice.

Answer 10

Do it in a church the 1st time.

I know of a couple that did

what you are thinking and

now 5 years later still never

had the church wedding.

Do it right the 1st time!