Ok, so women are supposed to be just as visual and sexua; as men...?

Question

so that means that women are as attracted to good looking men as men are to good looking women, right? yet it's only a very small percentage of men whose looks are actually attractive to most women. does that mean that most men are just not good looking? what determines what is good looking?

and no, it's not about "men not taking care of themselves" because there are plenty of men who are in shape, still have hair, and are not old or ugly who still aren't seen as attractive. are women just naturally not attracted to features that most men tend to have?

Answer 1

Um, actually, we're not as visual as men. Sure, we enjoy the "scenery", but we'd rather be touched- an arm around the shoulder, the right words at the right time-- those will go a WHOLE lot further than a washboard stomach in turning us on!

I see sexual attraction as more of a package deal, than a visual thing.... Yes, appearance plays a role, but there are things that some good-looking guys do that tip the scale completely out of their favor. Looks are nice, but they're not everything.

Answer 2

Men look more for health and beauty while Women look more for status and security.

FACT

Answer 3

Women are attracted to physically good looking men but that's just a small portion. Women are also attracted to men who can make them laugh, who can provide for themselves, who make them happy.

Answer 4

Maybe it has something to do with fashion etc. I personally can't stand the look most blokes go for (sporty, chav, hiphop) etc. And I can't stand beards or stupid hairstyles.

Answer 5

thats bs mate!

there are just as many men and women who are visual as there are men and women who look in the inside of a person.

u know from my experience, shallow people want other shallow people. those so called nice guys who can never get a girl are the one's who want the hot babe and complain when she turns them down. if u were a girl, how would u feel if a average looking guy came up to u all low in confidence and being all moany?

Answer 6

Actually women arent as visual... and I find a good number of guys attractive. Different women just like different things. I find myself most attractive to the same kind of guys, which is different then what my friends like. Also personality is HUGE. A guy can look good but the second he opens his mouth can change everything. I can change my mind in a minute if the guy is a jerk... or vice versa. If a guy is an amazing person, I will find myself much more attracted to him.

Answer 7

Huh?

PEOPLE vary as to what they're attracted to .

It is more common for men to be visually turn-ed on than women, but it's not universal to men or absent in women.

Most women are attracted to good-looking men; we tend to have more than one criterion, and looks aren't always the only or most important among them.

There is no universal standard or set of criteria for "good-looking" among either men or women. People vary in what, specifically, they find good-looking.

Answer 8

Women will accede to the best choice available to them-- there is no actual benchmark needed, she'll eventually go to the best she can get.

Answer 9

Who in the world told you that women are as visual as men or supposed to be? It seems more like an assumption from you. You are obsessed about looks, son. The women I know find many men physically attractive. It's truly sad that you do not know why women aren't attracted to you. Here's a hint it is NOT because of your looks.

Answer 10

I don't think we are as visual, no.  Sexual, yes.   Men will often enter into a relationship (especially a casual one_ with a women based entirely in her looks, while I need more than looks for that.  He also has to be succesful, kind, smart, funny, etc.  I may find alot of men physically attractive, but I won't spend any time with them.

As for the rest of your comments/question, I have no idea what you are talking about.   I don't see any difference in the number of attractive men compared to the number of attractive women.  In fact, men probably have the advtantage, because, as much as we hate to admit it, men generally age better, when they stay in shape.

Answer 11

Hi Hero:

For me it has NEVER been a visual thing. Give me a man that makes me think, that makes me laugh, with whom I can communicate, and I will honestly see him as the most attractive of them all.

Attraction goes beyond looks Hero. Attraction goes beyond many superficial barriers. Attraction is about the soul...when you find a soul you can relate to, magic happens..but never, ever JUST about looks.

I know eventually you will come to understand this. I hope you will  :-)

Answer 12

I'm assuming that you'd prefer to date a decently good looking girl, but you don't expect her to be a supermodel, am I right?

Same general concept. There are OMG-s**y-HOT men... who are few and far between. And then there are men who are good looking enough to date, and there are a lot more of those.

It's also worth noting that every girl's idea of what makes a man attractive is different. Personally, I like skinny, somewhat androgynous guys. I have friends who are more into beefy macho types, and still others who prefer slightly pudgy guys. I don't like a lot of body hair, but I know girls who prefer hairy men. I like long hair, one of my best friends prefers guys with shaved heads. And the list goes on. Seriously, beauty can be found in all forms, and it's silly to assume that only one type of attractiveness is legitimate.

As for why some men aren't seen as attractive even though they seem to have nothing wrong with them... a lot of it is attitude. A HUGE chunk of what makes a guy attractive to a girl is the way he dresses, the way he carries himself, the way he interacts with other people. I know several guys who are physically not my type at all.. but I find them tremendously s**y for those reasons. They have so much style and charm! I also know guys who fit my type physically but I don't find them attractive at all because they dress in boring clothes and don't really know how to carry a conversation. If you come across like a mousy nerd, then I don't want any, no matter how "hot" you are.

Answer 13

Women are NOT supposed to be just as visual as men.  In fact, most studies consistently prove the reverse to be true.  Men are more aroused by visual stimuli, and are more likely to have the impulse to act upon that arousal.

Answer 14

Women are NOT as visually sexually oriented as men, as the politically correct media would have you believe.

Good looks are nice, but they aren't the end-all and be-all.  I'd rather be with a plain guy with a good soul than with a gorgeous jerk.  Maybe women are better at prioritizing the inner person over the outward appearance.  

What people find s**y varies, but many people think a good voice is a great turn-on.  And charm, humor, and kindness can go a long way towards making someone attractive.  Attractiveness isn't just about looks.

After all, when they asked Jessica Rabbit why she married Roger, what did she say?  "He makes me laugh."

;^D

Answer 15

I can be stimulated visually by a hot guy, BUT there are few guys like this.

When it came to the people I was strongly attracted to IN GENERAL, their intelligence, their personality, their voice (I like deep voices) or whatever also played a role. heck, even someone's musical tastes can make them more sexually attractive in some cases.  I agree that attraction goes beyond just looks.

There are physically attractive men who turned me off or I lost interest b/c there was just something about their personality that didn't click with me.

Answer 16

Generally speaking:

-Men are more aroused by visual sexual cues than are women.  This contributes to a more recognizable focus on body image in women.  The way a man looks is probably less important to a woman than the importance of a woman's appearance to a man.

-Men have more active and persistent s*x drives than women.  This is biologically adaptive.  Women don't produce children as fast as men produce sperm, so men are ingrained to want s*x more often than women in order to maximize their chances of reproducing and spreading their genes.