Ok. I am overweight. People at school make fun of me. How can I make people see the real me and not the fat?

Question

please help! I am really having a hard time. thanks!

Answer 1

school only lasts till ur done with it, then its uni =] ull make friends there lol

Answer 2

My poor Kayla, high school is just pure h**l isn't it.  Filled with snot nosed witches and jocks with big egos and small weenies.  These people one day will be your past but until then you can only give them the finger behind their backs and find ways to get back at them.  Revenge can be sweet.  Going through your teens overweight is just a nightmare.  Talk to your parents and maybe a doctor about it.  Consider Weight Watchers so you can still enjoy eating what you like but smaller portions.  Do it to be healthy not popular.  Wish I could give you a hug.  And all the d-bags at school can kiss your plump a**.

Some guys dig the jiggle baby so rock on.

Answer 3

Usually, when people make fun of someone, there's a leader that says most of the jokes. What you should do is whoop the leader's a$$, so that everyone will be afraid to make fun of you. If the person looks hard to fight, hit him over the head with a chair. If there's no leader, just choose one of the people making fun of you (make sure it's the same s*x) and whoop their a$$.

Answer 4

find a club or something that you would enjoy doing and get involved. people who share your interests and passions are less likely to make fun of you when they see the real you. as for the others. they are losers don' t give them the satisfaction of seeing that they get to you. treat them as unimportant as they are.

Answer 5

Yeah ignorant aren't they, but don't let them get to you laugh with them as they will soon get bored. Don't go starving yourself to death either just eat healthy things exercise as much as possible and it will just melt away.

Answer 6

lose weight... or be extremely outgoing so people will be forced to hear the real you.  dont try to use this as an excuse or anything though, if you just sit at the back of the class then of course they wont know the real you because you arent giving them the opportunity.  Otherwise if you just express that it bugs you they should stop(if not, then dont worry about them because they are petty and you need better friends).

Answer 7

You should probably lose weight then, and also for health reasons. how do you know that is the only reason?

Answer 8

well just be as nice and friendly as you can be.

show people that your easy to get along with and weight/looks really dont matter with friendship. We have one of you at our school. no body really likes her. its not just cuz shes fat. shes just, i really dunno how to explain it. she almost weights as much as my dad. and she dresses S****y. she wears REALLY short skirts and tight tops that dont cover her.

just make sure not to be a s**t and show people that it doesnt matter.

=)

Answer 9

you cant. humans are visual people

just lose the weight

healthy weight chart (females only)

5'0"=100lbs

5'1"=105lbs

5'2"=110lbs

5'3"=115lbs

5'4"=120lbs

5'5"=125lbs

5'6"=130lbs

5'7"=135lbs

5'8"=140lbs

5'9"=145lbs

(this weight chart gives a healthy weight to height ratio according to a BMI scale and even gives a few pounds to spare)

Answer 10

With people these days, it can be hard to fit in when you're overweight. You can't "make" people change, sorry. Try to lose the weight by eating healthier and exercising. Maybe you'll meet new people at the gym that are just like you! I knew this overweight girl at my old school and she didn't have many friends, but her weight wasn't the problem. She was CONSTANTLY negative and rude to others and she put up a wall because she didn't feel like people appreciated her.

Be social and kind towards others and once you get to know them and become close to them, they won't judge you because of your weight.

Maybe you also need to change your attitude and personality around others. YOU have to make the changes, since YOU can't just change people.

Answer 11

well first of all try to lose weight

il give you some tips cut out all the c**p your eating rite now all the junk foods and stuff stop it k and no white breads no pops nothing drink tuns of water and walk a lot

ok now when people make fun of you for being fat act like it dosnt bother you and you dont consider yourself fat so if someone makes another fat joke just but on a face like wtf are you talking about so just make it look like you dont think your fat and then people will eventually see the better side of you cuz theyl stop callign you fat

Answer 12

I'm overweight too. In school I thought I was a blob, but when I look back on those photos (and there aren't a lot!) I wish I could be that weight again. I'm trying. Today, actually. I started rethinking what I eat and how much I exercise. I know others here have suggested you lose weight. I don't want to disagree, but first and foremost, you have to like yourself -- fat or skinny. Find other things you like to do and hang with that crowd. Do you like to sing? Join choir. Read? Start a book club. Sit down w/a school guidance counselor and see if you can start a "fat" club... where you can support each other and get healthy is secondary, to having friends. In the meantime, hold your head high and smile (even if it's killing you!!)... it will make those jerks wonder! You sound like a smart person and in the karmic long run, those who tease and are mean to others will get theirs. Plan on holding out to see them get it! Also, you may try joining the school newspaper and starting a "Dear X" column. Wouldn't it be great if you're giving advice to those morons?! Best of luck! I think you're great -- as you are!

Answer 13

Honestly, I don't know what to tell you.  Kids, teens especially, are cruel.  Some people will want to know you, but may be deterred from what they see on the outside.  No matter how much we all want to stop judging a book by its cover, we all do it.  We get preconceived notions of people by what we see. It's not fair, but it happens.  I don't think you're going to be able to get people to see the real you, no matter how dominant that part of you is.  

But, I think, to try to do that, you should join a club or activity that you like, and make friends there.  It'll probably be easier to let people see the real you if you're expressing it openly.  Also, be bold.  Introduce yourself.  Best wishes and good luck to you, and, don't listen to what others say.  You are who you are, and no one can take that away from you.

Answer 14

gsgs

Answer 15

I know it hurts to know that people are laughing at you, and I know it's just school, and those people don't matter blah blah but it does still hurt.

Just be yourself, don't be shy and don't let the pain show. If people can see that you're made fun of, and that you don't let it get to you, they will form an admiration towards you, because not many people can do that.

I personally am not overweight, I'm made fun of for other things, but now I will go off into thought about some comebacks that will make people shut the fu(k up and leave you alone...

If someone says 'You're fat,' look them up and down and be like 'You're skinny.' like it's more insulting to be skinny than fat. Or if someone calls you a whale, shoot back and call them a toothpick with the same bit(hy attitude they shot at you.

"I'd rather be big than be a bit(h."

I'll edit if I think of more.

Hope I helped(:

Edit:

As it was said above, it isn't easy to ignore. On the outside, you can do it, you can pretend to not hear what someone is saying, or just not respond, but if you hear it, you hear it, and it's d**n near impossible to not care when you hear it. Ignoring it on the outside, or, as I said, just not letting it show that it gets to you, people will eventually stop trying, and the comments about your weight will slow down drastically and eventually stop, so you'll stop having to feel bad on the inside. Obviously, when it doesn't get to you, you won't have to pretend it doesn't get to you, and you'll be happy on the inside and out, and start making a bunch of new friends.

Once you're happy and have friends etcetera you won't be so shy, and people will see you more for you, and the seldom comment made on your weight won't bother you because you'll have 10 lovers for every hater(:

Answer 16

It depends on how you want to deal with it. You could either exercise and eat healthy, start loving yourself the way you are, or both. Good luck :)

Answer 17

confront the people who make fun of you and let them know how hurtful it is to you and how rude it is.

Answer 18

unfortunately its school and kids are very judgemental and immature. i say that if they can't see you for the person you are on the inside then forget about em' anyway cuz its their loss in the long run

Answer 19

When your young you don't realize how cruel you can be, kids are cruel and it can hurt, a lot. All you can do is tolerate it as best you can. There is no sure fire answer. Try to excel at something to the point that you are the best at it in your school. I had a similar problem when I was in School, I was skinny, and geeky, Glasses and lousy hair, girls would laugh when I walked by in the hall, I never had a girlfriend  or went to any of the proms. The guy's wouldn't even talk to me, I felt very alone and depressed. I lost myself in learning how to play the guitar, that's all I would do, I had no friends, not one.

But revenge is sweet, oh yeah. A year after graduation I joined a band, not because I was good looking, but I could play the h**l out of a guitar.

The band  went on to National prominence, charting two songs in the top 40, one went to # 7, one night when we were appearing at a concert, a couple of girl's I knew from High School came up to me and said, "we know you" I just looked at them and laughed. I know that sounds silly, but it was so sweet. That was more than 40 years ago and I still can remember it like it was yesterday.

Just bide your time, your day is coming.

Answer 20

If they call you fat, say the classic "Your mom is fat" dis to the other person.

Answer 21

there are bullies everywhere and I know how you feel.  You'll probably want to punch whoever is teasing you but if you find people that like will care for you and will have your back and defend you. Then you'll see that people will like you more (it works for me)

Answer 22

Kids are mean, don't worry, you know your a good person. The people who make fun of you are just insecure with themselves and it makes them feel better to make other people feel bad. In time you'll see what I mean

Answer 23

start a diet plan exercise and get great results i recommend a bow flex machine that helps your waist thighs hips and chest or any other brand//eddy

Answer 24

just inore them