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Why do you think my fiance's ex doesn't want to be friends with me?

I'm trying so hard to be friends with her. I think she is upset that I called her up and told her that I was pregnant she might of wanted my fiance to call her. I just want to be friends because technically we are all going to be family right? I mean with me marrying her ex and they have a son together and the new baby with be there sons step brother or sister.

I called her and invited her to dinner and she was very rude to me. I was thinking of bringing the dinner to her house. Is that a good idea?

Also why is everyone telling me to leave her alone?

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just let it go honey....worry about your family your baby and your health, ex's are hard to be nice to unless they let you. believe me i know my hubby has 2 baby mothers 1 of them i get along with enough for the kids sake i mean we dont kick it or nothing that's just going to far but the other 1 one day she's cool(texting me and stuff) then i next day she asks as if she has a problem with me so i let it go. f*** her! just get over it u dont need her in your life as a friend trust!
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There's hot girl! How goes the afternoon??

If she is rude, then leave her be. Try again next weekend, or have your fiance invite her.
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Are you serious? This isn't Reba. In real life most ex's really don't want to have anything to do with their ex's new fiance. There could be some hurt there still. Especially when she has kids with him. Just be polite to her, but I wouldn't expect to be a big happy family. She probably feels as if your rubbing in the fact your having his baby. Are You? If everyone is telling you to leave her alone then possibly you are doing just that. And you should leave her alone.
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It's because she is HIS EX. and they have a kid. She may not be ready to get along with you. I would let it go.

Your more mature then she is.
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well are you the first girl he has dated since his divorce from his wife if so that may be it she is not comfortable with idea of him running to the altar or maybe she just doesn't like you :) i am not friends with my ex's ex but that is not because i dont want to be but because we just never had the chance to be freiends :)
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She will never be friends. Invite her to your house if you like people doing mean things to you. She might even hook up with your fiance again, or maybe she still does and that's why he wants you to be friend's with her to begin with. Everyone says leave her alone because it's common sense. Btw love the heart shaped glasses.
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Are you serious? You have received all of the standard signs for someone to give you when they do not like you. The signs will only get worse. Maybe that is what you want to happen, you are trying to p**s her off. Play the game just remember the game plays back. Leave her alone and understand it is hard to see your ex with another person but here you are rubbing it in. Be Careful...
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Even though you'll technically be an extended family, she's shown that she has no interest in taking it any further.

If the time ever comes that she would be willing, it won't happen if you continue to push the issue.  All that does is fuel her fire.

My theory is, if you've got someone else on your mind, you're not giving 100% of yourself to your marriage.

To me, the time invested in your own business (marriage/family) will be better spent on getting ready for the baby and enjoying the free time you have with your hubby before the baby arrives.

Not worth spinning your wheels in a negative direction when you've got something more positive to look forward to...let her be miserable!
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Your coming off as a stalker for real! The woman has asked you to leave her alone why is it so hard for you to respect her wishes? And then for you to call and rub it in her face that your pregnant if that's really true what does your being pregnant have to do with her? Once the baby is born any interactions between the children should be handled between your finance and her not you when it comes to Their child! If I were your fiance your actions would make me think twice about marrying you. Your lucky she doesn't file a restraining order against you. Leave the woman alone!!!!
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you are really starting to get on my nerves. your repeat questioning is really retarded! find a book, damnit!
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LEAVE her alone because you are over-stepping your bounds. if the kids are going to know each other and be in each others lives, its for your man and her to deal with. Keep in mind that the true connection here was made by your man not you. You have a lil something to do with it but right now your over-stepping.....back off!
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Leave her alone. Why do you have to be a big family. That does not happen all the time. If your fiance wants to see his kid then he needs to go pick him up and see the kid then drop him off.... you can not all be a one happpy family! that is weird....Heck! if my ex gets married i would not wanna see my ex and his wife and be friends with her.... too weird.
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shes not ready to be friends with you right now she probably has a lot of anger and hostilaty towards you or shes jealuos. leave her alone for a while and let her come around when shes ready cause you know she will just keep being nice if you talk to her and just live your own life.
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Don`t be her friend. Her and your guy had something. Old flames never die, they just flicker. With her around, you may re-ignite the flame, and that leaves you out in the cold.

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For one thing get it right. The new baby will be a HALF brother/sister, not a step brother/sister. They have the same father so they are blood related.

They would be step siblings if you already had a kid with some other guy and you married this guy. His son and your child from the previous relationship would be step siblings and not related by blood, only by marriage.

Not to mention this question reaks of being fake so that's all I have to say on the matter.
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they are telling you to leave her alone because that's the best idea right now. right now, the ex is probably having some security issues. they did have a son together and it really hurts when two people break apart and have a kid. she is probably realizing what she could have done to change and kicking herself for not doing so. and telling her that you are having a kid by him just made it worse.

just let her calm down right now. don't call and don't go over there. from now on let your man call her. if you are reall hurt, then tell him about it. if he loves you then he will be just as offended as you are.

it will take a loooong time but eventually she will calm down and you guy's will be able to civil to each other. but until then just lay low and let her make the first move.

i wish you the best of luck!!!
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Everyone is telling you to leave her alone, because she doesn't want to be friends with you! How many of these questions will it take before you "get it"???
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Leave that woman alone. Civil is sufficient, friendship sounds a bit excessive. By the way if you show up at her house with dinner after she said she was not interested i think you would be like a stalker or something.
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Because you SHOULD leave her alone!

She's not interested in being friends with you....and she doesn't have to be.

Don't play mind games using the kids.
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If they were married to each other, then you are committing adultery with her husband................and I completely understand her being upset.

If they were UNmarried, but had a child out of wedlock, her being upset is probably due to him deciding to marry you and not her.   That is the problem when people have s*x outside of marriage.   Many times those who do, do not end up together in the end and hurt feeling prevail on one side.

In either case leave her alone.   If you are marrying her husband, then I would really reconsider.   Jesus calls it adultery to marry a divorced person because though divorced, they are NOT free to marry another---they are still joined by God, for LIFE, to their first spouse.   If that is the case, you should separate from him and spare yourself a lifetime of troubles by mixing yourself up with another woman's husband and their child.

Ps.  He still needs to take care of the child he created with you.

http://www.cadz.net/mdr.html

http://www.marriagedivorce.com

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bring her a really nice present!!! something so nice she cant resist and she will be so overwhelmed by the gift that she will totally forgive you!!!
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I wouldnt want to be friends with someone who rephrases a question 18,000 times in one week. I dont blame her one bit.
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She probably does not wish to be close to you. She may not have such a nonchalant view of the current situation.
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Don't waste your time on someone, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

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Holy c**p, dude. How many things are you posting about this exact same thing? Ask once, see what you get, then ask again if you don't get responses in a few days.

I wouldn't suggest asking her over for dinner if you're this annoying in real life. She'll hate you!
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It's clear she doesn't want you as a friend. They tell you to leave her alone, because you are being to pushy. What you are doing is close to harassment.
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DON'T bring dinner to her house.  Seriously, you need to just leave her alone.  Ideally it would be nice for you all to get along, but that's not the way it is and you need accept it.  She doesn't want you in her life and she doesn't want to be your friend.  Also, by you calling her and letting her know that you're pregnant is a slap in the face whether she still cares for her ex or not (I would be pissed.  Are you seriously this clueless?).  Just let your fiance deal with her, whether is scheduling pickups, whatever.

You better just leave her alone before it starts affecting you and your fiance (if it hasn't already).
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No dont just show up there. That's not a good idea. she doesn't like you, do you see that?

Everyone is telling you to leave her alone becasue 1 she's your fiances X, she's probably resentful, and 2 the more you try to push at her, the more she is going to hate you. leave her be.
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You are pretty annoying with your questions asked over and over just rephrased differently. I wouldn't want to be friends with you either, if your like this in real life.
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