Ok a little jealousy any help.?

Question

well i am 1 of ten children. (we all have the same parents.) i'm 14 and my little sister who i am jealous of is 11. well hears the problem my sister gets everything she wants because she's the baby, i can understand that to a certain extent, we recently went school shopping each of us got 4 outfits to start off the first four days of school and some of us got shoes thous who needed them, my baby sister got 3 pairs of shoes while my other siblings has gotten none. we go shopping once a year at the beginning of the school year, she gets cloths all year round, i ask my mom why and she says because she's easy to shop for and she looks good in everything. she still has things with tags on it and she's 11 i don't understand shes to young for that. we're not a wealthy family how could we be with ten children. and she lives like the rich and famous while we live like scrubs. i don't want it to seem like we don't get what we need or are not well taken care of because we are. but i don't think it fare that she gets everything because she's cute. my mom says she has no favorites but sometimes i doubt her. i love baby sis but sometimes i resent her because of the things she gets. am i wrong and how do i change the way i think of my sis i want to love her and be her friend she's a good kid but she gets everything i want, so you no my mom and i have a good relationship together. we talk a lot and we talk about this subject a lot especially when she comes home with something for my sis. i don't mind my sis getting things, i just think i should be gettings things too. am i being overly jealouse or is this normal.

Answer 1

Hi i'm one of eight and i had the same issues, but if you worry about the thing you don't have you will miss the things you do have. She will grow up and you will be the better for it having to get things on your own as i did and she will live out of their pockets.  

Answer 2

No, you are not overly jealous.  Listen, things won't change regardless what you do.  Your mom has her mind set this way and therefore you are going to have to accept it.  You are old enough to get a part time job.  Babysitting isn't bad pay but if you can find a fast food job, it would be steady.

Good luck and best of wishes.

Answer 3

Some parents really do not see when they are playing favorites. If this really is bugging you keep a journal of everything that you get and it's price. (this is important because little kids clothes is cheaper than teenagers clothes) also keep a list of your sisters new things. After a while show it to your mom. If that don't work talk to dad or grandma. They sometimes understand.

Answer 4

1 14 is not old enough to get a job in fast food, but u could hang signs in your local stores for babysitting.

#2 weather there a 2 kids or 10 kids, everything should b equal. I have 5 boys and let me tell you at christmas time they know everything. I was always hearing "how come he got that and i didn't" or " u spent more on him then on me"

What i did was i used a budget for school clothes. Each one got a certain amount to spend on clothes and a certain amount to spend on shoes. I had 1 that bought everything from the clearance rack so he left the store with lots more then the others. also little kids clothes are less then teenagers but being 11 and 14 I doubt there is to much of a difference there. BUT, you are both old enough to pick out your own stuff so maybe u could suggest that it would b fair if everyone got an equal amount to spend.

I remember (and this was some time ago) i allowed $50 for tennis shoes, my tight kid went to pay less and got 5 pairs and then i had another kid who got a paper route so he could by the name brand.

It is the only fair way to do it. All of my boys new what they would get to spend and if they wanted more they earned it.

Maybe your mom doesn't see the hard feelings that her favoritism is causing between siblings but when u have 10 kids u have to work out a equal budget for clothes and shoes.

Answer 5

this feeling is normal when the parents actions are to noticiable as in who gets what... just understand that its not ur lil sis fault she gets the things she gets.. most of them trust me its not what she wanted but ur mom wanted.. i agree with u all children should be treated equally ... but sometimes it just dont happen that way in many families.. it doesnt mean ur parents love u less..  they are more likely living in their kids what they wished they had in their younger years.. ten kids are way too many..she more likely knows this is the last child and wants to give as much as she can.. bare with ur mom this phase will pass..  good luck

Answer 6

you are being jealous and it is completely normal.  just be thankful for the relationship that you have w/ your mom.  enjoy it and enjoy your baby sister, maybe when she grows up some more, you and her will be the same size and you and her can wear each others clothes.