Ok here goes.....my ex-husband and I................?

Question

were married for 8 years, well I started fantasizing about being with a woman...well we invited our best couple friends over and after about 6 months of detailed discussion, soon the discussion turned into reality....wow was I amazed...we became swingers exclusively with them....well after about 3 months of this going on I came home one day due to I left my drivers license in my jean pocket and my husband was home well I came in thru the garage and yelled out for him but no answer......well I heard some noise and came to my sons room and my best friend (the swingers wife) and my husband were making love....I was furious....it was like a violation....the other 2 were not here....he and I had a blow out....he got pissed at me and left....soon came home but never apologized....a few weeks went by and we all 4 were at it again...about 2 days went by and my husbands dad was put in the hospital. Now we have a huge selection of friends....so the 4 of us go to see my father in law, while we were there my husband excused himself to go get coffee, well so did (my bff) (swinger bf) anyway, I went down some 10 mins later and they were in the lobby sitting in the sofa talking and looking gazing in each other eyes...I hit the roof again, I demanded that all this s*x and all of us is over..well on the way home we screamed and bitched and I yelled...it s over we are never doing that again, long story short, she divorced her husband and mine divorced me and now they are living together...I am going crazy...I love him so much, but he has eyes for her..and wont even talk to me...he wont answer his phone when I call, he wont answer any emails or texts....how can I ever get over this? PLEASE HELP!!!! THEY ARE talking of marriage.....

Answer 1

Do the same... go and get married to the divorced husband... you did the same too. you were both swingers and then see you all in h**l!  That's what I call consequences for a marriage based on swinging like a monkey.

Answer 2

Wow, I'm sorry to hear it. I personally could never do that.

Stop trying to call him. What happened, happened. Move on. Don't think about it anymore. Forget him. Try and move on. If you're ready for dating, try and go out. Move on.

Answer 3

He's gone. That's why swinging is not a good idea. You can't make him want to be with you. If he wants to be with you he will come back. Let him go and move on.

Answer 4

WHAT THE h**l IS WRONG WITH U WOMEN DON'T U KNOW U NEVER DO THAT IN A MARRIAGE. U INVITED THIS DISASTER INTO UR HOME AND NOW IT HAS BITE U IN THE ***. ITS TO LATE THE DAMAGE IS ALREADY DONE. U SHOULD HAVE NEVER ALLOWED THIS. UR DESIRE LEAD FOR UR HUSBAND TO BE WITH ANOTHER WOMEN AND THATS HOW IT ALWAYS ENDS UP.

Answer 5

Dang. Wish I had that much action.

Answer 6

You had fun while it lasted, but it cheapened the marriage to such a point, that it destroyed it. Worst of all, it was entirely your fault.

Answer 7

I wish I had a dime for every time I have heard this story. Marriage is monogamous. If you had done it right by remaining monogamous, he might still be with you. Put this in your experience folder and move on. If you ever get married again, keep it monogamous.

Answer 8

And you are confused why?  Seriously, what did you think would happen.

Answer 9

never could understand the swingers and all the things that go on within these kinds of relationships...

Answer 10

You won't like this, but this is what you get for violating your vows to forsake others.

It's called Karma, and you yourself opened the door to this whole mess. And frankly, I see no difference in having s*x with a non-spouse while you are there as opposed to NOT there.

I hope this makes you open your eyes a bit. Swinging is wrong, and it always ends badly. ALWAYS.

Answer 11

Marriage is a sacred union and when you bring other people into it in a sexual way you are only asking for trouble. Even though it all started as a little fun and there seemed to be an understanding, when s*x is involved feelings can get out of control because we're all human and that's just how it works. The fact that you allowed it all to happen right in front of your eyes make it even worse. You don't deserve your ex and neither does she, but guess what, he picked her and it sounds like theirs absolutely nothing you can do about it. Why would you let another woman close to your husband like that? It's just stupid and I'm sorry to say that you got what you deserve. Shame on you!