Ok i jus found out that i have the type 1 herpes thing? what next?

Question

I jus found out today that i have the type 1 herpes thing that i got from my boyfriend's cold sore when he performed oral s*x on me. i'm Sad! I am very upset but im ok cuz we have been together 6 yrs and we have 2 kids and we didnt kno u could get herpes like that.But what do i do now. And how will I kno if i will have another outbreak or whatever? and what are any helpful suggestions or tips? Is it that bad??!!

Answer 1

The same thing happened to both me and my sister with our partners - my sister's husband and my boyfriend.

A person with either cold sores or genital herpes is at their most infectious when they have sores, but can occasionally be infectious in between outbreaks.

It is very common these days. It is no worse than if you had caught it on your face from him and got oral cold sores like he has. People just freak out because they think it must somehow be worse on the genitals or something - but HSV-1 is actually milder on the genitals than it is on the mouth.

Genital type 1 only recurs in 50% of people - the rest never have a second outbreak.

Those who do get recurrences get them on average every 2 years, but it varies a lot in reality - I got 6 outbreaks in my first year  while my sister didn't get a second outbreak for 6 whole years.

Now you and your partner both have the same virus. He is highly unlikely to catch it off you, given that he has the same virus orally and will produce antibodies to it. It is VERY rare to get it in a second place once you have had it in the first for a while.

So in a longterm relationship I do not see protection as an issue. Obviously it makes sense to avoid contact when you have an outbreak, but apart from that I would go on as before. Neither I nor my sister has ever used protection with our partners since we caught it, and we have all been fine.

I have had s*x with my boyfriend while I have been experiencing an outbreak - I wouldn't recommend taking that risk but he has been fine (and he knew, we just got carried away).

It isn't that bad - it is a cold sore down below, just a bit of a nuisance now and then but nothing worse. It will never be as bad as the first outbreak again.

The only other thing is that if you were to have another baby and were having an outbreak when you went into labour, they might want to do a c-section/caesarian. My sister caught it before she had kids though and has now been married for 9 years and had three children by vaginal delivery with no problems.

Helpful tips? It is often triggered when you are ill or run down, so take care of yourself and watch your diet. Outbreaks, if you do get them, tend to get milder over time. If you do find you get outbreaks, get some valtrex/valacyclovir from the doctor and take it as soon as you feel the first warning signs of an outbreak - such as sore skin down the path of the nerves on one thigh or a tingling sensation - and the symptoms should go away again preventing the outbreak.

Above all, if you are in a stable relationship, just don't worry about it! It isn't a big deal at all. You shouldn't think about it any more than he thinks about his cold sores.

Answer 2

Ok well that's bullshit and im srry to hear it you should've known you can get it with any type of sexual contact or even kissing if he has a coldsore which he does he should've known all that if he had the disease but all is not lost no its not that bad its controllable there are a lot of things you should know you should know start a herbal supplement called echinacea since herpes attacks your immune system also start taking lysine which helps with out breaks you can also use tea tree oil on the sores you will know if you have an outbreak one you see lesions (bumps) again just go get a prescription of valtrex with herpes type one its not always on the mouth you can break out any where on your face they are called facial attacks if your not careful wash your hands a lot and be careful kissing your kids if you see any lesions you can pass it on to them between you and your husband you will probably be bringing on outbreaks to eachother now since you both have the disease so be careful also ask your doctor for a cream called zovirax it comes in 2 types 1 for herpes 1 and the other for herpes type 2 (genital herpes) this cream clears up the lesions right away with no pain or burning hopw I helped gudd luck  

Answer 3

I would say , make an appt and get to a Dr, for answer to your questions,

and medical treatment.

Good Luck

Take your boyfriend w/you

Answer 4

http://herpes.com/

http://herpes.org/

http://racoon.com/

Answer 5

So sorry to hear about your diagnosis.  I remember when I was first diagnosed with genital herpes.  I was a WRECK.

If you want to read more about genital herpes, I strongly recommend the website below.  It's easy to read, and has RELIABLE information about HSV.   I'll try to summarize the most important stuff for you.

First, there is no way to know if you will ever have another outbreak.   HSV1 genitally tends to have less severe symptoms than HSV2 genitally or HSV1 orally.   Even if you don't have another outbreak, it is still possible to spread your herpes to other partners, so you'll need to tell any new sexual partner about your herpes before you have s*x with them.  

Other than that, there really isn't much to know.  Herpes doesn't lead to other diseases or infertility.  It's not fatal.   In fact, most people who have it have symptoms so mild that they don't know that they have it.   If your symptoms are bad, there are oral medications that can be prescribed to lessen the symptoms, but nothing can cure herpes.

I have genital herpes - I don't know if its HSV1 or HSV2 but I suspect HSV2.   Honestly, I don't think about it very often (unless I'm answering questions on Y!A).  It's just not that big a deal to me anymore.  

The worst part about genital herpes is what happens in your mind and in your heart - not what happens to you body.  Once you get used to the idea that you have it, it gets much much better.

Good luck.

Answer 6

well oral herpes can be passed on that way, the same thing happened to me and i have been with my bf for 3 years but no kids.

keep track of your symptoms that is the only way to figure out if u are going to have another out break.

keep healthy and boost your immune system that should help keep out breaks down. also get on some suppressive or anti-viral medication. this will also help to reduce out breaks, and help prevent u from passing herpes on.

i know thngs are kind of tough right now but time really does make things better. also over time your out breaks should get less severe. BTW your bf doesnt know that u have herpes then u have to talk to him and let him know. u will also have to let future serious partners know that u have oral herpes.

Answer 7

It's a quite common virus that many people suffer from all over the country. Make sure you continue with your regular gynecologist appointments and control any future breakouts. You will usually be able to tell if you have a breakout-they tend to be extremely painful. Also make sure your boyfriend keeps his mouth away from your parts while he has a cold-sore. You already have the virus, so now you just have to focus on keeping it under control. Start taking the vitamin Lysine-it's an immune system booster and helps with controlling outbreaks. I recommend it to all my patients.

Hope this helps you and your's. Take care. :-)  

Answer 8

Well, I think you should ask for some advice from a doctor. They will be able to let you know what to do next and how to deal with outbreaks.

Also, doing a little research online will most likely help out quite a bit. There is so much out there to help you get through this and learn how to live with herpes--everything from support groups to herpes dating sites.

Take a look at a few of the websites in the sources box. I hope you find what you are looking for.

Good luck.