Ok i know this is goin to sound messed up but i just need to know?

Question

well this sounds twisted but i just need 2 kno. so theres this woman at my parents church whos married w/ kids and shes 43 y.o and im an 18 y.o girl. But it seems like EVERY sunday she stares/looks at me. This 1 time i turned around n as soon as i did we locked eyes for about 3 secs, i broke eye contact 4 a few secs, then i turned round again and again we locked eyes for 3 secs, mind u she was talking to someone. If im not at church she'll sometimes ask my sis where i am. She asked for my name twice, she asks questions about me. last sunday i walked to my seat, glanced over and saw her staring and smiling, so i smiled back. Today she did the same exact thing. i sat 2 rows behind her and she looked back at me 4 times. my sis has started to pick up on this on her own, so wat does this mean is she attracted or wat? o ya this 1 time she was talking 2 a bunch of us girls and she was like wow u all r beautiful and looked RIGHT at me, and my sis and bf noticed it...is she attracted, into me?

Answer 1

It's possible that she is attracted to you, but there are (as others have pointed out) MANY other possibilities that could explain this behavior.  Don't jump to conclusions.  Maybe you remind her of someone she once knew, maybe you remind her of herself from a younger age, maybe she just finds you fascinating for some non-sexual reason, or maybe it's just pure chance that she's ending up looking at you all those times.  Maybe now that you and she have looked at each other so many times, she thinks that the two of you are "eye contact buddies" or something.  There are literally TONS of possibilities.  As I said before, don't jump to conclusions.  

Heck...even if she IS attracted to you, it's not like she's going to rape you or something.  If she is attracted to you and decides one day to tell you so, just deal with her in the same way that you would deal with any other unwanted admirer--be polite, but firmly let her know that you are not interested.

Answer 2

werll first up , are you egoistical & think that ur super attractive ? ? 'cos if so, then maybe ur mind is probably making up such stuff to please yourself.

but chances are , she is actually a bi-oriented female.

eg- you remember Carol , Ross's wife from F.R.I.E.N.D.S  who finds out about her sexual orientation only after marriage to ross plus she has a baby with ross but she lives with her new partner susan.

more importantly , i've heard that g*y people have a radar sort of thing,wherein, they can know when they see a possible partner.

now the question is, do you have a secret fantasy ? ? maybe she gets the vibe from you.else y would she only isolate you from a big group of friends.

also , talk to ur sis about it n see if she's felt anything.

let me know how it works out.

good luck n p.e.a.c.e !

Answer 3

So, judging from the times you've stated, this is about someone who has looked at you for a total of what, 30 seconds all up?

Maybe she's trying to figure out where you buy your clothes, or what hair colour you have, or do you remind her of her aunt harriet.

She might be looking for a babysitter and be wondering if you'd be suitable, or she might think you look friendly ~ or in need of a friend.

Or she might be attracted to you. If you're not interested, simply smile back in a normal friendly way and then turn and talk with your boyfriend. She'll get the idea.

And even if she doesn't, and approaches you, you don't *have* to be polite to the point of saying yes to anything you don't want.

Just do as you'd do with any other invitation you wish to decline ~ thanks but no thanks.

In the meanwhile, try to stop dramatising what might simply be someone trying to make some friends, and choosing what she feels is a safe environment (church) in which to do it.

Cheers :-)

Answer 4

Ew, that's creepy. She's either jealous with some weird kind of obsession ( could be she's starting to sag and get wrinkles and she's remembering what it was like to be your age).  Maybe she's trying to figure out which one of your parents you look like, or she's actually attracted to you. Tell your parents your concerns so they can address it properly. You shouldn't have to feel uncomforatable in your own church.

She sounds "off" either way.

Answer 5

There are many possibilities. Maybe she just thinks that you are a pretty young girl. Or maybe you remind her of someone that she knows, or you could even remind her of herself when she was young. Perhaps she knows someone she would like to introduce you to. She is 43, married, and has children, often to people at that stage of their lives they see youth as a beautiful because it makes them think about their own childhood/adolescence. For her to call you and your friends beautiful was probably an innocent compliment. I have told girls younger than me that they are pretty and it was perfectly innocent. Accept compliments for what they are and take them graciously. I think that you may be reading too much into it, and sexual attraction is probably one of the least likely reasons. People notice others for reasons besides sexual attraction.

Answer 6

I would say yes, she is attracted to you and is trying to suss you out, in other words, she may well be a L*****n and is trying to see if you are 'up for it'. If you aren't then its best NOT to hold her gaze.

Most women over 30 do not go out of their way just to be friends with an 18 year old girl.

Answer 7

She might be. I doubt she plans to ravish you or anything. Treat it like anyone else who has a crush on you- reject or accept according to your own wants.

Answer 8

Troll.  You've asked this stupid question many times already.  Are you getting your rocks off reading the answers from all the people you've fooled?

Answer 9

Maybe she keeps looking at the spinach between your two front teeth.

She could be embarrassed for you but not know how to tell you in a nice way.

C'mon really.....How on earth do you know that she's looking at you so much, if you aren't already looking at her anyway?

Answer 10

why dont you go up to her and ask her directly why she stares at you, you could ask if you look like someone she knows etc. once the communication starts you may know the real reason for her looking at you

Answer 11

That is a bit odd. She may be attracted, she may have a mental illness, she may just be creepy. Who knows?

Does she wear glasses by any chance? I have bad eyes and when I am not wearing my glasses sometimes it looks like I am REALLY staring at people when I don't mean to .. I just can't see very well.

I would avoid her as much as possible if she makes you uncomfortable though.

Answer 12

that would p**s me off! I'd sit where she can't stare at you, where you can hide behind people and sit in the far back

Answer 13

either she's a perv,or you look uncannily similar to someone dear to her...a dead daughter for instance...sorry tho,i don't intend to sound mean...

Answer 14

seems like it thats a bit creepy no offence i would get freaked out

Answer 15

You must be really beautiful, and she is just wondering where her own looks have gone. LOL..just ignore her. She'll go away. Don't stare back at her, that will show her she hasn't a chance with you and you aren't interested, even though she may be.

Answer 16

She very well may be attracted to you.  As an 18 year-old you are an adult and this individual may be attracted to you.  It may be a simple misunderstanding where she genuinely things you're quite attractive but doesn't have a sexual attraction toward you, but it's entirely possible that she is homosexual and is exhibiting homosexual behaviour.

Answer 17

Have you even considered asking her instead of carrying on the dramatic charade of a 'creepy L*****n'?

You're an adult now, leave the 'I know what you did last Summer' solutions to schoolgirls.

Answer 18

If you're not interested you should politely ignore her. She's obviously not harassing you and it would be unkind to lead her on or betray any confidence she places in you. If you are interested then go with what you feel, because she obviously likes you. I'd advise circumspection in general though, if you get involved with someone that much older than you, especially when you're so young.

Answer 19

The previous responses proves what a s*x-obsessed world we live in.  I can think of a half-dozen reason to stare at someone besides being sexually attracted to them. You may look like someone she knows or knew -- perhaps someone close to her.  You might have a certain style she likes.  Who knows?  

But there's no point in speculating.  Why not speak to her, and find out what's on her mind.  Chances are, it's no big deal -- she just finds you interesting-looking.

Answer 20

thats really creapy