Ok i promise this is not about me!!!?

Question

ok like in the title this is not about me this is about my best friend. Ok she's 16 and she's been with her current boyfriend for 2 months but they've been sexual for like 4 even when she was dating her other boyfriend. now she tells me everytime they have s*x they dont use condoms because the supposedly break every time cuz he's too big. now she says he's about 8 when fully erect. my boyfriend is a little over 8 and we use regular condoms when we have to even though their a little to tight for him and magnums when we can get those kind. and not one has every broke for us. also she refuses to go on birth control because i guess in her family its know to blow them right up to be huge and she just recently lost like 50 pounds. she's had about 10 pregnancy scares no joke and each time they have came out negative. and doctors tests have come out negative. now i dont get it. he uses the pull out method once in awhile she says. is she just incrediably lucky or do you think she may have some fertility problems.

Answer 1

1. I didn't see a question...just a bunch of rambling statements!

2. Tell her friend she will be fine.

3. You on the other hand have been lucky, should be careful, & use protection. You having 10 pregnancy scares & risk of disease are playing russian roulette!

4. "ok i promise this is not about me!!!?"...Yeah right!

Answer 2

8? dats way 2 small 2 even get in there

Answer 3

Your friend sounds like an idiot.  There's no way a condom would break "every time" they used them, unless her boyfriend can't even put a condom on correctly.

It's also a myth that the pill causes women to gain weight.

Unless your friend is lying about her sexual behavior, she's going to wind up pregnant soon...unless all that unprotected s*x has left her with an STD that's already destroyed her fertility.

If your friend isn't embarrassed to go to the doctor for ten different pregnancy tests, she shouldn't be too embarrassed to talk to a doctor about safer s*x and different birth control methods.  In the meantime, you might want to consider finding some smarter friends.

Answer 4

He's putting it on wrong.  Trust me.  He is.

Tell her to use a diaphragm -- no hormones, adds extra lube, AND she'll still be able to have s*x when she's raggin it cause the blood will all get caught in the diaphragm if she puts it in early enough.  He'll never know.

Make the other methods sounds appealing and beneficial to her -- even if its stupid.  Obviously, the pregnancy thing is desirable for her.  

Answer 5

well if you ask me it sounds like she wants to get pregnant, if she makes up that many excuses. (iv done the same before so i know all bout that) but maybe you should tell her parents or something. and seriously i hate it when people tell me that but truly maybe you should. and if not just explain how concerned you are and maybe she will listen. (but doubt it)

Answer 6

Yes, she's lucky.  Her luck will run out though.

Give her a tip, condoms don't break because the man wearing them is too big. They break because of friction. She's not lubed eough. If they're already using lubricated condoms, she needs an extra lube. If she does that, they won't break anymore.  

Answer 7

I agree with April.  Your sister needs to seriously think about the reprocussions to having unprotected s*x.  You should print out some information on STDS and talk to her about the statistics over lunch.  I can tell that you might be a little young to deal with such an important issue- if you need help seek the assistance of an adult that she respects.  The last thing she needs to be thinking about is fertility problems. I'm proud of you for recognizing this as a problem!

Answer 8

i think she's just lucky, but they really should use condems. her luck's going to change one of these days.  

Answer 9

she's incredibly lucky..and stupid. The "pull-out" method does not work...and it does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. If she absolutely will not use condoms, there are vaginal birth control methods..like foam, diaphram, iud, etc...Try to talk to her and explain to her that she is too young to be able to support a child and that she is also putting her health at risk everytime she sleeps with him. If he's not using a condom with her, he likely didn't use them with all the other girls either...