Ok my dad has never wanted me in his life and after 11 years of my life do you think its fair to take me

Question

My dad never wanted me until he got married so i had lived with my grandma but he took us to court for custody do you think that is fair?

Answer 1

That is strange, and very hard for you to deal with.  You say he didn't want you in his life, didn't he visit you?

Maybe they were waiting for him to get a home, so he could take you with him.  Your G-ma should know more about this.

It isn't fair, but there isn't anything you can do about it...sorry.

Answer 2

fu** no my dad was married with two children already when i was born then he left my mom my little sister and me  but im older now and he tells my mom that he wants to see me and my sister but i dont like the idea so i guess it your own choice k hope it helps

Answer 3

Sadly in most states grandparents have no custodial rights to the child unless the child has been signed over by the birth parents legally.  Many grandparents raise children only to have them taken away years later by the birth parents whether or not they are better equipped to take care of the child.  You are old enough to request that the judge speak to you alone about YOUR wishes.  Explain as eloquently as you possibly can the level of care you recieve at your grandparents house and you are happy there.  Make it very clear that is the only real home you have ever known, and that they are the only parents you have ever known.  Giving you to your father would be like handing you over to a stranger.  The judge will listen to you.  

Answer 4

Not at all he should only see you every 2 weekends.Your dad is the same as mine,when he got my mom prengnet,he left and found another girl friend and when I was being born he wasnt even there until after I was born.Then,he didnt even sign the birth certificate.Then he started selling drugs and got in jail.Just when I turned 10,he finally got out of jail.I could say a lot more but I dont want 2 bore you.

                                        Its not fair for ur dad 2 get u now =)

Answer 5

Not really, I mean if he had financial problems and didn't have enough money to care for you, that would be believable. But if it's because he didn't want you and now he decides he does, that's just unfair.

Ask your grandma want she knows about the situation, and then go from there.

Good luck! =]

Answer 6

Not at all.  You cant pick and choose when you're going to be a parent.  You either are or aren't.  If you have been with your grandparents that long then it would probably be best to keep it that way.

I guess the question is, what do you want to do?  

Best of luck with this!  :)