Ok please don't be mean or lecture me but how can i stop disliking kids so much??

Question

..to me they just suck the fun out of life, and give you never ending responsiblity, and i end up feeling resentful towards them because of it. i am not a mother, and don't plan to bhe either, but i still wish i didn't think like this cos i know it's irrational and unfair on them in general, and many of my friends will be having them eventually..so any ideas on how i can stop disliking them so much?? i'm wondering if something in my subconcious has led to these feelings of resentment, cos i really can't stand being around them :S however on thing is, when i was little i was never really around any younger kids, other than ones in my neighbourhood, i was the youngest in my family and an olny child so that may have had something to do with it..

Answer 1

i hated kid's even when i was a kid.  I hated myself when i was a kid. I still don't like kid's.. They think they're so freaking smart.  I can see through them though.. They don't fool me one bit.  LOL. I really don't feel comfortable around kid's.  I had three, one girl two boy's.  I couldn't wait for them to grow up.  They are self centered to the max to this day.  Very selfish.

Answer 2

Oh my god i thought you were describing ME there, lol Everything you said totally matches how i feel about kids! I do my best to avoid any situations that involve kids (i cant get out the room fast enough)....and i find it impossible to 'goo-goo and ga-ga' over other peoples babies.

I don't think there is any way of changing your mind about kids, my Mum keeps telling me that ill change my mind in a few years and ill want them.....

Answer 3

i think that the level of dislike could be a problem. its fine not to like kids or want them but the fact that you cannot stand to be around them seems to me to be a bit irrational. i would suggest talking to a therapist or something to see whether your childhood has distorted the way you view children. and aside from that the next time you are in contact with a child, try to think positive thoughts and look for what that child/ children are doing that you like or find interesting, instead of thinking about the negatives of them.

Answer 4

Its how you feel, why feel guilty about it? I'm pretty much the same, unfortunately I'd had two of the little s***s before I figured it out - they live with their mother and her degenerate boyfriend now and thats better for everyone - especially me - which is the only one I care about at all in this equation.

Answer 5

It's not irrational, at all.  A lot of people feel the same way you do.  Why do you feel the need to change?  Honestly, I think you should learn to embrace your feelings, and just don't hang around them.

There are a lot of people in life that we're not interested in being friends with.  I don't see why it's different with kids.  If you don't like 'em, don't have 'em, and don't hang out with 'em.  

Truth be told, they probably don't like you much, either, so why waste each others' time trying to get along?

Answer 6

in all honesty i hated kids till i had my son...now i love MOST kids but not all.

when you have them they become your fun.....i suppose if your young there is no reason to love kids yet so dont worry

Answer 7

DONT BE HARD ONYOURSELF, IF YOU DISLIKE KIDS THATS YOUR CHOICE, YOU DONT WANT TO BE AROUND THEM , WHO HA S THE RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU, I GET IRRITADED WHWN KIDS ARE AROUND, THE PARENTS LET THEM RUN AROUND IN ARESTAURANT, AT POOLS, SO I GO TO HOTEL THAT ARE EXPENSIVE SO NO KIDS AROUND, OR HOTELSTHAT HAVE ADULTS ONLY POOLS, IF PARENTS TODAY WOULD TEACH THEM MORE MANNERS, I THINK I COULD TOLORATE THEM. I DONT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH SOMEONES KIDS, SO YOU ARE NOT ALONE. AND BEINGTHE ONLY CHILD IS VERY NICE. NO FIGHTS, NOONE TAKING YOUR THINGS SO BE HAPPY AND STOP BEATING YOURSELF.

Answer 8

What a shame you feel this way,children are such fun.You don't need to have the responsibility's of them 24/.7 if you choose not to be a mum, and good on you for acknowledging you have no Motherly instincts.But with a child you can become a child yourself, make a fool of yourself and come down to the child's way of thinking. They are Funny and loving,They learn to look up to you and even idolise you. Yes they can be little Brats,but not without a reason. My Life is my Grandchildren they keep me young and make my life worth living!

Answer 9

hang on if you don't like jam would you be asking people for ways of liking Jam ??, no.

if you don't want or like kids well that's up to you, you don't have to do anything you don't want so why change your view.

i really don't understand you

Answer 10

Different strokes for different folks.  You act like it's expected of you to have kids and it's going to be a real burden or something.  You don't have to these days with all the methods of birth control available.  Also, give yourself time.  You may decide you want kids after all.