Ok say if my baby's father decided he wanted us to chose adoption but I..?

Question

ok say if my baby's father(my boyfriend) decided he wanted us to give her up for adoption but I want to keep her and raise her.

and my parents would probably feel the same way too.

since i am the mother would i be able to keep her?

even though my parents and the father want to give her up?

btw i am 17 yrs old going to be 18 in november.

Answer 1

your parents or ur bf cant make you give up your rights thats your decision...talk to them and tell them you want your baby and wil do whatever it takes to care for her.....

Answer 2

yes u can keep her b/c noone can give her up accepted u so if u want her then keep her. forget about everyone that is telling u that u cant ..... make him pay child support that is probley the only reason why they want u to b/c they dont want to pay it..... keep it and be happy good luck i hope everything works out............................. forget the guy he sounds like a loder anyways             u can email if u need to talk to [e-mail]

Answer 3

Both biological parents have to agree to an adoption. So if you don’t want it no one can force you. It would be the same if you wanted it [adoption] but the father didn’t.  

Of course as said the father can terminated his rights.

Answer 4

well i hate adoptions plus what if some one else decided to adopt her and she becomes beautiful or famous then u wish you would have kept her i am so not saying that this will be easy  keeping her so many moms want to see there child and love them think off ur child when her birth parents didnt want her and she grows up with some abuse perverted family or she never gets adopted and she needs someonethere.one last thing what if her adopted parents tell her  ''SWEETie you were adopted '' now she hates those parents and spends the rest of her life searching 4 u .wondering were u r at but  i would still think that when u go to college leave her with yyour parents and send them money to help out with her and make sure you  always VISIT!!!!!!! VERY OFTEN! SO SHE KNOWS wHO HER MOHER IS AND THAT YOU LOVE HER OR keep in touch with her foster parents make erangments with them to see her get there phone number  and expln why to her as she grows up why u could not keep her always tell her u love her/him but the thing u dont have a option 4 is to GO TO COLLEGE GET A EDUCATION cause thats the most thing you need in life.good luck dont be preasured its your choice

Answer 5

well i think it is all up to u if u feel that u can raise a child at 17 ok if i was in this situation i would keep my baby because i dont want him or her to grow up knowing that they mother put him or her up for adoption. and after a while you will feel bad that u put your baby out for adoption and you will always think about your child and how he or she is doing and if your child is getting treated right cause most of them foster family abuse kids so gurl i would keep my baby and raise her to be better than me

Answer 6

You are the mother it is YOUR choice!!  No one can force you to give up your baby.  The father can however sign off his rights.  If you were choosing adoption and the father wanted to keep it, the father would get the child most likely and you could sign over your rights.  Just saying not both parents have to be on the same page and your parens still cant make you do anything.  If you want to keep your child you have every right in the world to...unless you are proven an unfit mother....well anyways quit worrying!

Answer 7

You have the legal rights of an adult when it comes to adoption.  But think about the reasons your bf and parents want you to consider adoption.  Don't let your stubbornness or selfishness sway you to think of yourself first.  Make sure your reasons are sound, logical and workable.

After all, you may not have their support.  Think about what is truly best for the baby, not yourself, and you will make a good decision.  Research parenting, join some teen parent forums and talk and read tons!  This is the only real way to educate yourself.  You can go to:

Teenage Parent - Life in the Fast Lane - Information about teen pregnancy, what it is like to be a teen mother or father, and what it costs to raise a baby for a year. Includes FAQs and links to ...

www.teenageparent.org/  

Take it slow, and make the right decision -- your child will depend on it!

Good luck!

Answer 8

The mother ALWAYS has the right to say, "I'm keeping my baby".  Unless you are completely incompetent, no one can take your child from you.  Not even the father.

Answer 9

Of course you would be able to keep her don't worry about that. You might have a difficult time getting child support from him though.

Answer 10

No one can force you to give your child up. To help prepare for the birth and to help convince your parents that you will be a good mother research a local nursery or two, see if there are benefits available where you work, get a job if you do not have one, save a little money before the child is born, etc... these things can help show that you are mature and can raise a child. Good luck and do what YOU believe is right.

Answer 11

Yes, you would be able to keep her.

Answer 12

No one can MAKE you give up your baby.... You do what you think is best for you and your child, period.

Answer 13

You have the legal right to keep the child.  However, since the baby's father will not be a part of the child's life then you are going to have 18+ years of non-stop hard-work ahead of you.  

You are so young.  Please consider adoption.  There is open adoption which allows you to remain in the child's life. This will give the child a good life and give you the opportunity to make a stable life for yourself and any future children you may have.  But please wait until you are married to have another child.  There are already too many illegitimate children in the world and it is unfair to them.  Good luck to you!

Answer 14

YOU are the only one who can give your child up for adoption.he can't make you do this.......

Answer 15

Don't give up your baby. It would suck growing up going from house to house waiting tell a family accepted you. like it would suck growing up knowing your parents gave up you.

Answer 16

you are the mom, the choice totally lays in your hands, no one can FORCE you to do anything (I am in a veeeeeeery similar situation, though Im 23 and living on my own)

Answer 17

it is ALL up to you and no one else,

Answer 18

your boyfriend has NO rights in this matter.

Since you are a minor your parents MAY have some say, but if you want to keep it and understand how hard it may be for you then thats what you should do.

Family court will act in the best interests of the child , as it sees them. That means that if you wll be on your own , no money and no job , the court may decide that you arent able to properly care for the baby.

Tell your parents what you want to do and ask for their support.

Answer 19

well you are the legal guardian, so i think you would be allowed to choose, they cant peel her off you.

if you show that you can care for a baby without depending on them and you know you can care for her, or have them interact with her and get to love her like you do, maybe they would be convinced. but if you cant take care of her, it wouldnt be a good idea.

you could also have open adoption, i forgot. where you can contact the adopted parents and still be a part of your baby's life.

Answer 20

if the father does not want the baby he can petition to terminae his parental rights, but the court may not let him do it just to get off the hook for child support.  

Your parents have no bearing on the decision, but if they don't want you too keep the baby and will not support your decision then you will have a real hard life ahead of you. Talk to your parents, since you don't know how they feel you may be worrying over nothing.

No one can force you to give the baby up. Period.

Answer 21

You cannot be forced to relinquish your parental rights by anyone. Your child will be entitled to child support from the father as well. Signing away his rights does NOT relieve him of his financial responsibilities...if it were that easy millions would do it and there would be no need for child support enforcement.

However, without family support, you need to be prepared to make a go of it yourself. It will be hard but it can be done

Answer 22

It's your baby too, whatever decisions are made should be at least joint ... or if you can't agree then yours.  It's your body, your child, your life!

Answer 23

My answer is the same to the other question.  No one can force you to comply.  But, that being said, coercion can make it seem like you have no other option than to comply.  That happens in this day of age and you have every right to worry about this.

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